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Boyfriend Is Leaving For Boot Camp :(

I have been with my bf for a year now. He just left for bootcamp yesterday. Anyone have any advice?

bonbon87 bonbon87 22-25 69 Responses Jan 8, 2009

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Im actually a guy and im going to be going through the same thing. My girlfriend has planned on going to the marines before she met me. I thought once we got serious and talked about a serious future she would change her mind about going away like that. I was wrong and she recently told me she would be joining after graduation. It kills me so much to know she is able to leave for so long. She says she is still going to be with me and that she wants me to wait for her. I dont know how im going to deal with it. Its my first girlfriend and i have been planning for it to be my last girlfriend but with this 4 years that i will barely see her, my future with her is fading away and she seems to not notice because she is too self centered. I feel like im trapped.

Hey ..and i can tell you as i type this i will begin crying... But me & my boyfriend are both in highschool..wellll he just graduated and im an upcoming senior..after he graduated he joined the army and i knew that one day something was going to come up where we would have to be distant...this is my first relationship and im 17 .. Its so hard because i never really was into boys until i met him..but knowing that two months from now he will be leaving me is the hardest thing im going through...i find myself crying every other night and he hasnt left yet.. We talk every single day and to know that he will be gone just like that hurts my soul.. I talk to my mom because shes a army wife & she tells me stories on how she delt with it, i know im young but my emotions have me going crazy & i bust out crying whenever somebody brings up the military.. I just pray for every girl or woman going through this ..but the hardest thing im scared of is that he wont feel the same any more when he comes back from basic.. I just pray and ask god to help me deal with my emotions since im very young, i just hope if its meant to be it will ...

Hi everyone. My boyfriend and me have been together for a little less than a year now and he will be shipping out for Parris Island at the end of next month. To be honest, I have felt so many different emotions about this and I change my mind a lot about whether I want to stay with him or not. He says that he joined the marines for me so he could provide for me and a family in the future. I know he loves me more than life itself especially if he is doing this for not only himself but also for me. But I just don't know if I can handle the long distance. I love him more than anything but I'm a full time college student now and a lot can happen and people can change over four years. I would love to stay with him if I could handle it but I'm scared that if I try it won't work out and I'll break his heart by leaving him. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks so much!

The mixed emotions are completely normal. My Boyfriend is in the Air Force and i think about and feel every which way. Its all the mind trying to pick and choose from experiences in order to protect yourself from getting hurt. Its a huge vulnerability, which no one likes. I hope it all is working out and you chose to give this a try.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and he just left for bootcamp yesterday and I haven't stopped crying since. The last time we talked was Sunday and it feels more like ages. Everytime I walk past couples holding hands or kissing I can't help but break out in tears. I feel so selfish crying all the time when he is the one going through the torment over in Georgia but I can't help myself. This is officially one off the hardest things I've had to go through and I feel all alone since he left. I started college last week and I've been scaring everyone off with my tears lol I'm surrounded by people but I'm the lonliest I've ever been. From anyones experience about how long should it be until I get a letter from him?

My boyfriend is leaving February 25, two days before our anniversary. We have been living together since July. He is the most important thing in my life. I am at my wit's end. It has been three days since we both learned when he would be leaving...

I have cried every single day - and he's not even gone yet. I'm scared and I'm at two ends of the spectrum right now. I am really happy that he is pursuing his goals. Being in the Army will present him with a number of opportunities. He will be able to finish his Bachelor's Degree and this opportunity has let him pursue his desire to serve his country...

At the other end, I am worried that he fall out of love with me. I'm worried that he won't love me as much and I'm even worried that I will grow to resent him the longer he is gone. I can't imagine doing so but my mind is swimming with every possible scenario and I have been waking up the last three nights... Just thinking and contemplating and worrying.

I already have plans to write him - I am thinking I will send a week's worth of letters at a time so he can read about my week. Also in the summer of 2013, I plan to study abroad in France. I should be done right before he comes home... Other than that, I am at a loss at what I should do. I have read suggestions on this site and I do plan on throwing myself into school. I am also thinking about taking up a new hobby but I am not sure what it would be...

