Boyfriend Is Deployed

I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, and he's been deployed since January and is serving in Afghanistan. I miss him so much. We get to talk on Facebook sometimes, but not for very long. It's really hard. Especially because I don't have any girlfriends or family members who know what I'm going through. I joined this site hoping to get that support from other EP members, but so far it's only gone as far as a few sporadic comments here and there. Hopefully it will be better after a little time. :) What's hard is having any kind of personal struggle or issue, and not wanting to tell my boyfriend about it because: a) I want to keep our conversations positive; b) I don't want him to have to worry or feel guilty for not being here for me; and c) anything I go through is incomparable to what he's going through, and I don't expect him to be able to sympathize while he's over there fearing for his life. So it's hard because sometimes I need that sympathy. My grandpa & cousin recently passed and I didn't even get asked, "How did the service go?" from him. I can't be upset about it because I know he is having bigger issues to deal with over there -- but I'm sure other army girlfriends know what I'm talking about. You want the support from the one person you depend on it most from, and it simply just can't be there. So we have to be strong. Well, if anyone is going through anything similar to this, it would be great to chat! Take care everyone.
addalee addalee
2 Responses May 5, 2012

Hi. My name's Samantha. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and he will be deploying in March. Im sure yours will be home and you'll have alot of good advice for me when mine gets ready to go. =) While my guy hasn't deployed yet we've had to deal with multiple classes for weeks, and months at a time. I can understand where your coming from. Even with the annual trainings and other schools that they have to attend, they seem to get so stressed, and its hard because we have no idea what they've had to deal with that day. Just remember that no problem is too small or petty, they just have alot going on. They best outlet I've found so far has been the gym. It keeps your mind off of things. I don't have very many female friends, and the ones that i do have... I question their loyalty. So I count on my family a good bit. I guess that what we have these groups for.. huh. Hold your head up, Megan is right. It IS possible, and you can get through this. If you want to talk, I am here to listen. Until then.. I'll be sending good vibes your way! =)

Hi:) my name is Megan and my boyfriend and I have been together for two years and he will be shipped off to basic on June 18 and I'm dreading it. I can only imagine what your going through, i don't have any girlfriends or family who I can talk to either, they just don't understand. I know how you feel, having to stay strong even at your weakest times, its one of the hardest things you will ever have to do, but it is possible. Just remember that everytime you feel that way, just remember the good times you've had together and will have when he comes home!:) so just be strong and he'll be home before you know it.