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How Can You Tell That You're A Lesbian??


I've never dated women, does that mean i can't say that I'm a Lesbian? Is it based on experience?? I'm just wondering what others think of this. I know some people that are telling me a different definition of it, and if i ask you for the definition, what will you say?

like a few examples, someone once said to me, ''you're a lesbian if you never dated guys before.'' But yeah, whats the point with the 'Gold Star Lesbian label'? and the Silver Star??

What if i am feeling like, i'm attracted to women, sexually and emotionally? Can't i just say that I'm a Lesbian? or.. do you think i must have dated women first?

funkyshh funkyshh 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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Labels and titles mean nothing! If you only feel attracted to women then that's enough. I knew for sure before I even kissed a girl. You don't have to do anything with a girl to know ur les. I'm here if u need it.

i don't really think it matters what you call yourself, if you call a lesbian something else it does not change the fact that they into to women only. I'm pretty open minded to a lot of things so don't stress about it too much. I believe that you should love someone regardless of gender. its ok if you love a guy and ok if you love a girl. its just as long as you're happy with the person you're with, that's all that matters.

nice to no you can come out and and tell every body who you are add me on skype if you need anyone to talk to my name skype name is jackofrithy

People don't have to have had hetero sex to call themselves/believe themselves to be straight. I think it's great that you want to wait for the right person! Your sexuality is not something you should have to prove to anyone

haha, exactly! i don't have to prove anyone, anything :)

well then if you feel that way, why don;t you give it try?:) i mean you wont ever know unless you try .And if you dont like it then you will know for sure:)

i never mentioned that i don't want to try haha!. im absolutely open for it, but it's not like i want a random hook-up? You know what i mean? Like, i want to fall for someone, and so far i haven't met someone interesting yet haha.

LOl:) oh i see..well then give it time...Great things always comes to those who are patient.

I dont think you can say your a lesbian straight away, to me its more like you think you are confused your emotions are 50/50. I think you will know if you definitly are gay after you experienced something with a girl and you actually feel that its right,almost like you just wanna do it over and over again. Oh well that's just my opinion:)

well i have doubts and i'm not really sure about EVERYTHING, but i do think i need some experience to be certainly sure of things, before i conclude too fast :).