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I Am a Military Girlfriend

I'm New To This, Just Trying Find Someone To Talk To Who Understands What I'm Going Through.,

By: summerkc
Written on August 13th, 2012
So my boyfriend is in the Marines. Right now he's in 29 palms, California, for his mos school. We're on opposite coasts of the united states, and it's been hard. He only about a month ago. We text all day everyday and that use to be fine. But recently he has started to act weird and different. He use to be all happy when he would text, tell me that he loves me, talk about getting married, and be sweet. But now he's one word texting and being weird, I try to talk to him and tell him he's acting this way, but he doesn't get it. I feel like he's pushing me away or that he's having second thoughts? because of the way he's acting. But he says he loves me and he wants to make it work. Today I told him today that we didn't have to text all day long, so we'll see how that works. i dont want to lose him though. I'm just really upset and have no idea what to do. I feel alone with all this because I have no one to talk to that understands. So I'm hoping to find help here.
By: summerkc
Age: 18-21
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  • summerkc
    summerkc

    I'm so glad I found this site. And have found other people going through the same things as me. Knowing I'm not alone has really helped me. And all the positive reassuring has helped me to take a more positive outlook on my own situation. Thank you all! (:

    Aug 14, 2012
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  • ArmyWife1115
    ArmyWife1115

    I know exactly what you are going through. My boyfriend has been the same way every since he got back from Afghanistan. It is really hard esp because friends do not understand and they automatically tell you that doesn't care or that if he really missed you and wanted to talk to you he would try...but as military gfs we are stronger than anybody will ever know. We deal with more than any other civilian girlfriend would ever deal with. I am currently learning from the same situation and am seeking comfort/advice as well but just know that you are not alone. My boyfriend just flew me to Alaska to visit at his base which was AMAZING and the couple days after I left he would text me or fb message me and tell me how much he loves me, missed me etc, but after a couple days it dwindled down to not speaking a lot and him being moody and short....I think we just have to trust what they say when they tell us they love us and want to be with us. I have three brothers and I have learned that guys are simple, they mean what they say and it doesn't get much deeper than that. As girls we over-think and over-analyze all too much, one of my biggest downfalls, but we just need to have faith and remember to live our own lives while they are doing their own thing. Stay positive and remember you have a huge support system here who truly understands what you are going through.

    Aug 14, 2012
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  • Tantrum614
    Tantrum614

    Trust what he tells you...don't dwell on the fact you guys can't text all day. But also take advantage of the forms of communication you do have. When you have something to say...say it. You will have quiet times. Take it as an opportunity to do something for yourself. Go out for a run, get a hobby, this is time for you. Just because he can't respond to you as you would like for him to, dont think its the end. Just keep positive. Its whats gonna get you through this. If not its going to tear you apart.

    Aug 14, 2012
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  • Wesleysgrl63
    Wesleysgrl63

    Hey.. Well ive been through the same thingn with my bf.. Hes in the AF and his first duty station was in Cape Cod, MA and we're from Los Angeles, CA. When he first left after tech school to his first stationed area, he did the exact same thing. I mean we didnt text while he was at work but other then that it we did.. a couple months went by and the same thing started happening to us.. I felt like it was falling apart.. :(.. Ive been in your same shoes so dont get discouraged.. its hard on them, being away from family and friends.. so they love feeling close to you but then when they get used to being away and meet new friends they tend to distance themselves.. seriously ibe been through everything lol.. weve been together almost 7 years two of them have been with him in the militray and weve broken up and gotten back together.. so message me! im def here! hang in there <3

    Aug 13, 2012
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