Patience, Respect, Acceptance, Determination,resilience, Love
I love my husband. I didn't like his family but I respected them because he loved them even though he often complained about them.
Mother in laws never win favor by their daughter in laws because they are not like their own mothers. I didn't like mine eathier, but I loved my husband.
I had a diifficult time with my mother in law. She always talked about my husbands ex girlfriend, especially when my husband was not around to hear her. I don't know what makes people do these things because it is so hurtful to the daughter in law, but it is, what it is. ACCEPTANCE
I didn't agree with half of what my mother in law said but I still listened and pretended to be interested. I always did what I chose to do anyhow. RESPECT
I was determined that I would show her and the family that I was a good person and belonged with her son. I did. It took PATIENCE.
It took time and DETERMINATION. It was worth it, because my husband and I are still happily married after 38 years.
If you really and truly love your man, you will go out of your way to earn respect from his family and when that happens, your husband will love you more because his family is praising you.
I won the tug a war with my mother in law. It took RESILIENCE.
Afterwards, I found myself beginning to LOVE many of my husbands family members. They made me feel comfortable, welcome, accepted, and most importantly my opinions were important to them. I became family.
My father used to say "When someone says something to you that you don't like, toss the words in a bag keep the bag closed, and if the bag gets full, get a new bag" My father was right! He taught me well.
I am a good daughter in law, because I earned respect and love from my husbands family.
Being married for as long as I have been is not easy, but the fact that his family loves me is a powerful tool in our favor.
Young people today, want respect before it is earned from their elders. Things have not changed. Respecting your elders is something that has been here since before Christ, probably since caveman days and respecting elders is in every culture around the world.