New And Confused.

I am completely new at this! I have no idea what I am doing. Me and my guy are not actually officially dating. I think he is waiting until he comes home to make it official. We have been good friends for the longest time. I know a lot of you don't hardly get to talk to your man/woman, and this may seem childish but my guy is just on base. And we use to talk all the time every day. recently he hasn't been talking as much. My friends don't understand. I don't know if I should leave him alone for a while or keep trying to communicate with him. All of this happened after we had a serious conversation. I don't know what to think. Like I said this will seem childish to most of you but I have never done distance before. I don't know what to think. Any comments?
somecountrygirl somecountrygirl
18-21, F
2 Responses Jan 12, 2013

hey! What branch is your man in?
I just wanted to let you know that I completely understand how you feel. my boyfriend went to army ranger training just 1 day before our two months and they couldn't write letters or talk to us for 11 weeks! talk about stressed. I wrote letters daily about everything that was going on so he didn't miss out on anything. Once he graduated ranger training (which I wasn't allowed to attend b/c i am only a girlfriend-not a spouse) he left straight for virginia for additional training classes. Once they are thrown into a new envirnoment they do take a lot of stress onto themselves
Just keep in mind that not a moment goes by that he isn't thinking about being home, talking to you all the time and spending every moment with you. They are very short on time but when they see a text or a missed call and a voicemail from us, it means the world to them.
Something that my boyfriend reminds me of daily is that we have other distractions to keep ourselves busy during the day...they don't. All they think about is being home again.

I hope this helped a little! If you ever need anything let me know!

Well as I said. We aren't official yet but he is Air Force. He's been stationed in Germany for I don't even know how long. And if he misses me do much why is he on Skype and not replying. Why isn't he replying to my texts. Idk. I'm giving him his space. I don't want to push him.

This is all new for me too but sometimes I give my man a few days an then message him and he responds, tho this week I text him daily because I had something happen to me and he's kinda the only one who helps my anxiety

I just hate not talking to him. We texted for like 5 minutes around 3 am my time. And then he stopped replying. I just dont know

The only thing I can tell you is that they go through alot and it can be very stressful. I know with Ryan he's been super busy lately but since I had my car accident he's been more responsive cause he wants to make sure I'm ok

Yeah. I know things get stressful for him. I recently got sick and it's almost as if he doesn't care. :/ Ill just leave him alone for a while and hope that helps.

Let him be for like 2 or 3 days then message him. I do that with Ryan all the time and it works. But even then I also tell him daily that I love him but we've been together since may and unfortunately our whole relationship has been developed from a distance because he went through a bunch of training before he got deployed

Alright. Thank you! Ill try that.

Any time and if you ever need to talk feel fee to message me.

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