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Losing Judd

Judd and his wife Nicki had just moved from our house to their own place, in a small town an hour from us.  He had gotten a job at a grocery store as the assistant manager and was very good at it.  One night when he was closing up the accounts for the store, he called the manager to report that the books weren't coming out right and would he please come and check things out.  The manager was busy and planned to go later.  While Judd was waiting for the manager, he finished up taking out the trash, checking the bathrooms, etc.  While he was in one of the bathrooms, someone jumped down from above the ceiling tiles and attacked him.  Judd knew who the man was(a co-worker) and tried to talk to him.  The man kept attacking him, chasing him all over the store and beating him as he went.  Judd was an average size man(5'8"or so) and the man was over 6' and huge.  finally the guy locked him in the freezer and finished him off.  We were told later the guy said"He just wouldn't stop fighting.  I wanted him to stop fighting.  But he wouldn't give up."  The guy was robbing the store and that's why the books wouldn't come out.  He was hiding so he could take food out of the store.  He killed my son so he could get away.  But he didn't, he was caught and is in jail now.  He got the 'hard 40' because he locked Judd in the freezer and that was considered 'kidnapping' 

We are all changed by this loss.  We don't trust god anymore, we find it hard to love or believe, for fear of losing again. We had to have 2 services for Judd, one here and one in the town where he was living, both services were totally overwhelming with the number of people who came. Little old ladies came up to me by the dozens to tell me how sweet and helpful Judd had been to them in the store.  He was 24, but every teacher from high school, every student, every friend he ever had who could get there was there.

He was the best of us and all we can do is live so that he would be proud of us.

kslabtechchick kslabtechchick 56-60 78 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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Hello. I just wanted to say to you that I am so sorry for your loss. As a mother of 3 boys myself I just can't imagine what you must be going through. I have a son in the Army and i worry every single day that something could happen to him. Please stay strong and know that your son is always with you.

Hello. My name is Jessica Humbles and I am a mother of 3 boys. I read your story twice, both times with tears in my eyes. I dont know what to say but that God writes our life we just have to enjoyde even when something unthinkable happens. Your son was an angel and he had to take his place. You are a HERO in my eyes. I am in the process of writing a book about Mother's who lost there Son's due to the violence in New Orleans. I never written a book before but this book is for you and only Mother's who lost there son's. Just know you are not forgotton, lost, nor not thought about. I'm in the beganing stage of my book but it is in the making. Thank you for sharing your story, We LOVE YOU & may GOD continue to BLESS YOU!!! From my heart to your's.

Thank you so much for your post. Your words give me strength and I am grateful to realize there are people like you out there. Good luck with your book, I know you will do well.

Karma only works to those with conscience's , and its not due to any higher power, its due to that person knowing they did wrong and subconsciously causing bad to happen to them as a type of penance. Of course there is no god of any written about variety, this is just a social control tool. In regards to your son, it is indeed a wretched thing perpetrated by a reptilian swine of a person. Revenge is a dish best served cold and there is nothing better to do than gain it. Of course it must not consume you as then the swine has won again. If it were me i would do all i can to make his life hell, but i wouldnt oppose release, id want him out so that i could tear him limb by limb, slowly. Live strong and do well, that is the best you can do for your sons memory and possibly adopt some kid who needs a loving family, around 5 or younger. Peace, respect and revenge to you , from my heart. Arisotle88

I am sorry about your loss. I believe in Karma so that criminal will get his not just jail.<br />
I will pray for you. Sorry about your faith as well. I believe that your son has peace and joy. He lives stong in your heart. No matter what you believe now, you and your loved ones will be reunited with him in the afterlife. GOD BLESS YOU!!!! }i{ XOXOX

I am very sorry for your loss, and hope you'll accept my condolences. (and a hug) I pray your pain lessens daily, and hope you'll find peace. Bless you!

I cannot imagine your pain. <br />
Have you ever heard of the book Conversations with the Other Side by Sylvia Browne?<br />
You might find some comfort there. <br />
Your family is in my thoughts, <br />
in love and light.

Sorry for your loss but the loss to the community also.

We lost a daughter at age 22. All I can say is that I am so happy that you had this wonderful child in your life for 24 years. There are no words, I know. You are not alone.

My deepest sympathy for your loss it is horrible that there are idiot out there like this guy. It seems like good people always get tooken that bring something valid to the world while others that do such senseless things live amongst us I will be praying for you and you family.

