wellll seeing as how i am completely new to all of this i'll start off with a short intro =) my names kayla and i'm 19 and from mackinaw, il.  i'm currently dating a marine<3...we've been together a month and a half but known each other for like 2 years.  he comes home on march 13!(can't wait!) but after he goes back to california he gets deployed to afghanistan until october(as of right now...we all know that could easily change).  seeing as how this is my first deployment and we've only been together a month and a half i could really use some tips and support with getting thru this deployment.   i'm trying to prepare but i just don't know waht exactly to expect.  any help at all would be great! =)

kbsmith12110 kbsmith12110
18-21, F
3 Responses Mar 5, 2010

well sweetie. my marine is stationed in cali too! and he is deployed overseas right now and its veryyy hard and even though yall havent been dating long at all you need to be strong for him. and for urself. its hard at times but when he comes back home yall will be stronger than ever. and its not simple at all you just gotta try to keep yourslef busy with everything so it doesnt get to you always. if you ever need someone to talk to im here for you doll :) im going through it right now but he comes home in june!! cant wait. im here for you hunni

thank you soooo much!! =) this really helps ALOT!!

Hi Kayla! I'm Amanda. I'm in your shoes too, but my man in 3 months into a 7month deployment to Afghanistan. We weren't together very long before he deployed, so I understand where you're coming from. It's not easy, wondering when you will get an e-mail or a SAT phone call, and sometimes you just want to cry because you don't know how he is or if he has forgotten you. BUT...keep the faith, and don't let go of what you two have. I have to keep telling myself that Matt misses me as much as I'm missing him, and that this is much harder on him than it is on me. I have friends and family that I can see and whose shoulders I can cry on. He has sand in his eyes and the responsibilty on his shoulders to protect the guys to his left and right. I've made it this far, and I know I will be waiting to meet him when he gets back to Camp LeJeune in July. He has my heart and the promise that I won't give up on us and will still be his when he returns. Expect to check your email every five minutes...expect to get excited every time the phone rings and it's a number you don't recognize...expect to go days, even months, not hearing from him...expect to feel alone and lost at times....expect to question everything you thought you knew about you two.....DON'T forget why you love him...Don't think you have it harder than him...Don't give up on him, he needs your love and support...Don't hesitate to write him a letter EVERY day, or send him cute things in his care packages...ALWAYS tell him how proud you are of him...Always have a happy disposition when you do get to talk to him, even if you're miserable on the inside. You can cry when you hang up....Always be sure to let him know that you love and support him, and will be here when he gets home...and NEVER LOSE FAITH! :) Before he deploys, plan a special day for you two, and take lots of pictures of the two of you while he is home. Silly pics are great, as you can send them to him and remind him to smile while he is in the middle of this war. I hope I've helped some. If you ever need to talk, I'm here for you. I'm learning as I go, so I may not have all the answers, but I will do my best to be a good friend :)