I Need Some Advice

My boyfriend left 3 weeks ago for Basic Training. I've written to him everyday and things are going well between us. I can honestly say I've never loved anyone more than how much I love him right now. I know he's the one, I just know it. It's something you can't explain but I know it feels right. One of his letters actually said that he is going to ask my parent's permission and buy me a "nice, shiny ring" when he gets home in (hopefully) December! And his mom also received a letter in the mail the other day that was all about me and how he knows that "I'm the one" and he's done searching because he has all he ever needs. Which leads me to think he is going to propose when he comes home after tech school! I couldn't be happier knowing that my hero wants me in his life forever. The only dilemma is... We are both very young (I will be 17 by Christmas and he will be turning 19 in January). I love him with my whole heart and I'm not scared of taking this huge step with him, I just worry about what everyone will say about it.

Also, we would take our time with the engagement. I want to get married once, and I want it to be everything I ever hoped it would be :) I just need some words of advice and input, is it really that bad if I know that I want to be with him forever? Or is anyone experiencing a similar situation? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
agentkswizzle agentkswizzle
18-21, F
3 Responses Sep 10, 2012

I just turned 19, I've been with my fiance since I was 17, and I can tell you right now that it doesn't matter how old you are because once you know, you just know, my man left a week ago for Basic, and he told me that once he's back from that we're going to finally get married, he even told him mom when we were 17 that I was the one he was going to be with for the rest of his life. I know I'm a little older than you, but I know for a fact that age will never matter. If this is what you want then go for it, no matter what anyone else thinks, your happiness is what's important. Taking your time with the engagement is also a very good thing, make sure that everything is how you imagined (as far as the wedding goes.) and while you guys are just engaged make sure that no matter what you two go through you are both willing to stick it out. That's how I know me and my man will make it, since me and him have already been through hell together and neither one of us have gave up on the other. Keep in mind (this goes for you both) that things will happen and nothing is ever going to be perfect, it takes a lot of work to keep a marriage together, and a relationship. <br />
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Good luck lovely, and stay strong (:

Thank you so much! I've realized that our relationship will never be "perfect". The two of us have also gone through so much, and came out stronger on the other side. I've realized that if we work through the rough spots and talk everything out, everything ends up better on the other side.

Good luck to you too! :)

Age difference isn't that big of a deal and I agree on the taking your time with the engagement. My friends who married young(like 18, 19) thought they had the one and jumped into marriage thinking it was the right way to go and learned that it wasn't. Of course, that's only my personal opinion, I'm 23 and marriage for me and my guy is the last thought on our mind(if it had even crossed our minds), so it's what feels right for you.<br />
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Good luck!

That's what I'm worried about, because something happening to our relationship scares me so much. Thank you for the advice!

if u were u take things slowly id say its fine as am 19 and my guy is 22 and weve had the same feelings for 7 years... thats us just talkin about marriage etc.. aslong as your happy go with your heart <3

Thanks for the advice! His mom actually told me that the age gap won't matter between us once I'm out of high school :) Which was really reassuring to hear and knowing that she's on our side in this

yeahh it doesnt.. that was our problem we went out when i was in first year he was in forth.. so it wasnt big to us just everyone else.. now we dont have any problems with that..

im 21 and my boyfriend is 31. most people see that and think that im just in it for funsies or that im goldigging or something, but the age difference really doesn't matter once you're out of high school. as long as you love each other and are committed to making it work.