Looking For Advice

Iv just turned 18 and have known for a while that I'm not normal. I was seeing this guy for a while but recently sacked me off. I have never actually had gay sex, but love sex chats over the phone and stuff. I feel he didn't want me any more because I was scared to do anything physical. Please could someone give me some advice.

Matt Angell

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1 Response Jan 10, 2013

Hi Matt (AngellBoy)

Firstly you're probably wondering what a female in her forties is doing trying to help you lol. This is because I'm a Mum to three brilliant kids and my middle son, who is 20, is and has always known he is gay.

Now! what is this quote from you...

"I've" just turned 18 and have known for a while that I'M NOT NORMAL."

Define normal for me would you? A NORMAL society is one of the old, the young and those in between; of many cultures, ethnic groups, religious beliefs, the rich, the poor, the handicapped & those with full mobility, AND people of different sexualities and orientations. Shall I continue with my list of 'normality' or do you understand my point. Would you say that someone in a wheelchair wasn't normal? Would you offend me by telling me that my son isn't normal?

YOU ARE NORMAL!!! So let's just work at getting that out of your head please oh and whoever put that idea in your mind needs a good slap. If you're the one doing it, please go to the nearest mirror and slap away (once will do).

Now knowing you're gay - which I don't doubt - and acting upon it are two very different things. It's much harder than being straight and having sex with a girl for the first time. It's only natural that you are nervous.

This guy you were seeing did probably sod off because you were scared about your first time. Thank your lucky stars he did Hun. He's totally not worth it.

If you like chatting on the phone or the Internet start off there. My son was just 17 when he first met his boyfriend and that was through X-Box game chat. After a while they started talking on the phone; really got to know each other and then eventually met up. Both of them were virgins, both apprehensive but they went out a lot together, talked and nearly three years later, haven't looked back.

I love my son-in-law and they spend a lot of time with me. I'm a loud and proud Mum to my son. The fact that he's gay is just an aside.

I suggest you do a bit of research on the Internet to find some way you can chat with young men in a similar situation. There's loads of searches you could do.

Take things slow. Build on a relationship first and when you feel comfortable, the sex will feel totally natural.


Oh, a ps: I really would advise you to take your mobile number off your page. You may attract the wrong attention.