Lesbians Living AbroadThe life of a lesbian can be a difficult one. I remember telling my therapist a looooooong time ago that I was a lesbian and her first response was, "that's going to be a hard lifestyle". It didn't take me long to figure out what she meant. The lesbian world is quite limited and it can be difficult to even find other lesbians to be friends with, let alone ones you want to date because there are so few of us on the planet.
So, I've been doing a lot of traveling and have been living abroad for the past 3-4 years. Along the way I've had a few relationships, some long-term (up to 2 years) and some short term (only lasting a few months). This leads my focus to lesbians maintaining relationships, especially while living abroad. And would the same issues happen if you were both back home rather than away.
Some way or another, the issue of time and money running out on you can interfere with the relationship's dynamics. My last girlfriend, I was with her for only 2 months, we hit it off really well, but she was due to leave and go back to her country after finishing her school program here. Needless to say, we had to end the relationship when she left. I'd like to tell you that we were responsible and talked it over and mutually agreed, but it got kind of emotionally messy and trust was lost along the way. My long-term girlfriend of 2 years, I went traveling with. Honestly, I think it was the travel that did us in. We both drove each other nuts and probably took each other for granted.
So the maintaining that healthy relationship, full of balance can be a difficult challenge. Although, I believe it's possible. Even while living abroad! I'm looking to widen support circles in the lesbian community and give more lesbians abroad and back home a platform for a sense of community? This will be a long journey of mine that I'll embark on to discover the many ways of bringing us together. We're a small community on this planet, very easily targeted to be misunderstood by those who haven't had much exposure or lack understanding of what we go through in life; watch that movie "Boys Don't Cry", if you want a more in-depth look at what I mean by lack of understanding and exposure. As I travel the world and explore the lesbian communities in each country I visit, my aim is to bridge the gap and strengthen the community in a global fashion. That way we're fighting off the loneliness, lack of support, lack of belief in our rights, and lack of fulfillment in the way we live our lesbian lifestyles. Right now I'm teaching English in South Korea, but in March, I'm planning a HUGE trip to South America, where I'll be indulging in the lesbian societies there. I am really anxious as to what's underneath the hood of every continent's lesbian nations. Share your thoughts if you feel the same way. Do we need more unity?
Fivve 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 Oct 19, 2011