Mother of Two With Deployed Husband

I have a three year old and a two year old and my husband just got deployed overseas with the army.  I find myself being mother and father and not having enough time in the day to even eat dinner.  My three year old has recently started rebelling against going to bed a her normal time.  I don't know it is because her routine was distribured while we were preparing for my husband to leave or if it is because she misses hime or if it is simply because she is three and that is what three year olds do.  I need advise on how to get her back on track.  I am at my wits end.  I know stress is high in our house at the momement and that may be why, but I have tried everything I can come up with.  My two year old is still right on track.  I thougt he would be the one most effected because he was a daddy's boy.  Maybe he is to young yet and hasn't realized daddy is not around lately. 

gsheffield gsheffield
26-30, F
4 Responses Jun 5, 2007

I have to toddlers and I watch a lot of supernanny to help me out lol

I too am a mother of a 3 & 4 year old girls who are 11 months apart. Children are much smarther than what we give them credit for. I believe she is testing you to see how far YOU will let it go because she knows daddy is away and she also knows that you are not happy about it. My mom came to visit from out of town and my 3 years sad to her, when daddy says no, no means no. When mama says no, mama mean no and no and no. She knows I am going to give her many chances already. I had to stop and realize that they will take advantage of me at even this age. I say to you, put your foot down and make her stick to her schedule, even if she screams or cry.

I am a mother of two toddlers, even though my husband is not deployed overseas, its about the same thing with his work hours, bed time is hard i have resorted to having them watch one of their dvds a half hour before bed, and at the last five minutes,i'll let them know its almost time for bed, five more minutes, after that tvs off, lights off, and i lay with them and usually they are sleeping, if one decides to get up and wander, he'll usually be back in a minute when he gets no response from me

Good Morning! I too have a 2 year old and a 3 year old. Mine are 10 months apart.. My 3 year old is doing some testing right now. Both of my girls are the most well behaved, sweet, caring little people I have ever met. BUT... when this testing is goign on I think I am going to go insane. I don't know how you do it as I feel like it is a full time job with my husband and me together. You just need to hold your ground with your 3 year old. They are developmentally at an age where they are trying to figure this big world out and they want to knwo who really is in charge. It is a phase and it wont last long... Just stick to your guns and be understanding and firm. This too shall pass... Good luck to you:)