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I Am a Masochist

I Am A Masochist To Some Extent

By: sunbeam22
Written on September 7th, 2012
I like the physical pain within limits. Emotional pain I am completely against. I find the physical is a form of release for me. You tread in dangerous waters though in finding the right person to trust with this.
By: sunbeam22
Age: 41-45 , Female
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  • will999
    will999

    For me the limit is not the intensity of the pain but the possibility of permanent damage. If someone likes the slap, the strap or even the cane or hot wax then each to his own. It is all fun to me so long as it is fun on the receiving end but I would be extremely reluctant to engage in needle play, cutting or burning. What other people do to their bodies for fun is their business but where I am concerned broken bones, dislocated joints or permanent scars fall outside the definition of acceptable fun. All extreme activity involves some risk I suppose but for sane and sensible players, lifelong injury and permanent scars are the result of accidents possibly even a badge of courage but definitely not the OBJECT of the game. At least that's my limit. What others do with/to their body is their business.

    Nov 14, 2012
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  • MrGW
    MrGW

    Physical "pain" can, I've found, be a different thing to different people. I do NOT enjoy inflicting physical pain on my partner. But, in the instance of which I do find it enjoyable, it can be a really exciting aspect to an intimate session between to people. I have a friend who has been my friend for many years; she and I know our limits and completely trust each other. There have been times when part of our intimate play has called for a slap, pinch, or nipple twist. I've got to admit that the thought of having my "bad girl" draped over my knee while I'm administering "corective action" does excite me almost as much as her. What makes our relationship and this sort of playtime possible is the depth of mutual respect, caring, and trust.

    Oct 10, 2012
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    • AlekEagle
      AlekEagle

      I wish I could find someone like that. Im afraid to let anyone know about me. Im afraid they'd think I was weird. My bf thinks that me being a masochist is sickening, so we split.

      Nov 7, 2012
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    • MrGW
      MrGW

      Sorry but I've been away for several days. Anyhow, if you are going to look for someone to be your Dom or just playmate, you MUST be very careful! There are a LOT of total fakes out there who are going to say that they "know what they're doing" when they are just trying to "get their rocks off". Please engage in this activity only with some one whom you can trust. And about your boyfriend, maybe he's just not confident enough in himself to have engaged in this activity, maybe he acted like that because he simply didn't want to please YOU. Good luck and please be very careful.

      Nov 11, 2012
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    • AlekEagle
      AlekEagle

      Thanx : )

      Nov 11, 2012
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    • will999
      will999

      Everyone who is honest about a 'strange' preference risks losing a bf or gf. But not having the courage to be honest is even worse. Now AlekEagle you at least have the opportunity to find someone who is not sickened by your physical needs but actually likes girls being a bit kinky. I hope you find someone you deserve next time.

      Nov 14, 2012
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  • sunbeam22
    sunbeam22

    It is soooooooooooo important to trust the partner you have and also have safety limits set. There is a difference between sensual sadist and someone who is sadistic that wants to cause permanent injury. The person you trust has to know completely what they are doing because permanent injury can occur. Also agreements beforehand are very important! I have a permanent R carved in my *** because I did not know that it would cause a scar I thought it would go away. These things are very important to communicate beforehand!!!!!!!! Safety is paramount.

    Sep 7, 2012
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    • will999
      will999

      Me too. For those of this ilk even very strong sensation is not experienced as pain in certain circumstances. An onlooker who did not understand what was going on would be horrified. Yes it is very hard to linkup with the right person. I often visit a webpage about spanking for fun called http://bottomsmarts.blogspot.com.au/ Lots of enjoyable stories about pleasure and pain and also helpful information for newbies and old hands alike plus links to other informative pages that would otherwise be very hard to find. I frankly don't understand this little kink. Maybe there's nothing to understand. Some of us just enjoy a bit of pain sometimes and that's all there is to it. I agree that safety is paramount. It's enough to send a new lover running for the hills. HA! Do you enjoy SM chat? That may help to indicate a potential partner's proclivities and it may also provide early warning if they are the kind of person who could do serious damage. As you say, communication is very important.

      Sep 7, 2012
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    • sunbeam22
      sunbeam22

      The most important thing is meeting the person in a public place several times and also discussing things so everyone knows their limits. Safety is the number one thing. Talking to others in the lifestyle is very important too. I find fetlife to be a good place for that.

      Sep 7, 2012
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