I've been married to my husband for 14 years and a little over a year ago, I fell in love with my best friend and had an affair with her. She's since left me and hasn't spoken to me in over six months, and I am left to sort out my life in the aftermath of such an unexpected event.

My husband knows about the affair, but he didn't know about it while it was going on.  I've told him that I am confused about my sexuality and he has consented to let me explore my sexuality with women while married to him.

I don't have a girlfriend yet because it's only been recently that my husband and I had that conversation.  Also, I don't really expect women to be lining up to be with a woman who is experimenting with her sexuality while remaining married to a man.

I've been in therapy with a gay-friendly therapist for 6 months and having her to help me process all of these feelings and emotions has been a lifesaver.  Literally.



sleepingbee sleepingbee
31-35, F
1 Response Feb 19, 2010

Most Lesbians have at least one experience similar to what you describe. A Lesbian friend of mine had 2 children to her husband. When the children left school she had an argument with her husband.<br />
She had a girlfriend So she deserted him to take up a partnership with her gf. They now have been living together as lovers for almost 20 years. I don't think you are Bi You should find another woman to love if you are really serious.<br />