Real Life Romeo And Juliett Story...need Advice :(

I met him in High School, and since then we were inseparable. Our parents did not know that we were together, because it was against my religion, and it was against his culture. His father and mother expected him to marry an Indian girl, and my parents expected me to marry a Muslim. After a while of being together, my parents found out, and lets just say, things went ugly. I was told that I should never see him again. When I went to school, I just cried in his arms the whole entire day. Then the summer came, and I wanted to see him. So, we snuck out late at night, and spent the entire night together. However, one day, I came back to find that my window was locked, and they found out that I had snuck out. I did not know where to go, so I just went to his home. They knew I was with him, and I was really scared. So was he, since he was hiding me in his home without his parents knowing. Eventually, my parents filed a police report, and I had to go home. I got in ALOT of trouble, and eventually, they just let it go.

He started college, and realized he could not pay for it. He started working at an electronic store, so he could pay for his tuition and books. However, that took lots of time away that should have been put into studying. His parents are rich, however, they are very cheap. His grades suffered, although I tried to help him. For the next year we were completely head over heels in love. Also, obviously our parents did not know. My parents thought that I had broken up with him. But, I would never have done that.

In September of 2012, he took me out to a fancy dinner, told me to order whatever I wanted, and held me in his arms, and told me how our future would be like. He even gave me a little gift. I felt like I was the luckiest girl on Earth. I honestly could not ask for a better man in my life. Anyways, later that night, he told me that he enlisted into the Navy, and that I should move on. Out of know where, he became the biggest d*** ever. For a whole month, I would beg him to stay, and cry, and he would just push me away, and tell me that he hated me. That one month was hell, because I wasn't used to him being that mean. Eventually we met up, and he just cried in my arms, telling me that he was trying to make me hate him. I cried as well, because I felt that I was going to lose him forever.

Months went by, and I have barely slept. He is the only one that understands me. When I'm having a bad day, he somehow makes it amazing. When I'm mad at him, within 10 minutes, he makes me laugh. Now, there are flaws in every relationship. He had gone to raves without telling me, went to events with a girl who used to be his prom date (I couldn't go to prom, so he asked if he could take someone else.), however, the good outweighs the bad. He has never cheated on me. He barely hugs girls. So I know that for a fact. Overall, he's a pretty good guy.

Tomorrow I'm saying goodbye to him before he leaves to boot-camp, and he's proposing to me. I found out that he was. He never told me, but I'm very good at finding things out. I obviously want to marry him, but I'm scared. We are going to be cut off from family. My family will not accept me, neither will his. I am also at the "marriage stage" in my culture, and he knows that. I know I will not be able to go to sleep tonight. I don't want him to go :( He's my best friend. I've been crying non-stop. How do I cope with this? Please, Navy girlfriends/fiances, give me advice. I would really appreciate it :/
RomeoAndJuliett RomeoAndJuliett
2 Responses Jan 13, 2013

You won't be cut off, but you will need to understand, an E-1 makes
The equivalent of roughly 8.50 an hour. A couple years in he'll make decent money, but your job will be making sure bills are paid while he's not there and not falling into the trap of mismanaging family resoures.

Also, you need to re-read Romeo and Juliet. Juliet was Romeo's under-aged fall-back girl, and they both die in the end.

Stay super strong! Ive never been through what you are dealing with but being in the navy is like learning how to stand being cut off per say. I cant imagine knowing my family wouldnt except such and thing and my fiances family doing the same. Very sorry to hear but over time things can heal, patients can be won and love will never die. Try finding favor with your mother if possible, I know fathers are very stuborn compared to moms. When hes in bootcamp stay strong and patient. Keep busy and write lots of letters and keep a diary. send him pictures and tell him how everything is going. Dont worry about him, as long as he can swim and do what he is told he will make it through. Its just distance and silence that is the hardest. My fiance is my best friend (really only friend) and hes been gone for a year now on the other side of the country. Come March I will have seen him a month total days. Stay strong dear and wait for him. Doors close so new ones can open.