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Losing Judd

Judd and his wife Nicki had just moved from our house to their own place, in a small town an hour from us.  He had gotten a job at a grocery store as the assistant manager and was very good at it.  One night when he was closing up the accounts for the store, he called the manager to report that the books weren't coming out right and would he please come and check things out.  The manager was busy and planned to go later.  While Judd was waiting for the manager, he finished up taking out the trash, checking the bathrooms, etc.  While he was in one of the bathrooms, someone jumped down from above the ceiling tiles and attacked him.  Judd knew who the man was(a co-worker) and tried to talk to him.  The man kept attacking him, chasing him all over the store and beating him as he went.  Judd was an average size man(5'8"or so) and the man was over 6' and huge.  finally the guy locked him in the freezer and finished him off.  We were told later the guy said"He just wouldn't stop fighting.  I wanted him to stop fighting.  But he wouldn't give up."  The guy was robbing the store and that's why the books wouldn't come out.  He was hiding so he could take food out of the store.  He killed my son so he could get away.  But he didn't, he was caught and is in jail now.  He got the 'hard 40' because he locked Judd in the freezer and that was considered 'kidnapping' 

We are all changed by this loss.  We don't trust god anymore, we find it hard to love or believe, for fear of losing again. We had to have 2 services for Judd, one here and one in the town where he was living, both services were totally overwhelming with the number of people who came. Little old ladies came up to me by the dozens to tell me how sweet and helpful Judd had been to them in the store.  He was 24, but every teacher from high school, every student, every friend he ever had who could get there was there.

He was the best of us and all we can do is live so that he would be proud of us.

kslabtechchick kslabtechchick 56-60 79 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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Your precious Judd had such a great gift in life - your deep love for him and the love of so many in the community. For some reason it was his time to make his transition, and we can chooose to honor that because now he is in great peace. If you can embrace this higher perspective, and know that he lives, his spirit is around you, and your mutual love lives on, I hope you find peace also.

I read your story and sympathise with you.<br />
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Hope your family recovers from the loss.

I read your story as the tears flowed from my eyes freely. Your son was a good man, and I hope that he is able to be at peace. Though you say you are afraid and stopped by fear and loss, I believe your story shows you have great strength, the memory of your son lives on strong in you.<br />
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Its a year letter since you initially posted... I am sorry for your loss... have you found your faith again... because for a man like Judd to have existed in the first place and touched my life without having even known him is a sign that God exists... I am not the preachy type I just hate that not only did your son get taken from you and all he knew prematurely, but they took your faith too...

I am so sorry for your loss . Your Judd sounds like a wonderful man . I want to say something , but know that there isnt anything I can possibly say to make a real difference .... you have touched me deeply , you and your family will be in my prayers

Every now and then I come back to this amazing story. You're in our hearts and minds.

I would like to send everyone my heartfelt thanks for their comments and thoughts on my 'Losing Judd' experience. Also, I want to update, to some extent ,our lives since this happened. <br />
Nicki has finally found someone, not to replace Judd in her life, but to make a new life with. They have a sweet daughter.<br />
While I don't really believe our faith can be so easily renewed, my other children and I are managing to find life with loves of our own. I have a new grandson, the son of my youngest daughter. I have moved south and found love. <br />
Judd will always be there in our hearts, the one we think of constantly. Wishing just to share some time with him again.

The cowardliness and blindness of some people is astounding. I think you worded this very well. I'm sorry about your loss.

Judd is an Angel...I promise one day you'll understand...Jah bless.

I am so sorry for your loss. Its the hardest thing losing a beloved son. Its equally hard to understand it, comprehend and find any peace within you. Someone who didn't care about human life took his for nothing but money. There is no excuses for that and there will be hell to pay for him. Such a cowardess thing to do, locking him in a freezer. <br />
The world is full of evil down here, but it also is full of good...hang on to that thought every day. See it in every possible place. I hope soon, your heart will heal. It will be good for your son. Send him your love, and one day you will meet again. For sure.

My deepest sympathy for your loss it is horrible that there are idiot out there like this guy. It seems like good people always get tooken that bring something valid to the world while others that do such senseless things live amongst us I will be praying for you and you family.

We lost a daughter at age 22. All I can say is that I am so happy that you had this wonderful child in your life for 24 years. There are no words, I know. You are not alone.

Sorry for your loss but the loss to the community also.

I cannot imagine your pain. <br />
Have you ever heard of the book Conversations with the Other Side by Sylvia Browne?<br />
You might find some comfort there. <br />
Your family is in my thoughts, <br />
in love and light.

I am very sorry for your loss, and hope you'll accept my condolences. (and a hug) I pray your pain lessens daily, and hope you'll find peace. Bless you!

I am sorry about your loss. I believe in Karma so that criminal will get his not just jail.<br />
I will pray for you. Sorry about your faith as well. I believe that your son has peace and joy. He lives stong in your heart. No matter what you believe now, you and your loved ones will be reunited with him in the afterlife. GOD BLESS YOU!!!! }i{ XOXOX

Karma only works to those with conscience's , and its not due to any higher power, its due to that person knowing they did wrong and subconsciously causing bad to happen to them as a type of penance. Of course there is no god of any written about variety, this is just a social control tool. In regards to your son, it is indeed a wretched thing perpetrated by a reptilian swine of a person. Revenge is a dish best served cold and there is nothing better to do than gain it. Of course it must not consume you as then the swine has won again. If it were me i would do all i can to make his life hell, but i wouldnt oppose release, id want him out so that i could tear him limb by limb, slowly. Live strong and do well, that is the best you can do for your sons memory and possibly adopt some kid who needs a loving family, around 5 or younger. Peace, respect and revenge to you , from my heart. Arisotle88

Hello. My name is Jessica Humbles and I am a mother of 3 boys. I read your story twice, both times with tears in my eyes. I dont know what to say but that God writes our life we just have to enjoyde even when something unthinkable happens. Your son was an angel and he had to take his place. You are a HERO in my eyes. I am in the process of writing a book about Mother's who lost there Son's due to the violence in New Orleans. I never written a book before but this book is for you and only Mother's who lost there son's. Just know you are not forgotton, lost, nor not thought about. I'm in the beganing stage of my book but it is in the making. Thank you for sharing your story, We LOVE YOU & may GOD continue to BLESS YOU!!! From my heart to your's.

Thank you so much for your post. Your words give me strength and I am grateful to realize there are people like you out there. Good luck with your book, I know you will do well.

Hello. I just wanted to say to you that I am so sorry for your loss. As a mother of 3 boys myself I just can't imagine what you must be going through. I have a son in the Army and i worry every single day that something could happen to him. Please stay strong and know that your son is always with you.