Why do we think healers need to be undamaged, without flaw, fixed?  Healers are nothing more than human beings with a gift and a calling.  They are only perfect at being themselves and are subject to the same problems and issues as the rest of the world.   A good healer is one who knows and understands how difficult life can be at times and that it’s not always simple and easy to change negative patterns or behaviours.  A good and competent healer is one who can listen to their client and move their own ego out of the way.  Their intention must pure at all times, and know that everyone deserves the opportunity to be healed.  They must be compassionate.  Above all else, they need to treat their gifts and clients with honour, respect, integrity, and gratitude.  They do NOT need to fit Webster's definition of perfection.


goddessone goddessone
41-45, F
8 Responses Mar 4, 2009

my greatest teacher is a healer. He is flawed and perfect in his imperfection. I watched him speak once to a woman who had failed so many times to take the steps she knew she needed and other healers had pushed her towards. He spoke out of his imperfection with an empathy that made me cry. You could see her transform right in front of you. It was like watching a cloud move of the face of the sun, but then to see this woman radiate from within.

I disagree about intentions because we cannot know why two people are brought together and what you might judge as a lack of integrity is in fact the perfect solution for that single moment.

The master told me he has never healed anyone. All he does is support and embrace the damage another is doing to themselves. He explained then they are free to do something else and come in harmony with health.

These words are completely inadequate to describe this man and his work, but I have seen it in action. I studied and trained with him for a week and nearly two years later I am still processing what he showed me; he continues to heal me without being there, but always being there.

thank you.

excellent points, all !

Datura, thank you so much for this comment. You have so eloquently stated what I could not.

The wounded healer is an archetype which is often spoken about. This is from<br />
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"Who is The Wounded Healer? Many articles and books have been written about 'The Wounded Healer.' It is the person who has gone through suffering, sometimes great, and as a result of that process has become a source of great wisdom, healing power and inspiration for others. In fact, the archetypal wounded healer undergoes a transformation as a result of their wound, their suffering and pain. They can actually transcend it, and successfully lead themselves to a path of service. It is as if the wound itself helps you drive yourself to an inner journey that becomes the transformation itself. One strips away the selfish, ego-based feeling of being all alone in our wound and expands to see others and how if one chooses a different role, one can help. "<br />
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A healer is still in this world but no longer of it, as the master said so long ago. A change of consciousness has occurred and the healer no longer identifies with the small self and the wounds.

DK, that's been my experience too.

The best teachers are those who allow themselves to learn from their students.

wholeheartedly agreed! I am always trying to figure out my life's purpose & whether developing my intense interest in being a healer is my intended mission or my soul's purpose. It is my first & foremost thought every day. I think while I am learning to heal myself, I can simultaneously learn to heal others.