Boyfriend Is Leaving For Boot Camp :(

I have been with my bf for a year now. He just left for bootcamp yesterday. Anyone have any advice?

bonbon87 bonbon87
71 Responses Jan 8, 2009

I just want to start out by saying that I am so glad I found this page! It's so encouraging to see that I'm not alone in any of this...I'm 19 years old and live in Saint Louis Mo.
My boyfriend left for Navy boot camp 2 days ago...I got to spend the day with him because he's part of a special group called the cardinal company. I consider myself blessed for being able to watch him march through STL then getting to witness him get sworn in on the STL cardinals baseball field...Saying "see ya later" is seriously the hardest thing I have ever had to do...I'm seriously dragging around and it's only been a day and a half. I love this man with all my heart...When he left he took half of my heart with him. I'm so proud of him for following his dream of being in the Navy! But my heart hurts so unbelievably bad... encouragement or advice would be appreciated!

Boyfriend is leaving in 3 weeks for boot camp. I found myself today going into a huge depression to the fact of him being gone so long. I would really like so advice on what to do. Any help?

Hey, did you end up getting advice? My boyfriend left for boot camp on sept 19th and I'm already so depressed

my is at his training school but when he was away I just went to the gym and tried to think of what this meant to him I had to be supportive of him when he was home for the 10 day

Im actually a guy and im going to be going through the same thing. My girlfriend has planned on going to the marines before she met me. I thought once we got serious and talked about a serious future she would change her mind about going away like that. I was wrong and she recently told me she would be joining after graduation. It kills me so much to know she is able to leave for so long. She says she is still going to be with me and that she wants me to wait for her. I dont know how im going to deal with it. Its my first girlfriend and i have been planning for it to be my last girlfriend but with this 4 years that i will barely see her, my future with her is fading away and she seems to not notice because she is too self centered. I feel like im trapped.

Hey yeah that is very disrespectful I've been with my boyfriend for more than a year he's going into the army and even tho I want him to stay I love him and I'll stay with him through anything I'm glad he's doing what makes him happy they are both doing something so great for this country and if you want to call her selfish?! She loves you or she wouldnt ask you to wait for her you know if you propose to her you get a better chance of seeing her more Now you need to stop being disrespectful

Hey ..and i can tell you as i type this i will begin crying... But me & my boyfriend are both in highschool..wellll he just graduated and im an upcoming senior..after he graduated he joined the army and i knew that one day something was going to come up where we would have to be distant...this is my first relationship and im 17 .. Its so hard because i never really was into boys until i met him..but knowing that two months from now he will be leaving me is the hardest thing im going through...i find myself crying every other night and he hasnt left yet.. We talk every single day and to know that he will be gone just like that hurts my soul.. I talk to my mom because shes a army wife & she tells me stories on how she delt with it, i know im young but my emotions have me going crazy & i bust out crying whenever somebody brings up the military.. I just pray for every girl or woman going through this ..but the hardest thing im scared of is that he wont feel the same any more when he comes back from basic.. I just pray and ask god to help me deal with my emotions since im very young, i just hope if its meant to be it will ...

Hi everyone. My boyfriend and me have been together for a little less than a year now and he will be shipping out for Parris Island at the end of next month. To be honest, I have felt so many different emotions about this and I change my mind a lot about whether I want to stay with him or not. He says that he joined the marines for me so he could provide for me and a family in the future. I know he loves me more than life itself especially if he is doing this for not only himself but also for me. But I just don't know if I can handle the long distance. I love him more than anything but I'm a full time college student now and a lot can happen and people can change over four years. I would love to stay with him if I could handle it but I'm scared that if I try it won't work out and I'll break his heart by leaving him. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks so much!

The mixed emotions are completely normal. My Boyfriend is in the Air Force and i think about and feel every which way. Its all the mind trying to pick and choose from experiences in order to protect yourself from getting hurt. Its a huge vulnerability, which no one likes. I hope it all is working out and you chose to give this a try.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and he just left for bootcamp yesterday and I haven't stopped crying since. The last time we talked was Sunday and it feels more like ages. Everytime I walk past couples holding hands or kissing I can't help but break out in tears. I feel so selfish crying all the time when he is the one going through the torment over in Georgia but I can't help myself. This is officially one off the hardest things I've had to go through and I feel all alone since he left. I started college last week and I've been scaring everyone off with my tears lol I'm surrounded by people but I'm the lonliest I've ever been. From anyones experience about how long should it be until I get a letter from him?