As many girls have asked: How do you get through it?

WRITE!!, Write Him as much as you can. My boyfriend left for basic at fort jackson Sept. 24, it was really hard at first but it does get easier. He also said that getting my letters is what keeps him at bay about everything he's going through.

My boyfriend is leaving tomorrow and I'm so full of mixed emotions. It's hard to believe that this day is here I'm gonna miss him so much I'm so in love with him and we spend so much time together I have no idea how I'm gonna get through these next few months. It's going to be so hard but I have to stay strong for him. It's only going to make our bond stronger. I'm scared nd excited at the same time. I never thought that I'd be in relationship with someone in the military but I think it's to make me a stronger person I feel like we are meant to be and I've never been so proud of someone in my life and because of that it's worth the wait. Any advice for getting through this would be so kind and helpful thank you so much

I'm basically in the same position as you with my boyfriend right now but he has been gone for almost 3 months now. The hardest part so far was definitely bootcamp for us! He is now in Texas and calls me every night, bootcamp seems like it lasts forever but the best thing for you to do Is to stay as busy as possible so you aren't constantly thinking about how much you miss him! Try to write letters as much as you can, it will help both of you guys and it will help him through it so much better always getting to read your letters! Stay strong, you can do this! Best of wishes for you and your boyfriend!:)

Its almost been 2 weeks and it feels like an eternity ahh but I finally got my first letter it made everything a bit better! Thank u so much for your support and words they are very encouraging!

My boyfriend leaves this Wednesday and I just got back from stay the night with hi and it was so hard for me to look at him and no I won't be able to talk to him or see him. I didn't think it was going to hurt this much to know he is leaving. And he has invited me to dinner with his family and I am going to have to stay calm and know he will be back.

I will be seeing my boyfriend again in exactly two weeks. It is so weird, because the last night we spent together feels like more of a dream or a movie than an actual experience. I know things are hard there, but he never fails to write me. Everytime he goes more than a few days without writing he apologizes multiple times and he always writes something especially sweet on the back of the envelopes he mails me. my personal favorites are "To my princess" and one I recieved today "Para el amor de me vida." It's as if he doesn't care who sees how he feels about me, whether it be a DI or the east coast branch of the US Postal Service :P It's nice to know that he understands I need his love and support as much as he needs mine. This has been such a strange experience, but I think I've grown so much for it. I cannot wait to see him again<3... But for anyone else just getting started. It's not as bad as you think it will be. Throw yourself into your work, school work, extracurricular activities, and community clubs. Indulge in some "R&R" and "me time" do things you love and the time will pass by quickly. Oh, and nights out with the girls always helped me blow off some steam. It'll go by fast if you don't dwell on the negatives and live for you, no matter what he misses while he's gone. The last thing he would want is to know that you were sitting around miserable all the time. He would probably feel responsible!

My boyfriend leaves on the 9th of October. We have been together for three years on the 31st of October, so I'll miss that... And I'm just really trying to spend all of my time with him. He just doesn't want to... I guess he is scared it will make it harder to leave..... I love this man with all my heart. And he comes back for Christmas!! :)

My bf is gunna be shipped off for air force basic training in 2 weeks and weve been togther for 3& 1/2 years im trying to have fun with our last week togther but everytime i look at him i just wanna cry he's the only person i talk to the most its gunna be hard not talking like we use to or if i need comfort to just call him and im scared for our relationship cause i heard the military changes people big time i dont want him coming back and not wanting to be with me anymore im just really struggling with this and its hard staying positive when all you can think of is the what ifs , how long is it gunna be tell i hear from him again?

