Big Girls Have Feelings Too

Hi guys,

This isn't so much a story as something that I will help other big girls out there who are feeling the way I have/do.

I can't tell you how to make it all the hurt of being big go away, but one thing I can tell you is that negative feelings will destroy you only if you let them. You are a beautiful young woman with the whole world at your feet. Oh, and you happen to be big too. Don't let other people define who you are!

I find that it can help sometimes to think about WHY you feel this way. For example, the other day some guy made a comment about how big I was. He laughed to his friend and commented that somebody should roll me back into the ocean. I went home and cried for hours. All sorts of horrible, very nasty thoughts were going through my head. But I stopped and tried to think where these thoughts came from. Were they mine? Did I truly feel that way about myself?

And the answer was no! I know deep down that I am a good person that is not defined by my weight and I know that you are too. Okay, so you're big. But I bet that all the hurt you have felt from other people has made you compassionate and caring. I bet the pain you feel from negative comments has made you realise that sometimes the worst wounds are ones we cannot see - and that you use that to support those around you with their problems, even if you don't realise it.

You DO have a name and it certainly isn't tied to your weight. Claim your name back. Shout it from the rooftops. Don't ever be ashamed of who you are because I can tell you right now you are a damn sight better than those people who call you names.

Yes, this is all very easy to say and not very easy to apply. We all have our bad days. I had one today. I have stayed in the house all day and felt sorry for myself, but I hope that by sharing this message something good can come out of my self hatred, even if it makes just one of you feel a teensy bit better.
PrincessN1 PrincessN1
4 Responses Dec 12, 2012

I was a fat baby, fat child, and fat adult. In my 60 years on this earth, I have spent most of my life (from my teenage years) starving - starving and then binging. I gained more back than I had lost. It was a nightmare of a roller coaster both physically and mentally. I topped out at 260 pounds (5' 4") and I gave totally up on dieting.

Then I met a doctor, He prescribed the drug, MERIDIA. It was a miracle drug. You see, there is a walnut-sized place deep in the brain called the hypothalamus and it is the control center for food consumption, (Look it up on the internet) If you are obese (100 or more pounds), you probably have a problem in the compulsive control center of the brain (the hypothalamus).

If you are being treated for an issue in the brain - like clinical depression or something - ask your doctor to add FLUOXETINE to your current meds. It does the same thing as MERIDA.

Both of these drugs change your eating habits, It's absolutely amazing. I, too, went to McDonalds (or some where like it) before going to a gathering. I got out of bed in the mornings daydreaming about what I would eat at lunch and dinner, A [fat] friend and I traveled together and we spent hours discussing what we could eat throughout the coming days, And more and more. I didn't realize how insane it was - until I got that little pill.

I lost 100 pounds. I never dieted and I never exercised (I do regret that); I never counted a calorie or denied myself anything I wanted. The deal was that I just didn't want it anymore. I could think of a hamburger and it felt heavy and greasy. I could think of a salad and it seemed perfect and wonderful. When I did want a hamburger, I ate it. I continue to take the pill, but in the last 6 years, I haven't gained an ounce.

Please talk to your doctor. If he doesn't give you one of these pills, find another doctor. In all my years, I've only had two doctors who knew of these drugs and understood my problem. Don't give up.

I love this inspiring story!

read my story i feel yah and all yall

As a guy who adores chubby girls(always have/always will)I wish I could hug and hold any girl who is hurt by the stupidity of others.I wish you well and you should enjoy your beauty no matter who you are!