I Am a Feminist
I stand against these forces as well. See Feminism in a major way has to mean speaking out when I earnestly disagree with a woman instead of beneficially hiding my feelings simply because She needs to be protected from my point of view. But it also means that if I feel the issues is so divisive that it would destroy a beautiful thing I would hide it just as readily as I would from a guy.
Equity feminism thoguh means that I believe that women have right to disagree with me. Today I think I confused a friend by havign a close friend who was pro-life and female, gasp, a cardinal sin on her part.
This might **** a lot of you off, I Don't know but for whatever reason Feminism has in a lot of ways aligned itself with this dogma that men SHOULD be nice therefore there should be no cookies when they do what they're supposed to do and while this is all true in it's own right it's frustrating as an ally because I do what I do not for a reward but I'm an old dog and the only way I KNOW how to be seductive is with my intelligence and my kindness and sometimes for whatever reason, sadly, when I am able to put the divide aside this has lead to being closer friends with the supposed anti-feminist women and conservative girls then Liberal feminist.
And why the hell does it happen? I could give you several explainations. Liberals are far more likely, sadly, to get caught up in invidious consumption because conservatives were taught by their upbringing to do exactly that, conserve.
Which means liberals are far more likely to want to have a partner they can show off who has a lot of money and Conservatives are far more likely to have dealt with situations in which they had to be greatful in a time period in which they didn't have much. To get to the top often means cutting back on ones expenses and not being spoiled. But liberals having been deneid everything CONSTANTLY Often spend money and EXPECT to spend money like a fountain. Partners often mean open doors for them and and if there's one thing I'm wed to other than feminism it's anti-consumption and anti-materialism.
This means that while i'm on the FAR LEFT I'm FAR more likely to find synergy with someone who had offensive views to a lot of progressives.
there doesn't seem to be a very ACTIVE Left wing that is aligned against consumption-Mostly Liberals want MORE for them and LESS for those who screwed them ove. They aren't like me thinking we need to stop being jealous (or at least if you realize you were STOLEN from to realize that you sohuld be greatful fo r the ones who love you...a small mercy rather than outraged at the theft) nd start learning to be greatful for the people in our lives rather than the ******* property we want. A ,larger income for me would mean moving out to a gigantic apartment-in a bad section of town and with and ugly exteiror to keep the rent low and getting a costco membership to buy my groceries in bulk and reinvesting the money so that it would actually mean something some day. I only spend stupidly as it stands because my money doesn't add up to enough to even be worth investing.
I don't know very many people ON The left wing, Male OR female who stand aligned against the evils of consumerist culture. I WISH I knew more.
I think a lot of this has to do with the confusion of the terms CONSERVATIONIST and CONSERVATIVE and how they no longer mean the same thing and yet ironically CONSERVATIONIST are often on the RIGHT politically speaking... You don't tend to meet as many progressives who have woken up to the evils of the consumer culture enough to think it ammounts to a gigantic distraction between the genders.
In short it's the conservative minded people who would tend to give me cookies anyways. Even if in the grand stream of things I was just doing what I should have done... and it feels good to be apperciated that way. Can you honestly blame me at the end of the day for not expecting to be thanked for it but binding to people I don't fully agree with when I am?
Equity feminism in a way means allowing people the right to disagree wih me on poltiical issues. IT would be sexist of me, to say that my friend HAD to be pro-choice. .. That's something i'll leave it to your ladies to convince her of.. Because from my POV It would be me engaging in a very vicious kind of enforced agreement with me who has no right ot be that as a male feminist.
I realize the double bind there might be "how can you argue that you MUST speak up if oyu disagree and yet stay silent on this" but the way it works in my head is that there are some fights worth having and thne there are some where the party in question is emotionally attached to their beliefs and fighting them tooth and nail on it will not profit me any at all. and when they only thing I can do by speaking up is destroy a freindship I wouldn't do it to a guy, so why do it to a girl?
Mostly however if there's room for traction I'll speak out. I won't censor myself.
Beyond that there's the Emotional Stability and Safe upbringing of conservatively minded women. The sad irony for me as an atheist is looking back at christian families and comparing them to the dysfunction of the rest of society.. Not that that same stabiity is not in jewish hindu and muslims households but without any foundation of how a family should be there has been an erosion of the family unit in a horrifying capacity. I Am an atheist but I have not viewed the break down of the family in a POSITIVE light. I am FOR LEsbian households, For GAY households, For adoption within them. I am friendly towards these things but I cannot help but pretend I have not witnessed chaos in the atheist community and a complete lack of solid foundation in many lifes that have not tied to any spirituality at all.
I'm not trying to be mean and all but You have to imagine the enormous difference in attitude growing up in the Slums with a father who left you vs Growing up in the suburbs would have on someones atittude.
I don't think Equal rights are the cause of the break down of the family unit but the descent of certain people upon losing their faith into total nihilism. There's the baby and then there's the bad bath water. unfortunately people tend to throw BOTH out. What is needed is NOT a return to Traditional values but NEW values. NEW ethics.
