How Do You Truely Help An Addict?
I have tried to help a family member with an addiction to pills. She was addicted to heroin and has done weed all of her life (since 12 years old). She is now 50 years old, so she has a lifetime of addiction. I am married into the family and my own family does not do these kinds of things. I have been a member of this family for 10 years, but only the past two years has the addictions been too much. Many of my husbands family is drug users. It is too the point I am having to take care of her as if she were my child (pay her bills, buy her food, cigarettes, take her to her appointments, clean and maintain her house, all the above). The drugs are eating her life. She spends all her money on pills. She gets pills from her doctor and then sells them on the street, then as to buy them back by the end of the month to feed her addiction. I have tried to stop the maddess by talking to her and even calling her doctors. The only thing I have succeeded in doing is having the family angry with me. My husband is her enabler, he makes her feel pills are okay. He told me that because of me she was going to go back to herion and probably die this time. Why should he put this on my shoulders? He thinks the pills are okay as long as she stays away from hard drugs. The woman has nearly set herself and house on fire for passing out after taking handfuls of zanax and then smoking a cigarette. The family sees me as being on a "high horse" because I have tried to help. I am seen as a snoot and the bad guy. My husband and I are expecting our first child, I am now at a high risk pregnancy as the doctor found issues in my blood that may result to genetic disorders of the baby. I am scared. I am afraid I will have a baby with health issues and when it is born I will fear him/her being around these family members. It is all too much. I have stepped up and tried to save these people and now I am worn out and seen as the B**ch! I have concluded it is easier to watch someone die from drugs than to try to help them. It is sad and disappointing, but at least when they finally die the struggle is over.