How Can You Be A Mom, And A Lesbian?That's what people are always asking me. Wheu.
I used to explain it without hesitation. I'd say: "Well, you see, I knew I was missing something... I didn't really understand myself when I was young and popping out a baby. I always fantasized about women, I knew I liked them. I knew I couldn't stop feeling like I wanted one when I was with a guy... and while I fantasized about women, I also fantasized about motherhood... and I have always been very free spirited. I got caught up in living in the moment. I didn't know myself well enough to know that I shouldn't have been beating myself up trying to be with a man, and I shouldn't have been trying to have babies. Alas, here I stand... Gay, and a Mother."
But after you explain this, as if you should EVEN HAVE TO... so many times; You will find that people don't understand how this can happen.
"You're not gay, then." They may say.
"So, you're Bi?"
Just a single, lesbian mother who is writing in an experience project forum because sometimes people just don't understand.
Who else feels like lesbians (specifically) are less inclined to date a girl because she has kids? What's up with that?