Not NO Ethics.
Equity feminism thoguh means that I believe that women have right to disagree with me. Today I think I confused a friend by havign a close friend who was pro-life and female, gasp, a cardinal sin on her part.
This might **** a lot of you off, I Don't know but for whatever reason Feminism has in a lot of ways aligned itself with this dogma that men SHOULD be nice therefore there should be no cookies when they do what they're supposed to do and while this is all true in it's own right it's frustrating as an ally because I do what I do not for a reward but I'm an old dog and the only way I KNOW how to be seductive is with my intelligence and my kindness and sometimes for whatever reason, sadly, when I am able to put the divide aside this has lead to being closer friends with the supposed anti-feminist women and conservative girls then Liberal feminist.
And why the hell does it happen? I could give you several explainations. Liberals are far more likely, sadly, to get caught up in invidious consumption because conservatives were taught by their upbringing to do exactly that, conserve.
Which means liberals are far more likely to want to have a partner they can show off who has a lot of money and Conservatives are far more likely to have dealt with situations in which they had to be greatful in a time period in which they didn't have much. To get to the top often means cutting back on ones expenses and not being spoiled. But liberals having been deneid everything CONSTANTLY Often spend money and EXPECT to spend money like a fountain. Partners often mean open doors for them and and if there's one thing I'm wed to other than feminism it's anti-consumption and anti-materialism.
This means that while i'm on the FAR LEFT I'm FAR more likely to find synergy with someone who had offensive views to a lot of progressives.
there doesn't seem to be a very ACTIVE Left wing that is aligned against consumption-Mostly Liberals want MORE for them and LESS for those who screwed them ove. They aren't like me thinking we need to stop being jealous (or at least if you realize you were STOLEN from to realize that you sohuld be greatful fo r the ones who love you...a small mercy rather than outraged at the theft) nd start learning to be greatful for the people in our lives rather than the ******* property we want. A ,larger income for me would mean moving out to a gigantic apartment-in a bad section of town and with and ugly exteiror to keep the rent low and getting a costco membership to buy my groceries in bulk and reinvesting the money so that it would actually mean something some day. I only spend stupidly as it stands because my money doesn't add up to enough to even be worth investing.
I don't know very many people ON The left wing, Male OR female who stand aligned against the evils of consumerist culture. I WISH I knew more.
I think a lot of this has to do with the confusion of the terms CONSERVATIONIST and CONSERVATIVE and how they no longer mean the same thing and yet ironically CONSERVATIONIST are often on the RIGHT politically speaking... You don't tend to meet as many progressives who have woken up to the evils of the consumer culture enough to think it ammounts to a gigantic distraction between the genders.
In short it's the conservative minded people who would tend to give me cookies anyways. Even if in the grand stream of things I was just doing what I should have done... and it feels good to be apperciated that way. Can you honestly blame me at the end of the day for not expecting to be thanked for it but binding to people I don't fully agree with when I am?
Equity feminism in a way means allowing people the right to disagree wih me on poltiical issues. IT would be sexist of me, to say that my friend HAD to be pro-choice. .. That's something i'll leave it to your ladies to convince her of.. Because from my POV It would be me engaging in a very vicious kind of enforced agreement with me who has no right ot be that as a male feminist.
I realize the double bind there might be "how can you argue that you MUST speak up if oyu disagree and yet stay silent on this" but the way it works in my head is that there are some fights worth having and thne there are some where the party in question is emotionally attached to their beliefs and fighting them tooth and nail on it will not profit me any at all. and when they only thing I can do by speaking up is destroy a freindship I wouldn't do it to a guy, so why do it to a girl?
Mostly however if there's room for traction I'll speak out. I won't censor myself.
Beyond that there's the Emotional Stability and Safe upbringing of conservatively minded women. The sad irony for me as an atheist is looking back at christian families and comparing them to the dysfunction of the rest of society.. Not that that same stabiity is not in jewish hindu and muslims households but without any foundation of how a family should be there has been an erosion of the family unit in a horrifying capacity. I Am an atheist but I have not viewed the break down of the family in a POSITIVE light. I am FOR LEsbian households, For GAY households, For adoption within them. I am friendly towards these things but I cannot help but pretend I have not witnessed chaos in the atheist community and a complete lack of solid foundation in many lifes that have not tied to any spirituality at all.
I'm not trying to be mean and all but You have to imagine the enormous difference in attitude growing up in the Slums with a father who left you vs Growing up in the suburbs would have on someones atittude.
I don't think Equal rights are the cause of the break down of the family unit but the descent of certain people upon losing their faith into total nihilism. There's the baby and then there's the bad bath water. unfortunately people tend to throw BOTH out. What is needed is NOT a return to Traditional values but NEW values. NEW ethics.
Not NO Ethics.
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26-30
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