Hi kassie1, I'm currently in your situation. It's my freshmen year in college and my boyfriend of 2 years has been in the army a couple weeks. I waited 18 days to get a letter from him and on top of that I missed his one and only call when I was in class. All I can do his read his letters and cry. I'm just wondering how you got through it. Did you simply distract yourself? I'm trying to make new friends and keep busy, but at night I can't seem to keep it together.

My boyfriend is leaving February 25, two days before our anniversary. We have been living together since July. He is the most important thing in my life. I am at my wit's end. It has been three days since we both learned when he would be leaving...

I have cried every single day - and he's not even gone yet. I'm scared and I'm at two ends of the spectrum right now. I am really happy that he is pursuing his goals. Being in the Army will present him with a number of opportunities. He will be able to finish his Bachelor's Degree and this opportunity has let him pursue his desire to serve his country...

At the other end, I am worried that he fall out of love with me. I'm worried that he won't love me as much and I'm even worried that I will grow to resent him the longer he is gone. I can't imagine doing so but my mind is swimming with every possible scenario and I have been waking up the last three nights... Just thinking and contemplating and worrying.

I already have plans to write him - I am thinking I will send a week's worth of letters at a time so he can read about my week. Also in the summer of 2013, I plan to study abroad in France. I should be done right before he comes home... Other than that, I am at a loss at what I should do. I have read suggestions on this site and I do plan on throwing myself into school. I am also thinking about taking up a new hobby but I am not sure what it would be...

As many girls have asked: How do you get through it?

WRITE!!, Write Him as much as you can. My boyfriend left for basic at fort jackson Sept. 24, it was really hard at first but it does get easier. He also said that getting my letters is what keeps him at bay about everything he's going through.

My boyfriend is leaving tomorrow and I'm so full of mixed emotions. It's hard to believe that this day is here I'm gonna miss him so much I'm so in love with him and we spend so much time together I have no idea how I'm gonna get through these next few months. It's going to be so hard but I have to stay strong for him. It's only going to make our bond stronger. I'm scared nd excited at the same time. I never thought that I'd be in relationship with someone in the military but I think it's to make me a stronger person I feel like we are meant to be and I've never been so proud of someone in my life and because of that it's worth the wait. Any advice for getting through this would be so kind and helpful thank you so much

I'm basically in the same position as you with my boyfriend right now but he has been gone for almost 3 months now. The hardest part so far was definitely bootcamp for us! He is now in Texas and calls me every night, bootcamp seems like it lasts forever but the best thing for you to do Is to stay as busy as possible so you aren't constantly thinking about how much you miss him! Try to write letters as much as you can, it will help both of you guys and it will help him through it so much better always getting to read your letters! Stay strong, you can do this! Best of wishes for you and your boyfriend!:)

Its almost been 2 weeks and it feels like an eternity ahh but I finally got my first letter it made everything a bit better! Thank u so much for your support and words they are very encouraging!

My boyfriend leaves this Wednesday and I just got back from stay the night with hi and it was so hard for me to look at him and no I won't be able to talk to him or see him. I didn't think it was going to hurt this much to know he is leaving. And he has invited me to dinner with his family and I am going to have to stay calm and know he will be back.

I will be seeing my boyfriend again in exactly two weeks. It is so weird, because the last night we spent together feels like more of a dream or a movie than an actual experience. I know things are hard there, but he never fails to write me. Everytime he goes more than a few days without writing he apologizes multiple times and he always writes something especially sweet on the back of the envelopes he mails me. my personal favorites are "To my princess" and one I recieved today "Para el amor de me vida." It's as if he doesn't care who sees how he feels about me, whether it be a DI or the east coast branch of the US Postal Service :P It's nice to know that he understands I need his love and support as much as he needs mine. This has been such a strange experience, but I think I've grown so much for it. I cannot wait to see him again<3... But for anyone else just getting started. It's not as bad as you think it will be. Throw yourself into your work, school work, extracurricular activities, and community clubs. Indulge in some "R&R" and "me time" do things you love and the time will pass by quickly. Oh, and nights out with the girls always helped me blow off some steam. It'll go by fast if you don't dwell on the negatives and live for you, no matter what he misses while he's gone. The last thing he would want is to know that you were sitting around miserable all the time. He would probably feel responsible!

