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Being A Girl Gamer

Okay, so, as a girl gamer, I seem to get a lot of heat from the gaming community. Why is it that I can't be a female and a gamer at the same time? Why to people feel the need to think I'm fake just because I play Halo? I play games more for the gameplay than the graphics just like any other "traditional" gamer and I appreciate a beautiful game for what it is like a "new age" gamer. Does anyone else have this issue? Edit: I'm not saying I'm bloody special, I'm using this as a general statement that I happen to be included in. Girls should not be discriminated against in the gaming community. Stop assuming stuff and just take it how it's delivered. Okay? Good. Edit 2: Halo is not even on my top 10 games. It's simply a game I enjoy and one that everyone can relate to, along with being one of the biggest hubs of discrimination. For instance, does anyone know what ZP2KX is? Probably not many ;P
TheRose202 TheRose202 18-21, F 85 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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It's because of the fake female gamers who suck on controllersn

Maybe your fake too

Go girl go..ignore those idiots

Girl Gamers are just as real as male Gamers. Those who disagree are both superficial and sexist. Rose, keep brushing off the haters. I'm a gamer but a Retro Gamer! I don't get the new consoles but I'm happily stuck in the 8 and 16 bit era! being 32, might be my age and remembering when games were simple and when your Snes or Sega Genesis didn't die of a RROD :D I had an X Box 360 but used it for retro games from XBL XD! saying that though the new games are impressive and you wouldnt be palyin Halo if there wasn't Pacman or pong!

The gaming community is jam-packed with monobrow males. Given time, those will be weeded out and more evolved pla<x>yers may take their place. We can hope :-)

ZP2KX was my cup of tea. Lol

well not being an online gamer myself I don't understand the conflict either.

in your opinion why do you feel that it is you are look down upon?

I definitely agree. I think it is a sad reflection on the maturity of the gaming community as a whole that *gasp* GURLZ WITH COOTIES always inspire such a huge reaction.

There were jokes going around awhile ago about girls can't play games on the net. I know a lot of female gamers, they are excellent players in many different genres of game. I have also been handed my backside by a few women gamers in war games. Gaming has no place for gender issues, its a place we are all equal and should be judged on ones skill not gender. ZP2KX is Zombies and Pterodactyls an indie game for xbox,
Happy gaming.

I have the same problem as you, whenever someone befriends me on a game they ask whether I'm a male or a female, I mean, does that matter? We've come together merely to play games not to find out our gender which defines how you'll treat us. I really hope in the future gamers will identify us female players as gamers too.

Well at least you really know how to play. There are some women who act like they know sports they jump up and cheer with the crowd. Then asked me to explain what just happened. My favorite is when they want to go to the snack bar in the middle of the game.

And here we go with the stereotypes :P

Zombies and pterodactyls!!!!!!

*Waves from one female geek to another . . . and one who also humours 'the King'

Yus =w= I love that game, but it's pretty dead now T.T

I find it hard to believe you are receiving as much flak as required to write a damn story about it. I just refuse to accept it as fact. Anyone who rags on you is most likely underage. And a virgin. I say virgin, because a true gamer would flip **** over a TRUE gamer girl.

I actually don\'t particularly care whether you accept it as fact or not :P Nerd culture is becoming more and more of an \"exclusive\" thing. One of the worst parts is that if a girl actually enjoys something nerdy, then they\'re forced to prove it in some way or another.

That\'s a bit unfair to you.

I think the "heat" you're getting is that guys believe only 2 scenarios are likely: either you are a man posing as a girl or you are only pretending to enjoy games that aren't pretty. I think that "nerd culture" is less exclusive than ever because there are increasingly many outlets that count as nerdy. So what you find now is a much larger number of people ironically acting out the belief that nerd culture should be exclusive.

I don't even care, man. And I used to have a mic on my Xbox (until I broke it out of rage >.>) and people still tried to troll me for being female.

