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All the women in my Dad's and my Mother's side of the family are built with pretty straight silhouettes.  I am the only one that has hips....even after having children they all don't have hips.  Growing up this always made me feel bigger and fatter. Now that I'm older....I don't care anymore. 
Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 63 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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Good, It doesn't make you who you are.
What is inside, your emotions feelings and what you know to be true... does.
And if people get to know you for who you are and how you treat them and it all works out then they know you for the quality of who you are not by how you look on the outside.

nor should you. hips are good

Hugs Mahal.....why would you wanna be like everyone else anyway? LOL that's pretty boring eh? ; )

Sungirl.... trust me I\'m not like anyone else in the family. :)

I hear ya, I\'m not really either... haha :/

Curves are far more attractive than straight, stick like figures. : )

I hear you Soul. Its just Im related to these people and everytime we would get together growing up... I just felt bigger than everyone. Now, I see everyone every few years so I\'m good. :) lol!!

I understand! : )

Love curvy girls!!!

You gotta have curves Mahal. ;)

No curves are boring ;-)

Im glad you have come to feel that way...curves are a good thing!

You are GREAT!


Some women have the body of a fairy, dainty, thin, no hips or boobs. YOU have the body of a goddess - boobs, a bodacious behind and the acceptance to be yourself.

CWS..... wow.....what a compliment!!! I'm quite humbled by it and question if I'm so deserving of it. :) Thank you for being such an awesome friend.

Curves are great...i'm curvy one would ever mistake us for a boy lol

lol!! No one would mistake that as I have always had ample breasts. :)

Hips are sexy. Your lucky. Skinny women always secretly dream of having such a figure. X

ur sexyer then any other :p

A curvy woman is so shouldn't care....flaunt those curves and be happy


Thank you all for the encouragement. Thank goodness I only see my skinny minny crew every couple of years. Its when I'm with them that I am most self conscious.

You should feel even more beautiful when they are in your presence.....Have confidence in yourself and your beauty will outshine them all

It\'s not lack of confidence.... its becoming truly comfortable being in my own skin. Its this journey of self discovery I\'m on. Most of it has to do whats inside of me.... not so much what I look like on the outside.

I have no hips even after my giant son- jealous =[

I know just how you feel. I've always had a a child my family's nickname for me was "boulder buns". LMAO. I used to hate it and was always self-conscious about my butt. Now I don't mind so much...kind of makes up for not getting boobs, lol ;) Nice story...I'm glad you have learned to embrace your curves. xo

I'll trade you for your bodacious booty for my big boobs. :) lol!!

You won in the end....You are the one with the curves!

lol!!! Thank you. It was never a competition. It was a self conscious thing when we were all together.

lol...yes, I do understand....but you still won...woohoo!

hips only make a woman sexier.

<p>curves are always beautiful, even when the fashion magazines say they are not</p>

"straight silhouettes" sounds like a boy. "Curves" sounds sensuous and female. Beauty and attraction begins and ends in our hearts. Your beauty is right here for all of us to see and it is stunning.

Awwww.... Gabe.... thank you. I'm a loss for words.

Not a thing wrong with hips. Personally I am curvy women more interesting then sticks figures. Feel good about it. I know I find it very interesting. <3

Thank you for your positive thoughts.

Women are supposed to have curves. I bet yours are beautiful.

Awww.... thank you.

I think AT said it correctly.

I started liking my hips when my 18 year old daughter began complaining because she doesn't have hips like mine. I don't feel like some old mom now.
Recent comments from some men help too. ;)

I was never fat as a kid. I was shapely and a bit fuller than my younger sister and our cousins. Being around them made me self-conscious because they were slimmer and built differently. My mother also would always jokingly called me fatso so that didnt help either.

Some of our mothers were just so wonderful that way. I completely understand.

Thank you... while I sincerely feel blessed that mine is still around.... much hasn't changed with her. Im still the fat one. Im at peace with it.

Mine just watches what she says so I visit. Helps to move 650 miles away :D

My mother is half an ocean away and she can still say something that stings so deep within the first few seconds of our conversation. And no, she doesn't watch what she says. My own 13-yr old daughter had to put her in her place in which I had to punish her. I have tried in so many ways. I love my Mom and dont want to spend the years we have together fighting so I take what she says quietly.

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Women are supposed to have curves. It took you time, along with pain and frustration, to get so you don't care. Bigger hips=more to love and spoil. Yes, that includes taking her to the store and patiently waiting while she shops.

CWS.... how I wish that you had a single twin brother just like you that lived near.

Hips are never a problem

Well they are to a woman when you constantly have to buy a bigger size pair of jeans to fit them in. :)

This is all a matter of perspective. I like "The more the merrier"

Curves are much more attractive than straight lines, especially on a lady.

You have nothing to be ashamed of! Curves are beautiful... :-)

For those who prefer a set of hips that are as parallel as a sheet of plywood, well too bad because they are not able to recognize, or appreciate a true woman. Human mankind would not be here if it were not for those swivel hips. Just my biased opinion folks....

It feels good to know that i'm not the only one who felt this way. My whole family has a more lean, thin figure and i have a much more different body build. I always compared myself to the family and became self-conscious about my figure. And now, i'm slowly becoming more confident :)

Theres a reason a model is called a "Model", they are replicas of the real thing. Once a man overcomes society's programming of what should attract him, once he lives life a little and experiences relationships with many different women, of all types and sizes, he comes to understand that beauty emanates from within and curvy softness is a big plus, never let someone else determine your self worth or value~ take it from me, the curvy woman is greatly desired~but then, to an open minded man, all women are!

I totally agree with everything you say but at times its hard not to let it bother you.