Would You Move In With Her?

I was just wondering would you move in with your GF thinking things will get better because you live together with the following issues in hand: 

  • You cheated on her for 2 years, and still in love with that person you cheated with. 
  • You still swear you are in love with your GF. 
  • She is very controlling. 
  • Doesn’t understand your needs or wants. 
  • 10 years older than you. 
  • You have 2 kids and she has no idea about how to treat kids. 
  • She puts you down if you complain about anything. 
  • Doesn’t have any sex drive and always tired even when you only meet every weekend.
  • You are scared of her sometimes that you would avoid making her angry.
  • She would walk into the room and sees you using your vibrator to release your sexual frustration and all she does is nod and say "come to the living room when you are done"

 In my mind no way in Hell I would move in, but my friend thinks things will get better because the frustration would be less and the abiltiy to talk would be always there, and I am saying if there is no passion when you are far apart how is it going to get any better when you live together day in and day out.

I am just curious to see how many lesbian think the situation will get better if they moved in and why?

drmctchr drmctchr
36-40, F
4 Responses Feb 17, 2010

Thanks soft and Warrior. This is actually my ex lover situation and I am the girl she cheated with. I just wanted to know If I was right about this situation, thats why I asked. <br />
It is a long story...I believe it is not going to work if she moves in with her GF, but she believe it will, while she still telling me she loves me soooo much. I had to break away from her completely. <br />
What do u do to forget about someone you love soooo much????!

I'm also a lesbian, but I don't think sexual orientation has anything to do with the dynamics of a relationships. Those issues are a disaster waiting to happen. WM

Moving in is definitely not the answer. All of the things you said was wrong in the situation, well none of them have changed. Until you can clear up the problems you having, being in the same house will only make things worse. You need to decide what is best for you and if she is not what you want then you should leave the situation alone. If you still love the person you cheated with then you are definitely not ready to commit to moving in with someone you think you might love. Try and make the decisions that will benefit you and make you happy, otherwise you will end up miserable.<br />
I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

You are right Ennuye, it is about my friend. <br />
Thanks Social, I totaly agree with you <br />
I just wondered if I was thinking it will not work for selfish reasons only or because that what would anyone see in this case. unfortunately she is the only one who can't see it and keep saying I HAVE FAITH..<br />
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It is driving me crazy…Love is not about faith we are not believing in God here…love is about actions..geeeeeee