My fiance and i have been together for three years and we just got engaged like 2 weeks ago and today on my 20th birthday he left for basic..i had already said goodbye to him on monday. but he surprised me today with a phone call saying i could spend time with him at the airport before he actually shipped. i couldnt have asked for anything more perfect. What i think will get us both by is to think of it as something that he is doing for the both of you. it makes you both stronger. he isnt the only one going through basic, you are doing it to in your own way. he gets smoked by his drill sargent and you get smoked by having everything around you remind you of him. its tough for everyone around. write him as many letters as you can. he is going to need them more than you know. and write about anything and everything you can. he will love the attachment of home

Write him a bunch of letters.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and he is shipped off for air force basic the day before our anniversary. I've known about this since even before we were together and I've always felt like it was some distant event and I would deal with it when it came... But he leaves in less than two weeks and I'm scared. Scared for him. Scared for our relationship. I'm gonna miss him so much... Is it really a smart idea to write letters every day? Does that help? I'm so used to talking to him and being with him all the time that I don't know how I'll be able to handle having to quit him cold turkey for eight weeks... What should I write about? How much I miss him? What my day is like? What I had for breakfast?

Keep in touch with girls on here. Don't know what I would have done without all these amazing women :-) also try to do something for yourself. We worry about our men all the time but it helps to keep yourself In mind. I started painting and got my pictures hung in a local coffee shop. It was a big accomplishment and it will be something to share and brag about w my bf. So try new things. Also write to.him when ur feeling down. Just write about ur day and how you are doing. It helps to feel close with ur man. I hope this all helps. :-)

My boyfriend and I are both 20 and have been together for almost a year now, and he left for basic about 8 weeks ago. I'm so glad it's almost over, it really has been the most emotionally challenging experience for me. But he unknowingly inspires me to be stronger when I remind myself that what he's going through must be a thousand times harder. Remember, he's not just missing you, but on top of that missing everyone he knows and is being put through so many more physical and emotional challenges every single day. I've cried when I miss him terribly, I've cried of happiness every time I've gotten a letter. But I've also learned so much, and it has most definitely made our relationship stronger.The biggest thing I've learned is patience. Waiting for letters, waiting for him to come home.. you have to keep yourself busy with things that A-you genuinely love and B- don't remind you of your significant other. <br />
But now I have a dilemma. My boyfriend's family is going on vacation after they pick him up from graduation (he's not going straight to AIT) which means by the time they get back, I will only have at most 5 days to spend with him before I leave for college 6.5 hours away. I REALLY REALLY really really want to go to Family day/Graduation/ Beach vacation with them so I can spend more time with him, but I can't bring myself to ask that of his family. Should I just suck it up and ask? I've never had any problems with their family but I feel like that's a lot to ask. I don't want to pressure them or have them think I'm rude for imposing. I'd fly down for the graduation by myself, but I can't afford it :( Advice ?! PLEASE HELP.

(not to mention he'll be on vacation on our 'one year')

I didn't know there was a website like this. But it's amazing to know that there are other people going thorough the same thing. Me an my boyfriend have been together or nine months now. As of today. He's leaving for parris island on Sunday. I try not to think about it. Everytime I do I start to get upset again. I know in time it will be okay but it still hurts.

My boyfriend is leaving for boot camp at the beginning of next year. We will be together a year a half when he leaves for basic. None of my friends have ever been through anything like this and they are trying to help but they just don't really know how to. My boyfriend is going into the marines so he will be away at basic for 13 weeks. I just wanted to know how you guys kept yourself busy and were able to handle being separated. I really need to know since he wants to be in for twenty years. Thanks!

Wow 20 years. Going to be honest here. It's probably going to hurt. But you should be proud of him. That's dedication. And the marines are the toughest of the tough. Personally I think the best way to get through it is to write letter after letter after letter. A few months before my boyfriend is supposed to leave I have been writing a letter a day so after two weeks I will have a large stack to send him. Also, if you have a job throw yourself into work. It will keep your mind busy as well as any hobbies or interests. And friends. Do not forget friends. God bless. Semper Fi.

im 20 years old with no kids. my husband is leaving in june. we been bestfriends since 9th grade. im nervous about him leaving too . you are not alone .....

My bf of a year and a half broke up about 3 weeks ago he is leaving to navy bootcamp in a little less then 2 months and says he doesn't want a relationship RIGHT NOW but who knows maybe we can work things out later.. I don't know what to think I'm trying to be understanding but I am so confused and I told him that I'd wait for him and be supportive the ENTIRE way.. Any advice or anything anyone?

I´m trying to write the first letter for my fiance, he just left for boot camp (Air Force) and I´m trying to not make it sad or make him feel down because i miss him, i feel like when i write its not coming out happy and proud, its coming out like i really miss him... i need help....