I am so sorry for your loss. Its the hardest thing losing a beloved son. Its equally hard to understand it, comprehend and find any peace within you. Someone who didn't care about human life took his for nothing but money. There is no excuses for that and there will be hell to pay for him. Such a cowardess thing to do, locking him in a freezer. <br />
The world is full of evil down here, but it also is full of good...hang on to that thought every day. See it in every possible place. I hope soon, your heart will heal. It will be good for your son. Send him your love, and one day you will meet again. For sure.

Judd is an Angel...I promise one day you'll understand...Jah bless.

The cowardliness and blindness of some people is astounding. I think you worded this very well. I'm sorry about your loss.

I would like to send everyone my heartfelt thanks for their comments and thoughts on my 'Losing Judd' experience. Also, I want to update, to some extent ,our lives since this happened. <br />
Nicki has finally found someone, not to replace Judd in her life, but to make a new life with. They have a sweet daughter.<br />
While I don't really believe our faith can be so easily renewed, my other children and I are managing to find life with loves of our own. I have a new grandson, the son of my youngest daughter. I have moved south and found love. <br />
Judd will always be there in our hearts, the one we think of constantly. Wishing just to share some time with him again.

Every now and then I come back to this amazing story. You're in our hearts and minds.

I am so sorry for your loss . Your Judd sounds like a wonderful man . I want to say something , but know that there isnt anything I can possibly say to make a real difference .... you have touched me deeply , you and your family will be in my prayers

Its a year letter since you initially posted... I am sorry for your loss... have you found your faith again... because for a man like Judd to have existed in the first place and touched my life without having even known him is a sign that God exists... I am not the preachy type I just hate that not only did your son get taken from you and all he knew prematurely, but they took your faith too...

I read your story as the tears flowed from my eyes freely. Your son was a good man, and I hope that he is able to be at peace. Though you say you are afraid and stopped by fear and loss, I believe your story shows you have great strength, the memory of your son lives on strong in you.<br />
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I read your story and sympathise with you.<br />
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Hope your family recovers from the loss.

Your precious Judd had such a great gift in life - your deep love for him and the love of so many in the community. For some reason it was his time to make his transition, and we can chooose to honor that because now he is in great peace. If you can embrace this higher perspective, and know that he lives, his spirit is around you, and your mutual love lives on, I hope you find peace also.

im very sorry for your loss. its always horrible when the best people always get the worst outcomes for no reasons and no one ever understands why.

By the way, let go of your anger toward the "man" who did this to you. No matter what punishment he gets form man it is nothing to the one he will receive in the end.

Your son was like a comet, it burned brightly in your life for a brief time, lighting up your sky with a beautiful soul. I lost my sister 16 years ago and her light still lingers in my heart. My sadness at her loss has never diminished but neither has her memory. No matter how hard we wish it the world won't stop for our sorrow, but it will not be forever. I have a baby i never dared hope for and a new reason to keep going, look around you for those reasons to keep going you will find them in the most unexpected places. When I go to sleep each night instead of praying I ask God to make more room in my heart to love others. Tonight you and yours including Judd will be there too.

I hope they at least keep him in for all the 40 years. My sister was murdered; he was given life; and he was out in under 18. What ever happened to an eye for an eye??<br />
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I do know your pain; your frustration; and some of what you are feeling. 30 years after mu sisters death; it is easier in that the pain is now a numbness. It is starting to be hard to remember her face.. I wish you well

I know how you feel because my cousin was murdered. They found him dead in a river. But they do not know who killed him. I am sorry for your loss, I know it feels worse than any earthly pain. But it is not the time to turn away from God. You know your son is safe in Heaven and with Our Lord. He is watching over you and helping you from Heaven. Please do not lose hope or your faith. God can help now more than ever. He is at peace now, and he knows how missed he is by you and your family. But he would not want you to reject your faith. I am so sorry for you, and you, your family, and your son are in my prayers.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Judd.<br />
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My heart and tears go out to you. What a horrible thing to have happen. I am so sorry.<br />
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Perhaps you could visit this web site I go there a lot, since the doctor deliberately killed my precious Husband.<br />
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You are a lot stronger than I am and I wish you well and your beautiful family many blessings always.

I am very sorry for your loss and I pray that one day you and your family can open your hearts once more to trust God. I can never imagine what you and his wife must be going through and I hope find a way to lean on each other to make it though this.

I am very very sorry for what happened to your son Judd. It is very unfortunate he was alone in the store; what was the watchman or security guard of the store doing? a burglar alarm at the cash register would have alerted others in the neighbourhood. Only time can heal your sorrow. My heartfelt condolences to his wife Nicki.


May God be with you in your time if grief. No one can ever explain an unnecessary death. You and your family will be in my prayers and thoughts