Need Your Advice



I have been married to my husband for 8 years. In the last 5 years we have sex once a month. I am the one to initiate it. Is there something wrong with his sex drive? He does not like to kiss on the mouth. How often does a man with a normal drive need to do it. Can you please tell me whether this is normal.


Need your advice. And by the way, I am a wife in a sexless marriage. 

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9 Responses Mar 5, 2010

hmmm could be the age, or it could just be merely his libido is lower than yours (a lot lower.) Try and get him on pills, or try talking to him about it.

ok Im starting to think that my husband is right and that I am overly sexual. If I had my choice we would have sex at least 2 or 3 times a DAY! As I read this and see twice a year 2--3 times a month I wonder if I am normal or not. God is there any end?

If you spend enough time on this site, you'll begin to think that once a month IS normal!!!!!<br />
Lots of people here having sex once or twice a YEAR! With desire that low, there are obviously underlying issues going on. Have you talked to him about it? I mean "really" talked to him about it. Have you thought about going to a Psychologist?

I think most men would love to have a wife who would initiate sex. Daily would be great for me, would settle on 3 times a week, but am lucky if my wife and I have sex more than 2 or 3 times a month. We (men) always hear about women like you and wonder WTF your husband is thinking, so in answer to your question, there is something wrong with him, it is not normal!

Once or twice a month has been my world for the past 10 years. I would give my left arm for a wife who initiated sex! We all work and we're all busy. But I would think that twice a week isn't too much to ask for.

That is definitely not normal by my standards. I want sex at least 3 times a week. And I used to have it too... now I have none, and it slowly but surely consuming my interest in life. I'm becoming bitter and I find it increasingly difficult to give a damn about other people. This is not who I'm supposed to be.

I wish I could give you advice on what to do but I don't understand how your husband can be that way any more than I can understand how my wife can be that way. I certainly empathize with you and share your pain. Not kissing on the mouth always or is this recent? If it's always been that way then maybe he just doesn't or maybe he's afraid his breath stinks...

I think that if there is a strong attraction and feelings in the couple the need to become intimate is very often. On the contrary, if there is a lot of resent for little daily things the desire goes away.

Same boat. Just it's the wife. I would say at least 2 to 3 times a week. I wish for 2 to 3 times a month. How many times would you like sex a month? I'm sure it's not wrong and your not wrong. Good Luck.