Lately I'm playing a FB game that I ought to consider crappy, but somehow it hooked me. I would pay to see you nerd-raging at the screen and slamming your fist on your desk. +naked

I'm calmer than most gamers I know when something doesn't go my way. It's hard to take gaming setbacks seriously after playing Diablo on hardcore mode. Permanently losing your character and all of its gear that took weeks or months to acquire changes one's perspective. I also keep my nerd-rage to a minimum as not to disturb whichever of my three cats is currently sleeping on my mousepad.

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Hey im josh from sydney..... gamer cod.

CoD doesn\'t even count.

I think it's cool as hell because there aren't a lot of them :D

you are just a gamer, being female does not make a difference. its like saying i like to cook and im a straight guy.

It makes a difference in the eyes of the gaming community, which needs to ******* stop.

well it won't stop, just don't let it bug you. i get called gay all the time because i love to cook so its pretty much similar.

I think you're gay if you -don't- like to cook. Partly because most women love men who can cook.

in my opinion its the more the merrier. some game well,some dont, just as with the guys, in short if ya like playing games and people wanna give a hard time, thats what iggy is for, they're not worth the silicone their playing on

Gamers are a bunch of trash talkers. You should just out trash talk them.

I might have been born trapped in a boy's body-and therefore need a Gender Change to set stuff right, but I'm a Girl & I'm a Gamer too. Who here knows Mario & Sonic at the Olympic Games, Ninja Gaiden: Dragon Sword, or Lego Ninjago for Nintendo DS? I also want to get my hands on Ninja Gaiden: Shadow for Gameboy.

Sonic is dead, and Mario is quickly descending as well :P How old are you, if I may ask?

Well I wish u had thought better of it before typing "Sonic is Dead and Mario is Quickly descending" (Especially "Sonic is Dead") Forget about learning how old I am unless u can apologize.

Sonic -is- dead. It gets a free pass because it's a classic, but all the modern Sonic games are balls. Have you ever played a modern Mario game? They're getting worse and worse, too.

24, going to be 25 the 25th of this July. Y do u ask?

Just wondering. Mostly wondering if you can buy M rated games on your own. Go out and get something better than the Wii, because Nintendo has been bombing badly ;P

What's "Better than the Wii"? I agree it's not so Good, as I get bored after about 2 minutes, but... I've got a 3DS and that's fun! I can browse the web, watch Netflix shows/movies, Camera, Sound recorder/editor...

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I would think being a girl gamer you get tons of guys interested in you constantly.

Some. But mostly they just look down on me and call me fake. That is, until I utterly wreck them.

Lol. Nice. That's actually really not. Now I wish I knew anything about video games lol.

I'd think after you wreck their dumper they'd be more likely to call you a guy pretending to be a girl.

That happens plenty, too &gt;.

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Most folk who have issues with girl gamers do so simply because they feel somehow made to be less!! I love the fact girls out there are willing to get up and game it make for a better challenge!!

I am glad there are female gamers and anyone who has a problem with that needs to grow up. I am an adult male who loves video games as for me it's relaxing.

Hear hear!

nothing wrong with girl gamers infact I think its a growing trend these days.
I don't mind when other players message me and call me dude or man, I would rather they assume I am "one of them" then hit on me

Personally I see us all as gamers. Not gamers and girl gamers. We are in it for the love of the games.

I am also a girl gamer and completely agree with you on the fact that I also play games for the story line and graphics. On occasion I get on call of duty to just "point and shoot" and not having to think. If i'm not with my friends I don't like talking because of this issue. It's absurd of how bad it gets but over the years I've learned to tune it out and I don't hear it anymore. I don't see why it's such a big deal that a girl can play games. It shouldn't be an issue but for some reason it is. It's mostly on the console too. I've not ran into it as much on the PC when i'm in voice chat.

