Lost

im beginning to not understand myself anymore. i just cant make sense of what is it about me that doesnt attract other girls to me. i mean, not trying to sound egotistic but i am pretty, smart and funny. and ive been complimented so many times, even by strangers. and ive attracted some good, decent, good looking guys. one to mention is my bestfriend, he's the person who understand me the most. we've known eachother for 4 years. i swear if i wasnt gay i would totally go for him. im not out yet...to anyone. i felt so bad rejecting him, without giving him a reason, but luckily the good person that he is, we're still close. i havent seen alot of him lately though since we've both started college, but i miss him. but anyways, i just dont understand how is it that i attract all this great guys, which once again im not interested in, but i dont attract any girls. id like to find myself a nice cute femme girl. i mean geez, should i have to make it obvious to others. or is it just cause girls in general dont like to make the first move?

newstart02 newstart02
18-21, F
4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

well if you dont automatically make yourself look like your interested in girls(lookin femme makes you look straight) than most lesbians are gonna think you're straight. so thats probably why you don't attract any. so you're gonna have to put yourself out there. Go to gay clubs i guess. i'm goin thru the same thing u r. i'm not out of the closet so everybody thinks i'm straight. i'd much rather a girl come up to me, but i guess i'm gonna have to be the one to be straight forward. you should probably ask your gay friends first if they can introduce you to any femme gay girls. well best luck to you. i hope we both get what we are lookin for!!!

well if you dont automatically make yourself look like your interested in girls(lookin femme makes you look straight) than most lesbians are gonna think you're straight. so thats probably why you don't attract any. so you're gonna have to put yourself out there. Go to gay clubs i guess. i'm goin thru the same thing u r. i'm not out of the closet so everybody thinks i'm straight. i'd much rather a girl come up to me, but i guess i'm gonna have to be the one to be straight forward. you should probably ask your gay friends first if they can introduce you to any femme gay girls. well best luck to you. i hope we both get what we are lookin for!!!

well. If you like a female. Test the waters. Flirting is fun and interesting way to do.

You don’t have to throw yourself at them, but do you flirt at all? You shouldn’t have to come right out and say I am a lesbian but at the same time you may need to drop hints. Personally if I am attracted to someone I try to find out if they are gay as well, and go from there. I am no expert but I hope this helps a little. Its hard sometimes for someone to make the first move if they do not know for sure you are a lesbian.