My boyfriend leaves on the 9th of October. We have been together for three years on the 31st of October, so I'll miss that... And I'm just really trying to spend all of my time with him. He just doesn't want to... I guess he is scared it will make it harder to leave..... I love this man with all my heart. And he comes back for Christmas!! :)

My bf is gunna be shipped off for air force basic training in 2 weeks and weve been togther for 3& 1/2 years im trying to have fun with our last week togther but everytime i look at him i just wanna cry he's the only person i talk to the most its gunna be hard not talking like we use to or if i need comfort to just call him and im scared for our relationship cause i heard the military changes people big time i dont want him coming back and not wanting to be with me anymore im just really struggling with this and its hard staying positive when all you can think of is the what ifs , how long is it gunna be tell i hear from him again?

My fiance and i have been together for three years and we just got engaged like 2 weeks ago and today on my 20th birthday he left for basic..i had already said goodbye to him on monday. but he surprised me today with a phone call saying i could spend time with him at the airport before he actually shipped. i couldnt have asked for anything more perfect. What i think will get us both by is to think of it as something that he is doing for the both of you. it makes you both stronger. he isnt the only one going through basic, you are doing it to in your own way. he gets smoked by his drill sargent and you get smoked by having everything around you remind you of him. its tough for everyone around. write him as many letters as you can. he is going to need them more than you know. and write about anything and everything you can. he will love the attachment of home

Write him a bunch of letters.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and he is shipped off for air force basic the day before our anniversary. I've known about this since even before we were together and I've always felt like it was some distant event and I would deal with it when it came... But he leaves in less than two weeks and I'm scared. Scared for him. Scared for our relationship. I'm gonna miss him so much... Is it really a smart idea to write letters every day? Does that help? I'm so used to talking to him and being with him all the time that I don't know how I'll be able to handle having to quit him cold turkey for eight weeks... What should I write about? How much I miss him? What my day is like? What I had for breakfast?

Keep in touch with girls on here. Don't know what I would have done without all these amazing women :-) also try to do something for yourself. We worry about our men all the time but it helps to keep yourself In mind. I started painting and got my pictures hung in a local coffee shop. It was a big accomplishment and it will be something to share and brag about w my bf. So try new things. Also write to.him when ur feeling down. Just write about ur day and how you are doing. It helps to feel close with ur man. I hope this all helps. :-)

My boyfriend and I are both 20 and have been together for almost a year now, and he left for basic about 8 weeks ago. I'm so glad it's almost over, it really has been the most emotionally challenging experience for me. But he unknowingly inspires me to be stronger when I remind myself that what he's going through must be a thousand times harder. Remember, he's not just missing you, but on top of that missing everyone he knows and is being put through so many more physical and emotional challenges every single day. I've cried when I miss him terribly, I've cried of happiness every time I've gotten a letter. But I've also learned so much, and it has most definitely made our relationship stronger.The biggest thing I've learned is patience. Waiting for letters, waiting for him to come home.. you have to keep yourself busy with things that A-you genuinely love and B- don't remind you of your significant other. <br />
But now I have a dilemma. My boyfriend's family is going on vacation after they pick him up from graduation (he's not going straight to AIT) which means by the time they get back, I will only have at most 5 days to spend with him before I leave for college 6.5 hours away. I REALLY REALLY really really want to go to Family day/Graduation/ Beach vacation with them so I can spend more time with him, but I can't bring myself to ask that of his family. Should I just suck it up and ask? I've never had any problems with their family but I feel like that's a lot to ask. I don't want to pressure them or have them think I'm rude for imposing. I'd fly down for the graduation by myself, but I can't afford it :( Advice ?! PLEASE HELP.

(not to mention he'll be on vacation on our 'one year')

I didn't know there was a website like this. But it's amazing to know that there are other people going thorough the same thing. Me an my boyfriend have been together or nine months now. As of today. He's leaving for parris island on Sunday. I try not to think about it. Everytime I do I start to get upset again. I know in time it will be okay but it still hurts.

My boyfriend is leaving for boot camp at the beginning of next year. We will be together a year a half when he leaves for basic. None of my friends have ever been through anything like this and they are trying to help but they just don't really know how to. My boyfriend is going into the marines so he will be away at basic for 13 weeks. I just wanted to know how you guys kept yourself busy and were able to handle being separated. I really need to know since he wants to be in for twenty years. Thanks!

