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Who Has More Rights To A Chil


 
First of all I would like to apologize for the wording of the title it’s like I am talking about a piece of property and NOT a living breathing caring human being. But when it comes to children it is a matter of rights at times even if it is wrong in my eyes.   I am going to assume a few things first NIETHER parent is abusive or even mean BOTH are good people with right intentions. There will be NO spousal support given in any case. I am assuming that both are OK financially. The CHILD does not get to choose because placing that sort of a decision on a young child just isn’t fair.
Here is the basic question with some details to follow.
WHO has more rights or should have custody of a child in event of a divorce a Mother or a father?
First scenario
I will give is the classic one of a working dad and a stay at home mom. In this type of case we will assume the mom is a good if not perfect mom as NOONE is perfect. But she stays home and takes care of the house as well as the child who we will say is about age 6. Dad is a workaholic type dad that doesn’t have a lot of time to spend with his child because he is busy making money to support the lifestyle that they all live. For whatever reason a divorce ensues and custody fight takes place.
The stay at home moms argument for custody is a simple one she has taken care of all the child’s needs for the past and therefore knows what better for him.
The dads side is that he supplied the money and therefore can more likely be able to give the child whatever he needs in the future ( assuming NO child support either way )
Second scenario
In the next case we shall reverse the roles NOW the mom is the workaholic and the dad is a stay at home parent
The arguments are ALMOST the same
The stay at home dad says he KNOWS what the child needs but adds that by statistics a child raised by a single dad is less likely to get involved in bad behavior like stealing or drugs
The workaholic mom says that she has more rights because #1 she is the mother and because she can provide better for the child thus NOT giving him a reason to get into stealing or drugs.
 
Third scenario
This is more likely one in today’s day and age and a bit more complicated
BOTH parents work the child is or was in a daycare / school situation with slightly different aspects to it
The dad is again the workaholic type and the mom is the one who takes the child to and from school does his homework with him. Goes to school functions and all that it entails
They BOTH have same previous arguments
The busy working mom argues for custody is a simple one she has taken care of the entire child’s needs for the past and therefore knows what better for him.
The dads side is that he supplied the money and therefore can more likely be able to give the child whatever he needs in the future ( assuming NO child support either way )
So NOW we change it to be a workaholic mom
The busy working dad says he KNOWS what the child needs but adds that by statistics a child raised by a single dad is less likely to get involved in bad behavior like stealing or drugs
The workaholic mom says that she has more rights because #1 she is the mother and because she can provide better for the child thus NOT giving him a reason to get into stealing or drugs.
 
 
So thoughts?
And you MIGHT want to read my other stories to get my perspective
 
alexedad alexedad 46-50 1 Response May 25, 2012

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I too am also questioning these issues. Firstly, both parents work. Secondly, since the day the child is born, the mother looks after the child in the night while I do the rest of the supportive and direct role as good fathers do till all this while she just is barely pulling her own weight nowadays. Thirdly, she has jeopardlised the safety of our daughter so many times that I lost count and whenever it happens, it looked like accidents. Fourth is that when issues as such are not brought up till too late, you will hear comments from everyone why you did not do this and why you did this and so on. The worst is while doing that people are telling you that you are probably being paranoid, over sensative etc. Fifth, she sabotage every attempt I have to teach the child, family holidays and outings anything that is right.
Next you find yourself slapped with the writ of divorce and next the custody issues with the womens charter backing them. I no longer agree that women needs protection from any rights group etc as they are just as hideous and ugly as any man can be if not worse. I can only hope the best for my children.