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I Think I Have A Problem...

I love to bargain shop, I love the thrill of the chase of the deal. I have so much though that I do not need more. However, I keep shopping, and when I try to declutter, it is so hard to part with anything. I am trying to figure out how to conquer this. I want to be normal, I want my children to grow up in a normal household. I am tired of being judged by my family. But I am not sure what to do. This complusion has affected all parts of my life, finacial, emotional, etc. I am chronicling my journey www.allspentout.blogspot.com

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I am looking for counseling resources currently, but really am not sure how to find some one...
allspentout allspentout 36-40 3 Responses Apr 20, 2011

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What works for me is keeping a list with me at all times of things that I do need (which isn't much), keeping a note in my wallet that says, "Do you NEED THIS or do you WANT THIS" And telling myself that every penny that I spend on crap is a penny that could have gone to my kids college. Every penny. Be realistic with what you're spending. Lets face it, we all love to shop. Its the high we need when we feel bad - find another high! Instead of shopping, write something, draw something, just make sure all you do is for free, if you have to pay for it, it's still shopping. Eventually - your heart strings will catch up with your brain!

I'm 30 years old and I believe I have successfully overcome my hoarding. My hoarding started as a child because my parents really withheld normal things (like clothing and hair conditioner) even though we were financially stable. They were just cheap-skates. As a result I was always afraid to let go of anything. The problem got worse when I reached 18 and I was finally in a position where I was free from my parents and I could actually buy things. What made it worse is that I happen to be a bargain shopper and I get amazing deals. I can usually resell my purchases at an easy profit.



So fast forward 10 years and I realized that I was a hoarder. I had enough stuff to fill a house, but I lived in a small apartment.



What really turned my life around was the funniest thing. I was house sitting for my parents for a few months and I found that I would not sleep or really live in "my" childhood bedroom. It was filled with my stuff and frankly it was cluttered. I started by sleeping in the guest room because the bed was cleared off and slowly ended up basing myself out of the guest room, which was clean and basically empty except for the furniture and tv. Well, after a couple of months I realized that I had barely set foot in "my" bedroom and I didn't even miss my stuff. Then I realized that one of the reasons I like hotels so much is because my room is always clutter free.



That was when I realized that although I loved each of my things individually, collectively they made me unhappy. I'm much happier with a minimalist lifestyle. So then it was time to find an apartment.



I also realized that by having all that stuff I was forcing myself to rent a 2-bedroom apartment instead of 1-bedroom. Because I needed the 2nd bedroom as a storage room. When I realized that it was probably costing me $300 per month to rent the extra room I realized there was nothing I needed badly enough to rent room to store it. It's hard to let go of things, because I feel like I might need it one day, but the way I figure it, if I need it I'll go to the store and buy it. It will cost alot less than $3600 per year renting a storage room. And the same principle applies whether you are paying your rent or your mortgage. Either way you are paying for space you don't really need!!!



So I have been selling my excess stuff. It has taken my 6 months to sell it all. The beginning was the hardest part. I was afraid I would be sorry I had gotten rid of item X or item Y. Bt you know what? It turns out I don't miss any of it. Once I sold it I basically forgot the item ever existed. And it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. As my home became de-cluttered I felt much lighter and free-er.



Now I fit perfectly into my new one bedroom apartment and I am soooo happy.

I'm 30 years old and I believe I have successfully overcome my hoarding. My hoarding started as a child because my parents really withheld normal things (like clothing and hair conditioner) even though we were financially stable. They were just cheap-skates. As a result I was always afraid to let go of anything. The problem got worse when I reached 18 and I was finally in a position where I was free from my parents and I could actually buy things. What made it worse is that I happen to be a bargain shopper and I get amazing deals. I can usually resell my purchases at an easy profit.



So fast forward 10 years and I realized that I was a hoarder. I had enough stuff to fill a house, but I lived in a small apartment.



What really turned my life around was the funniest thing. I was house sitting for my parents for a few months and I found that I would not sleep or really live in "my" childhood bedroom. It was filled with my stuff and frankly it was cluttered. I started by sleeping in the guest room because the bed was cleared off and slowly ended up basing myself out of the guest room, which was clean and basically empty except for the furniture and tv. Well, after a couple of months I realized that I had barely set foot in "my" bedroom and I didn't even miss my stuff. Then I realized that one of the reasons I like hotels so much is because my room is always clutter free.



That was when I realized that although I loved each of my things individually, collectively they made me unhappy. I'm much happier with a minimalist lifestyle. So then it was time to find an apartment.



I also realized that by having all that stuff I was forcing myself to rent a 2-bedroom apartment instead of 1-bedroom. Because I needed the 2nd bedroom as a storage room. When I realized that it was probably costing me $300 per month to rent the extra room I realized there was nothing I needed badly enough to rent room to store it. It's hard to let go of things, because I feel like I might need it one day, but the way I figure it, if I need it I'll go to the store and buy it. It will cost alot less than $3600 per year renting a storage room. And the same principle applies whether you are paying your rent or your mortgage. Either way you are paying for space you don't really need!!!



So I have been selling my excess stuff. It has taken my 6 months to sell it all. The beginning was the hardest part. I was afraid I would be sorry I had gotten rid of item X or item Y. Bt you know what? It turns out I don't miss any of it. Once I sold it I basically forgot the item ever existed. And it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. As my home became de-cluttered I felt much lighter and free-er.



Now I fit perfectly into my new one bedroom apartment and I am soooo happy.