I Was In The Wrong Relationship For Years

I was with my ex for three years. The first two years were okay. He wasn't very affectionate, but I got some attention. More attention went to video games, but I tried to play with him when I could so it seemed more like a "couple" activity since it was all he was interested in. After those two years, I couldn't put up with it anymore. The small amount of attention I was getting diminished to nothing. I did sweet things, hoping he'd do sweet things for me like he did at the beginning of our relationship, but it never happened.

A good guy friend of mine had been nearby and listened to my problems. We grew closer and the next year of my relationship grew rough as I grew closer to my friend. My friend confessed he had feelings for me but he wasn't going to get in the way of my relationship. He was going to try to save my relationship because he cared about me. I thought he was the sweetest thing and I accepted his help.

The more I tried to save my relationship, the more I realized I didn't want to. My friend and I would hang out nearly every day and my boyfriend at the time would see each other for an hour every night after his precious video games IF he was in the mood to watch something. My friend would take me out to lunch and make time for me whenever I needed to talk. Date night was once a month if I was lucky when it came to my boyfriend. When he got angry, he threw things. There are still dents in the walls from his fists and the computer mouse. I started to realize that I needed someone more like my friend and less like my boyfriend.

I dumped him. Soon after, I started dating my friend. Since it was such a short time in between dating guys, rumors spread that I cheated on him. My friend and I were just very close and I knew what I wanted and what I needed.

Now I get flowers every day. I get dates every other day. Every single day he calls me beautiful. He calls me by my name and not the lazy "Babe". He tells me he cares about me and he actually says he is so lucky to have me.

I am a hopeless romantic and I could not be happier.
ComatoseCricket ComatoseCricket
18-21, F
Sep 20, 2012