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My First Installment Of Many... Introducing Cal ...

 

A few do, but not many of you know that Happy so far in this point in his life has not received the blessing of having a child of my own.

 

There are a myriad of factors for the reasons…. Ranging from mutual desire, financial and occupational incompatibility, fertility issues, relationship issues….. I could go on and on…

 

The later in life I get, the more the regret, disappointment and simply sad remorse are becoming the primary feelings….

 

Due to extreme unfortunate circumstances however, I have been given a gift that has no equal. A young man who I have taken on as much of the father role as I can. He is a bright shining star in my life that I have embraced dearly….

 

I do not want to go into specifics, but my brother and sister-in-law divorced several years ago…. An ugly as divorce as you can imagine with two beautiful children, a 9 year old girl, and an 11 year old boy utilized as pawns, messengers, and exposed to more vile manipulation than I care to share.

 

My brother shares the brunt of this responsibility, and while being physically close, has chosen to be the absentee father that he is. He does participate in the children’s lives, but has chosen a level and life path that is completely unacceptable in my eyes.

 

So let the journey begin, and let me share with you my blessing of fatherhood with my young nephew Cal…

 

 

HappySailor HappySailor 41-45, M 27 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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AP - No problemo my friend... I have lots of stuff share regarding this...<br />
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MF - Thanks Doll... Sometimes good things come from less than ideal circumstances...

That's really cool. It sucks that unfortunate circumstances on both sides were what brought you together, but it's so great that you found each other.

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Thanks for the info... and also for the extra insights.

oops - Thanks doll... We are both very lucky...<br />
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AP - The girl is doing pretty well, she is a little more resilient and outgoing even though she is younger... The real crux of the matter is the adolescent development of either gender. Unfortunately without the proper "father" role, each gender develops a certain, but much different deficiency... You won't know until your younger niece develops her personality, but I suspect she will be easier than the SN to handle!

HappySailor, I like you more every time I re-visit this story. <br />
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I have a question: How is your niece, the 9-year-old sister, doing? I ask because when my niece torpedo-ed into the world on 22 May 2009, I was hit by how different boys and girls are. I see myself kung-fu-ing imaginary enemies with my Stunt Nephew (aged 4+), but I just feel ridiculously protective about the girl. She is a lot more "physical" and assertive than her brother ever was, yet I would use a ray-gun to blast away anybody who would insult her or try to hurt her!<br />
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Thank you dog and cath!<br />
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HS!

HS... I knew there was a reason I liked you! {Well... maybe there are several but this one is the topper.}

HS... I knew there was a reason I liked you! {Well... maybe there are several but this one is the topper.}

Thanks cj... We're a lot alike my friend... And I like that...

Best of luck to you. You will do well raising your nephew. God Bless.....

Best of luck to you. You will do well raising your nephew. God Bless.....

FG-Thank you doll... More stories at the ready!<br />
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SR - *blushes* Thank you... I am the lucky one (+ I have you too)<br />
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lookin - Thank you for your sweet comment, immediate add forthwith!<br />
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wb78-Thank you! I am the lucky one!<br />
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LR- What can I say but thank you... (can I still donate?)<br />
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nyx- Thank you doll... TY for being nyx too...<br />
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aka- Thank You Ssssweeeets!<br />
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Sssweeeet!

HS, you will have more of a positive impact on that boy than you will ever know. God bless you, sweetie.

This young boy will remember forever how you've been there for him. You are giving him wonderful memories and a feeling of unconditional love. What an inspiration you are happysailor!

Sailor, you never cease to inspire me. I am touched and grateful that there are people with hearts as big as yours out there. Your nephew is one lucky boy to have an amazing uncle like yourself. *hugs*

I am so happy for you both. I look forward to hearing more.

I am so happy for you both. I look forward to hearing more.

*sigh* I think I punched Faucon too hard...

roj-WG - thank you so very much...<br />
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SG- I am humbled... yes... I wish too... (ps you are one pm behind) :)P*<br />
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*juvenile love punches Faucon in the arm*

Hey Happy, I knew you were one of the good ones and this just confirms it. May you and your 'son' enjoy loads of great times together he will grow to love you like a father cause thats what you will be. I just wish we were closer so you could adopt my girls they need a daddy figure too. You would be perfect.

I'm smiling. Good for you HS!

That's OK... I understand that you can't help it either....<br />
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It's part of the passionate forgiveness process...<br />
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You're in a great position to make a contribution HS. Sure it will work out very well for all concerned...

F- I'm going to try my damnedest not to sully my own nice story comment thread... And you know how hard that is for me....<br />
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But yes... If it helps.... You can call me Daddy if you like...<br />
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Aw man....<br />
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You guys are the sweetest and bestest on EP ever!!!<br />
I just posted this a few minutes ago and I'm already flooded with beautiful comments... Serves me right for walking away for a second!!!!<br />
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Faucon- concealing emotion with tomboy love... *sigh*<br />
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Next installment coming shortly!!<br />
(you're gunna love these)

You rock Happy Sailor....I can only pray that at some point you have the biological child you long for but it appears that Cal and you are both gifted with each other...I'm looking forward to hearing more about your adventures as a Dad. :)