From A Single Teen Mom To College Student And Loving It!!

I met my ex/ son's father when I was 15 at our freshman assembly on the 1st day of high school. He was not a freshman in fact he was a senior and 18. He was in the gym because he was in his weight lifting class. Anyways, I immediately told my friend I thought he was cute so I said hey and he said hey back. He didnt like me at 1st cuz I was sort of the plain Jane type plus I was a little overweight. After a couple of months of me pursuing him he finally asked me for my #. He never called always said he was too busy or had other things to do. Needless to say I was crushed by this. Fast forward about 3 months and we were steadily dating. He had gotten rid of all the girls at school that he was talking to/flirting with and it was just me and him. I felt pressured into having sex with him but I did it anyways. It was protected at 1st and then we stopped using condoms so religiously. We planned our future and went on with school. We had talked about marriage and had planned on doing it on my 16th birthday! He started becoming jealous, possessive and controlling where I could go, who I could see, ALWAYS thought I was cheating. When I became pregnant we were both shocked out of our minds!! My mom was disappointed but she stuck by my side, I was EXTREMELY upset and of course he starting denying the baby although I was only 5 weeks at the time. A week later I started bleeding and thought I was miscarrying I told my mom and she drove me to the hospital. I called him on the way and he said he was too busy. Anyways, when I entered my 5th month he called to say that he had cheated on me I told him it was over.  I had my son 5 weeks early due to me having high blood pressure. Emergency c-section. Needless to say he was not there only my mom. My son was and is fine. 3 months after my son's birth my son's dad got mad at me while we were in school and hit me. I took a restraining order out on him. It took 3yrs for me to be fully rid of him.  His dad and I no longer speak and I am fine with that. My son turned 5yrs old recently and I turn 22 this summer. My lifelong dream was/is to become a pediatrician and with my son I had to put that dream on the back burner. With my son starting kindergarten this summer I have decided to go to school as well. I start college in 2 months and I couldnt be happier! :)

SexyDiva19 SexyDiva19
6 Responses Mar 21, 2010

you are very strong. i wish you all the best!

" My lifelong dream was/is to become a pediatrician and with my son I had to put that dream on the back burner." Funny how people love to blame others for their own failures. You know what i meant?

You can't let motherhood ruin your life u can only let it enhance it and make u WANT to push further

Congratulations!! That's so exciting. I'm glad you didn't let that ruin your life. I wish you the best. :D

Thank u I appreciate ur well wishes and I wish u the best in life also

It's people like you that I admire. I respect young women that have raised children on their own. And while I'm not pregant and don't plan on it in high school, unforunately, one of my best friend's is and stories like your's is what may get her through this.