Girl gamers don't really exist, this is some trick! That myth got "nerfed" last year at launch. Hmph. <br />
j/k<br />
Take it how its delivered? (squeals) Well... ahem. I think, Miss Rose that there is just a playful trend that circulates through the gaming community that most gamers are guys until proved innocent. The reason is because there are a lot of guys that would pretend to be girls in MMO's and such so us fella's who have common sense don't make hasty assumptions.<br />
I have met a lovely lady who could match my DPS parse (after I trained her) so i know they exist. <br />
As a matter of fact I am going to make a group right now called "I believe girl gamers exist" lmao.

Pah, who needs to be taught how to do a lot of DPS? ;3 And really, it's gotten to the point where if people ask if I'm female, I'm just like "****, man, Iunno!" which of course immediately makes them assume I'm not. No lying and they think I'm a guy. Win-win ^.^

Love it. Golf clap to you good sir! Keep up the good work. ;) But in her defense I was training her on the Illusionist class and she had never played it before. We raided in EQ II for 5 years together. Her main was a Sorcerer and she was best on the server (when she tried and wasn't being a fat emo cow about someone not buffing her). &gt;.&gt;

XD That last part...

Once your a gamer your always one Onica. ;) We just go into temporary retirement.

I went into exile for years during the age of the Wii because of all my beloved games being put on that worthless PoS system. Just sayin'.

Not sure about console now since i went full PC a while back. But here is an interesting link you might like for emulators. The Game Boy Advance and DS are cool.

You can play these on your PC. Its kinda naughty I think but whatever. lmao

Aardwolf is meh. Try OtherSpace for good RP. :P Aardwolf is way too coded for me. Everything's all cookie-cutter. Text games are about imagination, and that game has none.

Psh, perfect world. Eye candy without a ton of depth :P

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Nothing wrong being a girl gamer. In fact, I think it is great :-) My wife hates when I spend a few late night playing a game. I can't do it often but once a month on Friday night is my game night. Great stress releaver

I'm always a healer/buffer because no one disrespects them or they don't get heals ;P

Not on WoW, though, because I hate WoW.

Btw, when did they make Neverwinter Nights an MMO?

i myself am a girl gamer/geek, my thing i notice is that often us girls don't want the attention. another thing i have noticed in my time in online games is that people use rl pictures of before they got into games cause getting into gaming can be fairly consuming and end in overweightness... *sigh* i don't want to be overweight but yeah.. (i personally have used being a girl to my advantage in mmorpgs :) girls always get help from both sexes as long as you use the right words lol)

Oh look and here she is! Meow. The lovely Tamikay, goddess of destruction.

goddess of true destruction, aoe death princess, the fabled downs syndrome puppy!

Aka misses "wherethefuckismytimecompressionat" eh?

thats tamika rezzplzkkthx

Oops, wrong comment thread &gt;.&gt;

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It's not just that you are a GIRL gamer, it's that you are a HOT girl gamer, which is a lot more rare. When you drop a hot girl into a community full of males there's bound to be some drama that comes with it! take it as a compliment :P

XD Well, if you insist :P Still, you'd think they'd be nice instead of being ******** (talking in general here, some are nice)

haha yeah..some nerds are pretty socially awkward. I try to just be the bigger person and guide them down the right path :P

I am a chica and I am a gamer. I have been since I was three/four years old. I'm not saying I'm the absolute best gamer but I do enjoy video games. Currently, I like Skyrim. I've tried Fry Cry 3 but not so sure about it. My husband is also a gamer - more dedicated than me but honestly, I enjoy watching him play :) We actually met online on a MUD; I wouldn't recommend the particular MUD we were on; 4Dimensions because a lot of the admin are corrupted and absolutely disgusting. There's only ONE Admin that I get along with and stay in touch with; the rest are absolutely lame (at least the ones I knew of before I left).

My husband and I both don't really play MMORPGs because there are a lot of cheaters that take advantage of people who just want to play the game.

We both are also part of a table top group in London which we technically have been members of even before we got married (six and a half years now) and we even play in seperate groups from time to time.

