3 Days Until Life Changes...

Hello everyone!

I'm in some serious need of encouragement. My boyfriend of a year and a half is deploying for 11 months straight (no leave) to Guantanamo Bay and he's leaving Friday. I don't think my heart's ever felt so broken and he hasn't even left yet! I'm pretty sure that the anticipation is what's hurting so bad. I think that when he leaves life will begin to move forward (*hopefully*) but until then... I feel so guilty that I still have work and classes this week and can't spend all my time with him. Does anyone have any advice for dealing with the pre-deployment anticipation? It would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance!

kaetlynm kaetlynm
18-21, F
1 Response Sep 25, 2012

I'm currently in the middle of a 13 month deployment with my bf. We still have about 6 more months to go. I am not going to lie and say that everything has been perfect, but the one thing that I have learned during the deployment is that WE have to be the strong ones...the minute they see us break down is when their world falls apart. The first few months were really hard on me...but it got better. I had a conversation with my guy that ended up in him telling me how guilty he feels for leaving me...that crushed me more than anything. I decided not to be angry anymore...its not his fault...its his job and I had to support that. So stay strong...you will get through it!

As far as pre-deployment anticipation goes I think the best thing that we did was go about life as normal and spend a normal amount of time together but REALLY enjoy that time. We did not really get sad and cry (I might have a couple times haha) but we just did things that we really liked doing together and talked about things that were really meaningful to us. It is good that you are in school and working...it will keep you busy and he will know that you are not just sitting around miserable. Good luck!