What's A Guy To Do?

I'm sorry, but what is the point of being married? I understand loving her and everything, but who is to say you won't fall in love with the "consort?" What about these poor women who you will basically be using for sex? Sex is always risky emotionally. I would divorce the wife. It sounds like you have deeper issues than just sex. I would be incredibly hurt if my husband said: "My sex drive is gone, so find some other guy to have sex with you."

She looks like a good wife to me. What can she do if she can't have sex, allow you to have consort. That's what she,s done. She really loves you man. You can't expect her to fake her desire for you. Love is more important and lasting than sex. you can buy sex but not true love. if you love her you would'nt dump her. what if she had an accident and wasn't able to have sex, would you still think od divorce? have a consort for you sex drive without any guilt.

Believe it or not, I am envious of you. After 13 years, my wife lost her sex drive and I have talked to her about me having a consort, but she wont let me. We went from 4x a week to 2x a month (at most). I would jump on the opportunity!

I think i must agree with TheFullMoon on this one, she has lead you into this marriage thinking your "sex life" would change, well it seems to have changed alright, for the worse. I was in a sexless marriage for 11 years, and now, I don't think i could do it again! EVER!!!!

Good luck!!

As an older woman I advice to start again.... Healthy fulfilling marriage assumes good regular sex... Presumably you got married as you loved her and wanted friend, partner and lover in one woman- your wife... She gave you a false hope... If I would be you I would divorce her on the ground of unreasonable behaviour.... Read a lot of stories in ILIASM... She is using you... RUN... Good luck...

If you don't mind me asking, how good was your sex life in those 5 and half years? If it was good(for her as well) what suddenly happened? How she explained this drastic change? If it was bad why you decided to get married? Probably it is the time for you to make the right choice- do you want years(5-10-15-40) of self sacrifice (mentally and physically) or consider the annulment of a marriage and move on.... Good luck!