Children Go Through StagesI divorced my two oldest boy's father when they were 6 and 8. I think we all could have gotten through it pretty well, except for their father's vindictiveness. He also remarried immediately to a very insecure woman who felt threatened by me. She had a lot to do with fueling the flames. She told the boys outrageous lies about me and did everything she could to turn my children against me.
We had some very rough patches and my oldest son acted out negatively, but we made it through. The boys are now 22 and 24, the oldest is married.
I never told lies about their father and tried to hide most of the hurt and pain his lies were causing me. When the boys were about 14 and 16, my oldest said to me that he knew I didn't lie to them and had always tried to do right by them. When I asked what made him say that, he said because I never spoke ill of their father and his father and stepmother were always speaking ill of me, that is how he knew.
So hold your head up and love your children, because that is all you can do.