Nanny Seeking Advice From Other Nannies.Hello fellow nannies,
I am currently a nanny for two amazing little guys. I love these boys deeply so that’s why I need some advice. The family I work for is great but lately me and my boss (who is a stay at home mom), have been having some disagreements. For example when I was hired I was told that I would need to do some household chores around the house i.e. fold and put away laundry, clean up after the boys like dishes, toys and making their lunches/snacks, baking and getting them ready. So that I agreed to. As time has passed I'm starting to feel like I'm being taken advantage of. When I first started working I wasn’t even getting paid minimum wage but I didn’t make it a big deal. I started working for them sometime in September/October of 2011 at that point she already had one son and was pregnant with her second. Shortly after like maybe one or two months later the second baby was born in November of 2011. After a year of working for them they upped my pay by a couple of dollars an hour but only because they deiced to put me on his pay roll (he owns his own business). So going back to the disagreement part, as I stated earlier I was told my duties around the house along with watching the little guys. Now I feel like she's taken it too far, she started giving me these lists with things to do around the house which is have me doing all sorts of things like: cleaning their counter tops and stove, toaster oven, microwave, filing her receipts, cleaning her cabinets, dusting her shelves in the dining room, sweeping, organizing her drawers and it’s even gone to the point where she had me organize their garage and wash/vacuum her car, etc. And the thing that absolutely bothers me the most is, say if I do laundry one Friday before I leave but I don't get a chance to fold it all up or even if I do fold it but I don't get a chance to put it away, it will still be there waiting for me to do the following Monday. Here's something else that really got to me and it still is to this day, so one day she asks me to take the boys outside so they can play (I was folding up laundry when she asked) so I was not able to finish folding the clothes, so I took the boys outside like she asked. A little bit before it was time for me to go she comes outside and says she’ll watch the boys because I need to finish folding and putting away the laundry. This made me furious inside, she was inside the house she could have easily had done it herself but she didn't, she pulled me away from playing with the boys so I could do it. She made me feel as if I was beneath her, like who is she to fold her own laundry. At this point I feel more like a house keeper then anything. I do feel like in the beginning I was a little naive but now I realize and I'm actually getting upset just thinking about it. I don't think it's in my job tittle to do what she is asking of me. So on this Wednesday that just past she put clean all the fan blades in the house on my list and I didn't do it. So on Friday it was on the list again and I told her how I felt that it's not my job to clean her house; I'm not her house keeper. The other thing she did that made me upset was, she put it on the list in upper case letters like this "WIPE ALL FAN BLADES", and everything else on the list was in lower case letters. Is that rude? Or is it just me who thinks that? But anyways, then she went on to say that it would be cheaper to put her oldest son in daycare and hire a housekeeper rather than to have me there. May I add that I fill like I’m under paid as just a nanny for the two kids not even including all the extra cleaning I do. Is it my job do all these extra things around her house? One other thing when having this discussion another thing that got to me was she said they pay me for a “service” and that I'm there to do what she can't, but the way she made it seem in the begging was that I'm there to watch over the boys so that she can get those things around the house done and do her errands. I feel like I do way more than the "service" that she pays me to do. When talking to other people about the situation they say that it's ridiculous that I should be making way more money and that I shouldn't be doing anything other than taking care of the boys and cleaning up after them. So I'm just curious how other nannies fill about my situation? Do you fill like I'm under paid? Does it seem like I'm not only the nanny but also the house keeper? Should I be paid more? Does it seem like I'm being taken advantage of? I thank everyone who reads this. I do appreciate you taking your time to give me some advice about my situation. Thanks again.
An EP User 7 Responses 0 Jan 20, 2013