She Hasn't Talked to Me In 2 Years!

When I was a junior in high school i met the girl who would become my best friend.  I immediately realized I felt differently for her than other people and years later I had ot admit to myself that i had fallen in love with her.  I'm not in to labels, cliche, i know, but its true.  I have loved guys and I definitly love this girl, but it should be about the person and not their organs.  Anyway, our senior year of college i finally had ot admit to her that i was in love with her.  That was a little over 2 years ago and we havent talked since, really.  I have written to her and i never get a response.  I havent written to her in over a year and now she lives with her boyfriend/finacee from what i hear. I want to write her and ask her to start over with me.  At least give me a chance to get some closure and end things on a better note.  I'm willing ot lie and tell her it was all a phase, but thats wrong because it wasnt.  I'm afraid I will never love anyone ever again the way i love her and i'm hoping maybe talking to her one last time might help me to get over that.

I'm debating my decision to write to her. Any advice on what i should say? I dont wanna sound desperate or like im expecting anything.

Paradigm Paradigm
22-25, F
7 Responses Jul 1, 2008

No not a good idea...

She is emotionally immature.

She chose a different life.

Go on with your own life.

Unless you want more drama in your life go and make a total arse out of yourself in front of a woman who told you a long time ago that she does NOT AND NEVER WILL give a true fukkkkk about you!

be yourself!!! Life s too short!!! And life always gives us more than one chance to be happy!!! U ll love again and u ll be loved!!! Good luck and be happy!!!

Yeah but take chances on the right people and not ungrateful SOBs.

WOW... sounds like my life.... I fell in Love with my High school classmate, we were best friends for over 3 years.... and then something happened and I never had the chance to talk to her or see her until a year ago when I went back home to Europe where I had HS reunion and there I saw her after almost 16 yrs! I was so happy to see her I was afraid to even look at her so she won't leave or something.... that night she came to me and together we had the most beautiful night ever. I had to leave early morning go back to my children and husband... but when I closed the hotel door behind me .... my heart broke. Later that month she TXTed beautiful message to me and we agreed to meet again.... it has been a year and we never did meet.... I believe her boyfriend is keeping her from me.... I now back in US with my husband and kids, with my heart torn apart.... My whole life I knew I like girls, but this one is special. I married and had kids, because that's what everyone expected from a girl.... shouldn't have.... should have fight the odds and the society, should have go for my dreams, But I didn't and that's what I'll regret for the rest of my life....

Hope u ll c her again!!! But pls dont be sorry for your decision coz u ve given life: u have children!!! it s the most beautiful thing in life!!! I really hope u ll c her again!!! But dont beat yourself up: we do what we can in life and there s no wrong or right... It s just life... Hugs to u and be happy!!!

I hope you don't regret getting married and having have a life, a future, people who love you and need you, all this wasn't based on a lie it was true and it is true.. You can still find a way to talk to her and find love, if it's not with her wait and see what awaits at the corner, you don't have to be miserable, for the rest of your life.. Wish u luck


No not me....not with the same woman who i gave everything for only to get it smack back in my face. I doubt i will ever love her again in that way.

Just... Differently. BUT you could fall in love even harder, better, than you did with her. I'm a true believer in everything happens for a reason.

I agree with Blumcsi, if you write her now it will just reopen old wounds for both of you. And I do think it's time to move on now.<br />
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Very seldom do we see any closure in relationships. People just move on...

If you confessed and haven't talked to each other eversince I don't think she can handle/accept your feelings. I understand you need closure, but if you're honest with her I fear you'd just get hurt and scarred... Too bad eventhough you were close friends you cannot talk this over. I wish she understood how much she could help you if only she responded to you in some way. I wish you luck though, I hope you'll find a way to say things and the words that could be heard and responded to

personally I think you should try to move on from her. I'm in a similar situation to you, the girl still talks to me, but I am madly in love with her, and that is what I am trying to do. It's very difficult but it's something that I've got to do.<br />
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And yes there will be others who you'll fall in love with, you just have to go out there and find them.<br />
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If you want to try and get the friendship back then just write to her, don't mention anything about what you said, just ask how she is what she is doing etc. <br />
I wish you all the very best of luck, and hope you find the right person for you.