My Daughter Is Mentally Retarded
I thought something might not be right when my daughter didn't talk or walk on time, When I took her to her pediatrician she said it will probably just take her a little longer but she's fine. She started pulling her hair out around 15 months and she didn't laugh like my other children had. The pediatrician finally said to take her to speech therapy around 18 months. From there I was referred to a developmental center for evaluation and she was determined to be "developmentally delayed". That's still the terminology her medical doctors use on her paperwork. She began PT, OT and speech therapy at UCP at 18 months and attended the daycare program there when she turned 3. I took her to geneticists, neurologists, cardiologists and developmental specialists and she had every medical test invented performed, some of them more than once. Everything always came back normal. When she was 5 I took her to an Autism specialist. He did a couple of exercises with her involving blocks and patterns and said, "I don't think your child is autistic, she is mentally retarded and I would guess her IQ is probably around 50 and she will probably only mature to about the age of 8". I wasn't given any paperwork, any formal diagnosis. I remember leaving there in kind of a numb state. What was I supposed to do with this information? How could I fix her? She had her first IQ test before starting kindergarten. It came back 49. She was catergorized into the trainable mentally handicapped program and started kindergarten in a seperate class. She's 9 yrs old now and physically healthy. She's on a special needs little league team and continues to be in the TMH program at school. Sometimes it is very hard to be her mother and her sisters. She looks normal so people don't always understand her behaviors when we're out in public.Sometimes I feel like no one understands what it feels like to be her mother. To know that she will never have a normal life, never fall in love, get married, have babies of her own. There are no words to express how my heart aches for her. I love her so very much.