Because I'm not really into MMORPG, I don't get discriminated against because I'm female. When I play with my table top group, I hold my own as a character; I get no special treatment however, when I play with a few certain guys, their characters treat me almost like a little sister that they look out for but I also look out for them! :) Especially in a party split! Mwhahaha

I've also done 2.8 Hours Later which is a zombie game ran by Slingshot; they basically take over a city for three hours and you have to survive. Unfortunately I did not because a zombie in purple scrubs (the people who train all year for the event) caught me but otherwise, I played it like a rogue.

Anyway, I can understand your plight; guys thinking that you suck because you're a chick. Honestly, a guy can sweep through an area quite quickly however, I found I'm more observant about items and npcs than my husband and I'm sure you are too!

I wouldn't be caught dead playing WoW, it's basically a cheater's wet dream. Almost like the violent version of Second Life. If I were to play an MMORPG it'd probably be DayZ :D I don't play Halo because 1. I'm not a XBOX fan and 2. I don't really like SciFi games (Red Faction was the furthest I'd go).

I just thought I'd comment :) Don't let those jerks get to you - I bet they get killed by chicks all.the.time mwhhaha :D

You play MU*s? Try OtherSpace. It's the best MUSH I've found yet :3

1st: There are no girls on the Internet. If you claim to be one, you're fake.

2nd: Girls tend to suck. However, my gf was probably one of the top healers in WoW until we got bored and left. However, she, unlike you, seems to realize that she is part of a very very small minority that can actually hit buttons properly.

3rd: Halo is not a real gamer's game. That too screams FAKE.

4th: Girls that aren't discriminated against tend to scream discrimination when being treated fairly if they disagree with a decision anyways. Ever heard: "I need feminism as an excuse to beat my wife"? Same goes with discrimination, no matter what you do, you're discriminating, might as well do it just because you can.

Let me just say this to start off: **** off, you pretentious bag of dicks. Now that I have that out of the way, let me address your response one section at a time

1. ...I can't even. That's Just no.

2. A stupid as hell generalisation made by someone who clearly knows nothing about the opposite sex. Not to mention WoW is a sack of generic **** made to leech money off people who are too shortsighted to see that there are games just like it, a lot of which are better.

3. Halo is an example that everyone can relate to, because it's wildly popular. If I said the X-series, or ZP2KX, or Mount and Blade, people would just be like "what's that?". Once again showing your ignorance.

4. ...What? That's ******* stupid. You're likely one of those ******* guys who's all like "OMG, THERE'S A GIRL HERE. SUCK MY **** AND GET OFF XBOX LOL HURR DURR."

Actually, I'm more like, "there are no girls on the Internet", then I proceed to playing the game.

And trust me, WoW is a sack of generic **** that has more players playing and paying per month than any other game after that long. I wish I had created that sack of "****". Nice to see yet another elitist that doesn't understand the gaming world. The story itself is generic, but the game and the mechanics (you claim to care for) were at the time revolutionary. Sure its old now, but 9.6 million still playing old.

PS: Wait on FFXIV - for too many reasons.

It doesn't matter whether or not it was once revolutionary. It's now generic. ******* pong was once revolutionary. Nobody plays that anymore...well...almost nobody.

And Final Fantasy is another one of those series that I sort of despise. They should've stopped making them after at most the seventh.

Its why I quit playing it. Because they stopped introducing novelties (that, and finding good players was a bigger challenge than the game itself)

The thing is, a lot of those better games are -free-. Yeah. Big difference.

I've tried a lot of free to play, they tend to be worse or pay to win. Pay to win makes it auto worse since they bombard you in-game with crap ads.

Play Fallen Earth. It's a damn good FTP MMO, even if it's not the prettiest thing on the market. Runs well on my **** computer, I don't care.

Looked and I cant support such a business model. I am a Pirate before being a Gamer! :) Looks interesting for those who want sandbox and say nothing exists for them. Gonna have to ask them their thoughts on it.