Wow 20 years. Going to be honest here. It's probably going to hurt. But you should be proud of him. That's dedication. And the marines are the toughest of the tough. Personally I think the best way to get through it is to write letter after letter after letter. A few months before my boyfriend is supposed to leave I have been writing a letter a day so after two weeks I will have a large stack to send him. Also, if you have a job throw yourself into work. It will keep your mind busy as well as any hobbies or interests. And friends. Do not forget friends. God bless. Semper Fi.

im 20 years old with no kids. my husband is leaving in june. we been bestfriends since 9th grade. im nervous about him leaving too . you are not alone .....

My bf of a year and a half broke up about 3 weeks ago he is leaving to navy bootcamp in a little less then 2 months and says he doesn't want a relationship RIGHT NOW but who knows maybe we can work things out later.. I don't know what to think I'm trying to be understanding but I am so confused and I told him that I'd wait for him and be supportive the ENTIRE way.. Any advice or anything anyone?

I´m trying to write the first letter for my fiance, he just left for boot camp (Air Force) and I´m trying to not make it sad or make him feel down because i miss him, i feel like when i write its not coming out happy and proud, its coming out like i really miss him... i need help....

My fiance is leaving in a couple days for the airforce basic training and will be gone for about 6 months. We have been together for two years and rarely have spent even a day apart. How have you been handeling it?

It's ok that they don't come out positive and up beat yet. Mine haven't sounded like that till week four. Your man will understand. Just try and talk about your day. What you read, watched, even doing the dishes. These small things were what my bf always says he enjoys in his letters. I hope this helps. :-)

This is great advice! although he´s now in active duty, we had some rough times, but over all it has been a great experience and we´re both better for it :) I think that this is one of the greatest challenges for a couple! For all of you just starting this journey, Keep you spirits up!

Me and my boyfriend have been together for eight months and he left for basic training in August. he came back for christmas, but only for a week and tomorrow he is leaving again. The only thing I can say that helps to make the time go faster is keeping your self busy. especially when he is in basic. I only got one letter from him the whole time, but that is the best letter I have ever gotten. And when he texted me after not having heard from him for almost three months, I can just say that I cried really hard. But Definitely stay busy! And its alright if you want to curse, cry, scream, or throw things when you miss them terribly. It happens but the main thing is is that you have to stay strong for them, but also let them know that you miss them and love them, because obviously if you have come this far with him, he misses and loves you too.

Im 16. i been with my boyfriend for 10 months. He gets shiped off August 28 to Georgia for 6 months for basic training. But i will still be in school when he leaves. I think about it too much. So many negative thoughts. any advice?

im talking to this kid who could possibly be leaving for bootcamp any day..the next ship date is sunday and if anyone misses he is next in line. he keeps telling me he wants me to live my life normal but i know that if he goes away and we stay together nothing is going to be the same and or normal. i dont know what to do

i'm really happy that i found this website, there are so many positive comments about staying strong :) me and my bf have been together since january, he leaves for basic at the end of march. so happy that i have a few more months to spend time with him! i have bad anxiety as it is so this is making it much worse and im so stressed out about his leave. i believe i can stay strong and work through this as long as i stay connected with his family and his dog!!<br />
so to the army girlfriends:<br />
do you really write a letter and send it out everyday?<br />
maybe ill understand when he leaves<br />
i would love more advice and would like to chat more!

my boyfriend has been gone for 7 days now and it sucks so bad :( i miss him but he will be home for x mas :) i joined to meet women around my age cuase im new to this whole military thing and not really sure what to expect and all that :) so lets talk if u want :)

my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. he leaves for basci training on our one year anniversary. an dhe will be gone for 13 weeks and then he will spend a year in florida for his MOS. this has been worrying me since we got together. but i think what has me 'prepared" in a sense is that i will spend my time studying bc i am a full time college student. i want to keep my self busy so im not constantly missing him. although missing him is good espcially when i get those letters. i will be in tears for hours.( yes i cry at almost everything) but i need to write and tell him howmuch i miss him and what is going on back here at home. i need to support him. and NO DEAR JOHN LETTERS!! (he stressed that)

my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. he leaves for basci training on our one year anniversary. an dhe will be gone for 13 weeks and then he will spend a year in florida for his MOS. this has been worrying me since we got together. but i think what has me 'prepared" in a sense is that i will spend my time studying bc i am a full time college student. i want to keep my self busy so im not constantly missing him. although missing him is good espcially when i get those letters. i will be in tears for hours.( yes i cry at almost everything) but i need to write and tell him howmuch i miss him and what is going on back here at home. i need to support him. and NO DEAR JOHN LETTERS!! (he stressed that)

