BEEN a Loner All My Life!

have had phases of socialising but mostly loner type. i like it that i can reach out online and thats ok. a true loner wouldn't be on here i suppose ;0)

I have spent so many years alone in school & then over the road, that most of the time, I do not even like being around my husband. I have found that I am comfortable around him or his family after a couple of shots of Rum, but nothing else makes me comfortable.

I am also a loner, have been for a long time. Don't get me wrong, I do have friends. However, they are all either married, dating someone, have kids, or work different schedules. I have been constantly harrassed by my family who always tells me "you need to get out more and meet new people." Ok tell me. WHERE THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO MEET THESE PEOPLE?

being alone is great. u just need that one person to keep u company sometimes.

wow this morning i rued today like all the other days past but after speaking with people here in EP the day changed and some of you who have shared here. i well i think i just learned something. thanx lacrymose & guamdef.

yes some times in the right environment particularly in the elements of nature great peace can be found there. lonlieness for me has been or is killing me & hope i can escape it. but i al;ways fall into ruts and cant get out of them or forget how to.

hoohoo i have similar experiences too and dont know how to push people who use me away.

but for those who are using you it is agreat thing when there gone. true friends stick by you i can only think of a few.

dONT gIVE UP!i dont believe in death as long as i am Breathing neither should you dear,

but i know how intoxicating it is!! i luv every place of nature!

nightcrawlers, i hear you, i do get a certain peace from it and i stay out of drama. I also would like to have people that are in the same mind frame as myself to hang around with, conversate, do things together that we have in common, hard to find my dear, hard to find!!!

maybe your just meeting all the wrong people...

The secret to not being a loner--Its working for me : )



All you need to do is aproach someone and say something like I see youve been doing this... or something like that.



I finally realized this--everybody else does it its so clear to me now. If you dont believe me just look at the next person that aproaches you. All they want is to be your freind. So dont be afraid. They could care less on how you act as long as you act with them.

Once you do this a few times youll get confortable and you will no longer feel that block that keeps you quiet.



Im loving not being queit!

Whew! I hope your caps lock was stuck and you weren't yelling all that at us....lol. Just kidding. I hear your pain, buddy.



Part of getting people to understand is not having such high expectations that block others out. Sometimes we can be passionate about something, and when that isn't shared by our friends or companions it can cause disappointment...this doesn't mean you should eject them from your life and give up on them though. There is nothing wrong with going places alone to enjoy them and it is certainly not crazy to enjoy your own company.



A word of caution: be careful what you order from the universe. It will deliver what you put out there in your thoughts. If you keep saying you are a loner (and it makes you unhappy) that is what you will get. If you believe you won't ever have true friends who like you...then you are placing another order and that is what will be delivered.



I think you are hurt and lashing out. You deserve friends who care, and to enjoy your solitude when you want to experience some things alone.



Peace and blessings,



Lacry