I understood that first half, but the second half of that comment is sort of lost on me. Say nothing exists for them? Lolwut?

Yeah, on various forums, people cry out that there are not any modern sandbox games out there, that its all theme park. So I'll throw that game around as if I play it and see what they reply to that.

Sandbox = no guidance (EVE)
Themepark = extreme guidance (WoW)

Lol, Eve. What a bad game. Space tax returns, yay!

I look at it this way:

If there was 1 MMO I liked right now, I'd be playing it. So I'm waiting.

You can't really know without trying them. How's that newish Star Wars one? I hear it's awful.

I cant try them all either. Also, when family tells me a game sucks and to stay away, I listen. They did the same when I said SW:ToR ... STAY AWAY.

With SW:ToR... Oh I tried, for Star Wars, not for the business model.
It would have been a passable game in 2001. In 2013, not quite.
Worse than WoW in everything.

Being a (huge) Star Wars fan, the part I hate most, is that it is not Star Wars when you play the game!

I only played past the first hour because you can hide the cash shop button in that game. So since EA scrapped the name, I now boycott everything EA too. :)

No Crysis 3 for me.

Starwars: Galaxies was good until they made it all WoWish. It's disappointing that there are no good Star Wars MMOs out there. The Star Trek one is playable, though!

Surprised to hear STO is still running. I was told to stay away by family and so I will. Its a trick not to have to try every game, trusting your family. I have cousins and brothers that play. If 1 of us says stay away, that company just lost 10 sales, instantly. :)

Well I find that it's silly to let others decide your fate ;P I try every game that I be honest, gaming takes up most of my free time.

Well, in a sense, we all know each other's gaming preferences. Also, companies need to pay attention their customers. Losing out on 500$ is a small deal, but if we count guilds and other small groups doing the same, it starts to add up. So if you want better games, sometimes you have to trust your friends to help the market change.

Well, I definitely listen if my sister says that a game's crap, but I usually give it a try anyway (you know, with those totally legitimate torrents) before making a final decision.

Torrents are legitimate! We are taught to share since birth, why should it be illegal once you're an adult. I choose humanity over profits. What is wrong is someone copying the game then reselling it, but that's counterfeiting, not piracy. Plus, my religion says its okay to do so, I'm an adept of the Church of Kopimism.

However, we just share the account with each other if someone really wants to see the game, its easier that way.

Yeah, but sometimes my sis deletes the torrents before I get a chance to check them out. It's a little annoying XD

Spank her!
j/k, dont know what to say to that, never had that problem :)

Just throwing this out there, you saying Halo is not real gamer's game, well you can just go **** yourself. You probably just suck a lot of **** at it and that's why you think that.

This is probably why the game is so aweful, because its target audience happens to be immature people like you. NEXT!

I disagree. The game has sort of a generic shooter feel to it, but it's still got solid gameplay and a good backstory, which is more than I can say about other competing games, like CoD.

Most shooters nowadays, like CoD, BF3, Crysis 3, Halo are cashgrabs to appease shareholders, I wouldn't even support such a business model. The second you cant choose your own server in an FPS, you know its not a gamer's game.

Again, I said it's better than its competetors, not that it's the best thing ever. I play it when I'm bored and feel like blowing up some aliens. And there are select few Xbox Live games I've found where you -can- select your server.

Yeah playing PC does help.
Natural Selection 2 not only allows you to blow up aliens, but you can play as an alien. Quite an interesting concept.

The 360 AVP game allows you to play as a marine, alien, or predator, which I thought was super fun. They all have totally different playstyles, too, which is rare in a game. Usually they're just slightly different classes worked into the same mould.

Yeah, same with natural selection, except that has 2 factions. The interesting part of the concept is that it is also an RTS as well as a shooter. (ie: 1 person is leader, all others are his squad) - Anyways, it does have flaws, but the concept is worth taking a look at.

Sounds interesting. I'll look it up later.

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