My boyfriend left for bootcamp in illinois this past April. It sucks knowing I have to wait until October to see him:(. It already been hard enough surviving a month without him but surviving another 5?? How am I gonna do that? Any advice would be great since none of my friends truly know what I'm going through. :)

My fiancé is leaving in two weeks. He'll be gone for 6 1/2 months. I don't know how I'll do it. We live together already, but as it is, I only get to see him on the weekends because of college. But we Skype for hours a day. I have been crying all day because if finally hit me that its so close. I have a feeling I'll be visiting his mom alot...

He's going to Fort Sill, OK for basic, and Fort Gordon, GA for AIT, in case anyone asks.

My fiancé is leaving in two weeks. He'll be gone for 6 1/2 months. I don't know how I'll do it. We live together already, but as it is, I only get to see him on the weekends because of college. But we Skype for hours a day. I have been crying all day because if finally hit me that its so close. I have a feeling I'll be visiting his mom alot...

i will be going though the same thing in july and much like you i am not looking forward to it

My boyfriend left for boot camp on the 2nd :(

My boyfriend of two years just left for basic and OSUT on monday.. i've been a total mess without him. at first it didnt hit me..and now its getting harder and harder. I'm trying to be strong..we are used to long distance because i moved two hours away during the first year of our relationship..but still we saw each other quite often and talked everyday.. so not being able to hear his voice is killing me.. I know we'll make it through this..its just hard not to want to break down and cry my eyes out. He's in Infantry.. I'm so proud to be an Army Girlfriend :] and i cant wait till tomorrow, because hopefully he'll be able to call for a few minutes. Itll be so good to hear his voice again :] i've already started writing him letters, every single day. not seperate letters though.. like i'll send a weeks worth at a time. i hear they make you do a certain amount of pushups for ever letter you get...but i havent received the address for him yet. He comes home for christmas leave December 17 for about a week and Graduates February 25. I love my soldier. Hooah!

leave to boot Camp in less than a month and my girlfriend just broke up with me cuz she cant handle me leaving for 5 years :'(

leave to boot Camp in less than a month and my girlfriend just broke up with me cuz she cant handle me leaving for 5 years :'(

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and he is going to be leaving for basic in january and I am freaking out...we have been living together for almost a year and I do not know what I am going to do without him! I have his family and I know they will help me so much and I will be living with them while he is gone. I am young, some people think I should not wait around for him but I don't listen to that...I know he is the one and I would wait a lifetime for him as long as I know I got to hold him just one time. He is my everything and we have not spent much time apart since we have been together...I feel as if when he is gone he will worry about what I am doing and thinking, I just don't know how to make those feelings go away and just relax, but every time i start to relax something else pops in my head and I start to freak out again...thinking about what I am going to do while he is gone...

Hi girls, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now he, has been away since may 11, 2010 and it is now 3 weeks before he comes home. This has definetely been the hardest thing ive ever had to do. At first i didnt think i would make it. as time went by it didnt get easier i just missed him more and more but you just start to get use to it after a while. Time does go by fast if u manage to stay busy. Support him as much as you can and let him know how much you love and miss him. There will be times when you will feel like kicking and screaming and its normal. i think we all go through this stage. Remember that as the days go by you are one day closer to seeing him again. Stay strong girls. When your bfs come back they might even want to marry you. MINE DOES!!!! lol. If you need anyone to talk to feel free to email me

my boyfriend left left aug 30 we had been together for 10 months and we were inseparable but if u keep ur head up ull get ur first letter in 2 week and it will be the best thing u will ever read i promise dont tell him how sad u are because u want him to stay strong too just write every chance u get and ull be okay the days have been goin by pretty fast for me <br />
god bless

my boyfriend left left aug 30 we had been together for 10 months and we were inseparable but if u keep ur head up ull get ur first letter in 2 week and it will be the best thing u will ever read i promise dont tell him how sad u are because u want him to stay strong too just write every chance u get and ull be okay the days have been goin by pretty fast for me <br />
god bless

this has helped me so much!!! i have only been with my boyfriend for around 4 months but and he passed his phase two training when we was together for around a month, he then found out he was being posted to another country. he has only been on leave once whilst we have bee together but it was the best month i have had in my life.<br />
but let me tell you that every time they have to go back from leave it gets harder and harder but all we can do is stay strong for them and let them know how much we love them and miss them and no matter what we will always support them.