My fiance is leaving in a couple days for the airforce basic training and will be gone for about 6 months. We have been together for two years and rarely have spent even a day apart. How have you been handeling it?

It's ok that they don't come out positive and up beat yet. Mine haven't sounded like that till week four. Your man will understand. Just try and talk about your day. What you read, watched, even doing the dishes. These small things were what my bf always says he enjoys in his letters. I hope this helps. :-)

This is great advice! although he´s now in active duty, we had some rough times, but over all it has been a great experience and we´re both better for it :) I think that this is one of the greatest challenges for a couple! For all of you just starting this journey, Keep you spirits up!

Me and my boyfriend have been together for eight months and he left for basic training in August. he came back for christmas, but only for a week and tomorrow he is leaving again. The only thing I can say that helps to make the time go faster is keeping your self busy. especially when he is in basic. I only got one letter from him the whole time, but that is the best letter I have ever gotten. And when he texted me after not having heard from him for almost three months, I can just say that I cried really hard. But Definitely stay busy! And its alright if you want to curse, cry, scream, or throw things when you miss them terribly. It happens but the main thing is is that you have to stay strong for them, but also let them know that you miss them and love them, because obviously if you have come this far with him, he misses and loves you too.

Im 16. i been with my boyfriend for 10 months. He gets shiped off August 28 to Georgia for 6 months for basic training. But i will still be in school when he leaves. I think about it too much. So many negative thoughts. any advice?

im talking to this kid who could possibly be leaving for bootcamp any day..the next ship date is sunday and if anyone misses he is next in line. he keeps telling me he wants me to live my life normal but i know that if he goes away and we stay together nothing is going to be the same and or normal. i dont know what to do

i'm really happy that i found this website, there are so many positive comments about staying strong :) me and my bf have been together since january, he leaves for basic at the end of march. so happy that i have a few more months to spend time with him! i have bad anxiety as it is so this is making it much worse and im so stressed out about his leave. i believe i can stay strong and work through this as long as i stay connected with his family and his dog!!<br />
so to the army girlfriends:<br />
do you really write a letter and send it out everyday?<br />
maybe ill understand when he leaves<br />
i would love more advice and would like to chat more!

my boyfriend has been gone for 7 days now and it sucks so bad :( i miss him but he will be home for x mas :) i joined to meet women around my age cuase im new to this whole military thing and not really sure what to expect and all that :) so lets talk if u want :)

my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. he leaves for basci training on our one year anniversary. an dhe will be gone for 13 weeks and then he will spend a year in florida for his MOS. this has been worrying me since we got together. but i think what has me 'prepared" in a sense is that i will spend my time studying bc i am a full time college student. i want to keep my self busy so im not constantly missing him. although missing him is good espcially when i get those letters. i will be in tears for hours.( yes i cry at almost everything) but i need to write and tell him howmuch i miss him and what is going on back here at home. i need to support him. and NO DEAR JOHN LETTERS!! (he stressed that)

my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. he leaves for basci training on our one year anniversary. an dhe will be gone for 13 weeks and then he will spend a year in florida for his MOS. this has been worrying me since we got together. but i think what has me 'prepared" in a sense is that i will spend my time studying bc i am a full time college student. i want to keep my self busy so im not constantly missing him. although missing him is good espcially when i get those letters. i will be in tears for hours.( yes i cry at almost everything) but i need to write and tell him howmuch i miss him and what is going on back here at home. i need to support him. and NO DEAR JOHN LETTERS!! (he stressed that)

My boyfriend left for bootcamp in illinois this past April. It sucks knowing I have to wait until October to see him:(. It already been hard enough surviving a month without him but surviving another 5?? How am I gonna do that? Any advice would be great since none of my friends truly know what I'm going through. :)

My fiancé is leaving in two weeks. He'll be gone for 6 1/2 months. I don't know how I'll do it. We live together already, but as it is, I only get to see him on the weekends because of college. But we Skype for hours a day. I have been crying all day because if finally hit me that its so close. I have a feeling I'll be visiting his mom alot...