Shyness

Has anyone else on here had problems with their children experiencing social anxiety? My daughter is two and she's been experiencing a lot of stranger anxiety lately, but even around other children she's a bit shy. I'm not overwhelmingly concerned, she isn't showing signs of anything like autism or something serious like that, but she just seems very nervous around other children and is very shy. Does anyone have any suggestions?
JamieFaith JamieFaith
18-21, F
5 Responses Sep 13, 2012

All children mature at different rates,so watch what's going on and ask if she's at nursery to see if she is having toys taken from her by another child.However don't make big deal but find ways of building her confidence,talk to health visitor if you have one.

I work with 2 year olds.

Most 2 year olds have the attitude; what is mine is mine and what is yours is mine.

At this age, they are just beginning to learn how to share & take turns. Some learn more quickly then others.

Is there a more aggressive child taking her toys from her ? If so, this most certainly would explain her social anxiety and nervousness.

I have a few of them in my class. They seem to take the toy from the shy ones.
Maybe this is what is happening to your daughter.

I hope this helps. :)

This is such a FUN age !

Its kinda normal. My son was behaving in the same manner, mostly when anyone would ask him even his name he would just shy away and stand behind me . Guess give your child , the space and time ,let her mingle with kids as much as she can , and things would just fall in place.

Don't make it obvious even in front of her that she shys away or gets uncomfortable in public or even with kids.She would just be ok , atleast thats what I did with my son .

Ms. Jamie, I am sorry I caused you to become defensive, as that was not my intent. I take it this is your first child? I, too, have only one boy and I know how it is in this situation. I ran my son to the pediatrician for everything, it's our instinct, I suppose. I'm sorry you took what I said defensively, I just was trying to say that I didn't figure it was serious, especially the autistism, I know how scary thinking that can be.

I don't think it's anything to cause concern. I believe they go through phases. And, please don't take this the wrong way, but why the jump from shyness to autism? That's quite a stretch, in my opinion. No offense, but I believe at 2 they are just starting to figure out they are their own little person. Relax, and enjoy this phase of her childhood, I know for me, my son and I grew together. He's been the most wonderful experience yet!!

I didn't jump from shyness to autism. I just wanted to make it clear that I wasn't worried about anything that serious, because I have heard people jump to that conclusion since it's becoming a larger problem. And I am relaxed, and I am trying to let her become her own person. But I want to encourage her to be social, also.