My boyfriend left for army bootcamp 3 weeks ago and I've been so sad. I'm 18 and all my friends are worried about going to parties and gonig to college, and all I think about is him. I thought nobody could relate to me but I'm so happy I googled "how to survive when your boyfriends at bootcamp" Cause I found this site and I know that we're gonna be able to make it through this. I really love him and I miss him sooo much, but I know what he's doing has to be done. And today is a sunday so I got to talk to him for 6 minutes!!! It's the first time I talked on the phone to him since he left and it was the best phone call. Anyway, this has been a good site to read, and I know there are people out there who understand.

Me and my fiance have been together for almost a year and he just left for bootcamp the other day so i know how you feel.The best advice is be strong and if yall want it to work then it will work.When you love someone you set them free,if they love you they will come back,if they dont then it wasnt meant to be.Be strong.

Everyone says "it'll get easier give it time" but it doesn't it just gets harder! He's been gone for about 5 weeks now....only 3 weeks and 2 days until he comes home for christmas! But then he leaves for AIT which I heard is better cuz he can use his phone like every night....but still it's gonna be even harder saying goodbye the second time : (

girl, i went through the same exact thing and managed to stay strong. its going to be hard, anyone that will tell you "it will soon get easier" obviously doesnt have a boyfriend/husband in the military because it doesnt, but its so worth it. i wrote a letter to him EVERY DAY didnt skip one day and i also got many in return. at first your going to think what the hell am i doign but after a while you realize that YOUR the one he is coming back to, and it just feels so good to say "im dating a soldier" my boyfriend is now in AIT and he gets to text me everyday, we webcam everynight. its like he is on this LONG vacation and its cool (: but instead of counting the days since you last saw him, count until the next time you will. stay strong and if you need help message me (:

My boy of a little over a year has been gone for almost 3 weeks now at bootcamp but it feels like forever! Some days I can't even get out of bed....I miss him so much!!!

me too! its tuesday and my guy leaves this monday :( any advice?

im new to this whole military thing too. my boyfriend has been there for 4 weeks now :(<br />
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and we have also been together for a year and month. <br />
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im very similar to you :(<br />
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i know i dont know much, but so far ive had my good days, and other days i cry soo much and dont know how imma get through this.<br />
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i think you just gotta remember you love him and hold on to the calls and letters you get. i check my mailbox everyday.<br />
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my boyfriend is in airforce bootcamp, idk if its the same for all of them. <br />
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but always keep your phone on you! my boyfriend has gotten 4 calls since hes been there <br />
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i missed the 1st and 2nd one because i didnt know to have my phone one me. <br />
so just in case always have your phone! <br />
you never know....

stay strong stay busy! you will get thru it! trust me. it will go by really fast as long as you stay busy!!! (: i am at the tail end of my boyfriend being gone for basic the first week or two was really rough but it gets easier :) if u need ANYTHING at all . im here.

Stay strong and suopport him thats the most we can do :(

Stay strong and suopport him thats the most we can do :(

I havent seen my guy in 12 weeks...Best advice is to keep yourself busy, stary true to them, love them, be strong. and Be there for them when they return.

um yeah having a military bf sucks...every day its hard not gonna lie... im not an emotional person at all, but his letters and phone call brings me to tears every time, we have been dating for a year and he left for BCT the day before my birthday, just remember that he thinks of you everyday, it may not seem like it by the amount of times he writes or calls...but time is limited...stay strong

boot camp is a very hard time for him and you..he needs your support now more than anything..write him letters is the best way to get your feelings out and he will love it..spray it with your perfume for an added boyfriends currently in afghanistan and i know how you feel..if you need anything i am here for you

hey... i was in the army and my bf is deplyed right now. basic aint ****. days r long and hard. he'll get stressed but its an amazing experience. don't rush into marriage but b there for him support him. write letters and send packages... no cards or food. he will get to call once on the weekend. maybe more sometimes. depending on where he is going. ft leonard wood is where i was. its hard that 1 call a week isn't enough but he will be able to write and send letters all the time. the first week is spent in reception. he won't get much time to call or write then. just support him. keep ur faith. if you are christian throw urself into ur religion. thats how i am dealing with this deployment. you will be surprised how much it helps. go to his graduation. be prepared for dates to change. he may get sent to a basic company that doesn't start training for a while. feel free to email me

