I Drove My Husband Away...

I have had huge issues with jealousy and have made my husband's life miserable. Things finally became too much for him and now he says that he wants to leave me and that he is not in love with me anymore. I have started getting counseling and he has pseudo agreed to wait things out and see what happens, but he is convinced that I can never change and isn't sure if he can love me again. (He says he cares, but is not in love.) We have been through 5 year-long deployments and so many other things thanks to the army and it breaks my heart that I have caused this. I don't know what to do or have anyone to talk to...My heart just hurts so bad and I feel so lost...
SeulEtTriste SeulEtTriste
36-40, F
1 Response Apr 26, 2013

I'm sorry things are going this way for you. I'm a fiance of a soldier and this is the beginning of his second year. We've only seen each other for 21 days within the last year. So I can see how I'm having feelings of neglect and doubting the longevity and quality of our relationship. It's been 5 years for you so I can only imagine what it's like for you..that's a long time to be apart. My question for you is where you always a jealous person or have things happen to make you insecure? In order to make it work there has to be trust. Analyze yourself and try to figure out what has you so insecure, what is it about you that's making you feel this way. And/or is it something he's doing to make you feel this way. I think therapy is a great start, but since he's feeling like he's falling out of love with you. .you definitely have a lot of damage control, but it's not a loss cause. You definitely can savage this relationship if both parties are willing to give it another try. Hang in there and if you need to talk feel free to contact me.