My Younger Sister's Getting Married
so i'm 27 and have been with my girlfriend for almost three years now. we live in california, and had just started dating when the state supreme court over turned the ban on gay marriage. gay and lesbian couples flocked to get married. my girlfriend and i talked about getting married but wanted to want until we were sure we were ready.
well, we all know what happened last year: proposition 8 passed... so now that we do want to get married we can't. now, my younger sister who has only been dating this guy for a year wants to get married... and as much as i am happy for her to find someone who isn't a complete jerk-wad like many of her previous boyfriends... i'm really devastated that she's going to get to have a big celebration where everyone acknowledges her relationship and i can't. i mean, my girlfriend and i could have a big fake-o commitment ceremony, but we want a REAL wedding like everyone else.
i am also not out to all of my extended family, but i am out to all of my sister's friends. my sister has told me that she doesn't want me to have to be closeted at her wedding and that she wants my girlfriend and her family to be invited, which is great... and very sweet of her. but man, that means being our to all of my extended chinese relatives the day of her marriage! can you imagine how fun that will be-- all 20 or so of my aunts and uncles and 40 or so of my cousins! jesus.
not to mention... i have to be her maid of honor. i'm doing this because since i live the closest to her, compared to her friends that have all moved away but are coming to town for the wedding, i can get things done like throwing her a bridal shower and all of that crap. i mean, i don't mind, but i totally do mind and am annoyed.
i want to be celebrating all of these milestones with my girlfriend... i mean, we totally love each other and want to be together forever... why do straight people get to celebrate and express their love in big public gestures but not gays and lesbians? not to mention... my sister's already told me about how she really can't wait to get all of those wedding gifts and money from friends and relatives so they can start their lives together. so i just need to put up with it and act happy, even though deep down inside i am soooooooo jealous and hurt.
it's just not fair.