Mom Isn't The Only "hat" I Wear.

Oh my gosh. I am so greatful to have found this group my story isn't exactly the same but here it is. My husband and I have been married 5 years. We have 6 children between us ( he has a son 8 from a dating relationship, a daughter 7 and a son 6 from a previous marriage, I have a son 9 from a dating relationship and we have a daughter 4 and a son 1 together). Now to clarify we haven't seen his daughter 8 or son 6 in about four and a half years because he "doesn't want to fight with his ex". His son 8 comes and spends every other weekend with us. My son 9 our daughter 4 and son 1 live with us at all times. I work a full time job and then some, he doesn't work and hasn't much since we've been married. He stays home with our kids but barely cleans and doesn't cook meals untill he get hungry sometimes not till like 8 or 9 o'clock at night. But u guess I should just be happy he atleast does it. But the thing that bothers me the most is I have to spend my days off cleaning the house that he "already" cleaned while he sits around playing video games or wwatching tv and I have to literally yell at him to get his attention. Am I crazy to say I am tired of it all and I want out but don't have the heart to do anything about it.
confusednindiana confusednindiana
22-25, F
1 Response Apr 15, 2012

You are not crazy at all . . . you should not be expected to shoulder all of the burdens of the family. I do not know how old he is, but you both seem way too young to have all of this responsibility. You are under 25 and have 3 kids, one of whom is 9? My guess is that he doesn't feel much like a man . . . no work, 6 kids and you do everything. I am sure that you dont consider him much of a man.<br />
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If you want to save your marriage, he needs to grow up. See if you can get him to see a therapist and sort through his maturity issues. There may be someone there worth saving.