Just starting writing him as first as you get that first letter from him! When you write him say uplifting and supporting things to make his day better. Just know that he is FINE and this will all be over before you know it and you will be able to see him again soon :D

Where is he at for bootcamp right now?

Stay strong and youll get threw it:)<br />
my boyfriend left fo bootcamp on June 23rd so its new to me too. if you need anything just message me!<br />
Where is he in bootcamp at?

Stay strong and youll get threw it:)<br />
my boyfriend left fo bootcamp on June 23rd so its new to me too. if you need anything just message me!

Aww.. Okay, drop those tissues missy :) Here's what you can do, write him! I've been in his boots and my boyfriend is in the airforce. You'll get his address very soon, write him often about EVERYTHING. Send pictures.. He's going to appreciate it, TRUST me. Don't get upset if he doesn't write back as much or right away. I promise you it really isn't in his control. This is the start of the begining, wait until he deploys. Most importantly, it will be okay :)

stay strong it will be okay. my boyfriend left for boot camp just a few days it ago.

Boot camp is kinda like testing the waters, I dunno if Id say base that on your relationship. <br />
If you can survive DEPLOYMENT, THEN you can survive anything ;) A few weeks of bootcamp no where compares to the wait of 10-15months deployment ;)<br />
But if you can swing basic, then just think of deployment as multiple basics? :D<br />
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BUT non-theless, we are all lacking a piece of ourselves..<br />
And it hurts but with the help of eachother, we can make it :] check the other threads for advice, theres a lot of good ideas out there :D <br />
P.S welcome to the endless job and worry of a military gf :P

My advice is if you can make it through boot camp you and him can do anything. Always stand by his side and stay strong your a Marines girl were tough. lol

Focus on yourself while he's away. Honestly, this is just the beginning of lots of time apart. You'll break down sometimes, you'll cry and cuss and scream and hate how the military takes your man away. You can even write him that. It's okay to be needy in some of your letters to him. You are a human being and don't need to encourage him every step of his career because the military is a career. Whether for four years or twenty. <br />
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Each branch is different. Scout joined the Marines which was 13weeks of basic and then 2months in SOI school before being stationed someplace. How your boy reacts to the training isn't going to the same as anyone elses. I got no phone calls during those 13weeks and 7 letters. But instead of focusing on him being gone, focus on yourself. In those 13 weeks I grew just as much as he did. I even got a puppy ;)

My boy just left Febuary 18th for bootcamp and won't be back until june<br />
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I miss him so much! And this is the 1st time i have went through anything like this. I promised him I would be there for him when he comes back and thats what im doing. I love my soldier...<br />
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I suggest you stay strong and look on the brighter sides of everything. Think about him as much as you can but don't go crazy. Maybe have a girls day, thats what i did. Make sure if you write him letters that you tell him you love him and miss himm he needs your support the most right now. Let him know your proud of him and will be there for him when he comes back.

Stay strong and keep your head up... Where is he at boot?

It's hard at first. And I am not going to say it gets easier. My Soldier went back in November and he got a break to come home for Christmas and New Years so I was counting down the days! And when it got really close I was nervous because I didn't know what we would think. But as soon as he got home we were fine. But him going back was hard. <br />
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I didn't really get that many letters at first. Dustin has to write after dark. But their Drill Sergent told them as long as they are good they can make phone calls on Sunday. Make sure you have your phone at all times. I missed Dustins 1st phone call. But hey it happens! If you have any other questions or just need to talk, just send me a msg!!

Hey im having the same trouble as her.. can you plz get back to me ...

my best friend was with a man in the military, he left and she missed him so much that they got married as soon as he got his first leave. he got moved across the country and she went with. he mother passed away and she couldn't be there. she resented him so much that she started sleeping around. now, less than one year after there wedding ann. they are in the middle of a nasty divorce. just be careful and surround yourself around understanding people.