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I Am A Loser

im in my late thirties i live with my mother.have a lame job.i hardly ever go out i barely have any friends, they all moved on and done thier thing.
i have not got a girl, i dont think girls like me, when i was younger i had no luck with them so thats it i suppose. just hate it when i see them with morons and i know i am better than them.so every night im in my room playing video games or on my computer i havent even got male friends to go out with
i am quite shy and i suppose i have paid the price for that. my mum is 61 and she wants to retire but she wants me to do something with my life because i  am in the way buy i dont know what to do
defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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hi what kind of job do you have? at least you have one, that's a start! ;)

you're not alone. that's why we're all here. just remember you're suppose to be different from everyone else. don't compare yourself to others. we all are still searching for oursevles.

wow that's exactly me, i try every now and then to build up the nerve to ask some woman out. Woman usually feel sorry for me, and go ahead and give me there number or make plans to go out with me. However it always leads to some excuse or something came up that they cant go out with me lol. I actually feel sorry for these woman that i dad to stress out. after all who wants to date a A class loser like my self.

You look like me. 99%...<br />
Only I have no job now. And better than morons who date the girls? In my case, that's the kind miracle that really will never happen...

Man I am right there with you. i am 37 living with mom. I moved back in at 32 when we all decided to move out of state. Now my dad is gone, I feel very overwhelmed with the fact that I have never started my own family. I am totally scared of putting my self out there, but at the same time I am tired of being lonely. I have not had a real relationship with a woman in ten years. I am so far out in the country, I am scared that I will never find anyone who wants to raise cattle and have more than enough dogs. Everyone I know my age has several children and an ex wife. What is wrong with me that I can't seem to find a special someone? I make a decent living, but I still feel like I would just be wating my time trying to attract a mate for I am overweight, and have low self esteem. Oh well, waa waa guess. It's just good to know there are others going through this crud. Thanks for sharing.

You are not a loser, you just need to get a life. I know its hard, but try getting outta your rut, outta your room, outta the house and for goodness sakes outta your comfort zone. You need to join a group, team or activity that gives u peers to associate with, college classes, bowling team, book club? Once in you mingle...hey its a start, Miss Right may be closer than you think, so give it a whirl. Good luck

You are not a loser, you just need to get a life. I know its hard, but try getting outta your rut, outta your room, outta the house and for goodness sakes outta your comfort zone. You need to join a group, team or activity that gives u peers to associate with, college classes, bowling team, book club? Once in you mingle...hey its a start, Miss Right may be closer than you think, so give it a whirl. Good luck

Hello there.<br />
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If I were you I would meditate upon what you would wish for an occupation. They say the more you like what you do, the more successful you will be. It could be something you have been blessed to do, or whatever.<br />
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Then I would either seek schooling toward that - or begin on the ground level and work youself into a more prosperous management position.<br />
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Once you are working toward where you want to be jobwise, I think the rest may fall into place. Also, while you are living with your mother - it's a good time to save you pennies toward your own place. There's nothing wrong with living at home if you get along with your parents, until you feel financially comfortable. <br />
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I think in time, the romance thing will happen. People seem to be waiting longer these days.

You are like me. I am in thirties now, and still living with my parents. I have a freelance job. But it doesn't make good money. But I try to have a lot of friends, I try to be friendly..and try to learn something so I hope I can improve my life. I just believe that someday I will make good money, and do something good to my parents. That's why I never say give up. I can write, maybe I will make a good story, and sell it. I'll try to make a good scenario for a movie, I'm still trying now. The big problem is, I never complete my idea. I've made a story, but I think it's not good enough. So I never finish it. I 'm still finding an idea to make it better. But..I 'm in thirties now, seems like I have to be fast. All my friends have already have a wife, or at least a girl. I don't. Because I don't have money. It's difficult to ask a girl out without having money....sigh....

hello<br />
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Well i went, still going through the same situation. I tried very hard to make friends, but everytime i did, i ended up feeling more miserable. I stopped that as i coudnt take hurts anymore. Then I thought of releasing myself. I figured out what my interests are. I joined photography course , short one, but however it did help me to feel much better. I go on taking pictures and now i feel its my friend. It helps if u pursue your somekind of hobby. Things that interests u. besides dont push yourself too hard. If you are sensitive( highly_) and get into wrong people , it will leave you feeling miserable.

Dont worry your not as alone as you think you are:)

You just need to get out. Take your little buddy LT with ya. (Laptop) Head to the bar during the day to get used to the crowd. I always 'fish'. That means you ask people questions! Don't be threatened by others. They are out doing the same thing, killin time. Life is hard if you live in fear. Like this site, I like that you took the balls to speak up. My situation sucks right now. But I still get up and on my darkest days I grab Jesus' beard look him in the eye and say thanks for my life. You don't have to be a loser forever but if ya do accept it. And be the best.

You aren't a loser. There are far more worse individuals out in the world who have an effd up life.. You are experiencing what I myself often feel. Life just isn't turning out the way you expected. I can totally relate. I thought I would be married with kids by now and settled in my career. It aint happening! : ( You gotta figure out something you like and try to make a career out of it. You gotta do some soul searching. Its not too late.

I don't think you're a loser. My situation is similar to yours so don't kick yourself so hard. Neither do I have a girlfriend but I do manage keep myself in line by going to school and doing something positive with my life. I can be your friend since we're in the same boat.