Real Life Romeo And Juliett Story...need Advice :(I met him in High School, and since then we were inseparable. Our parents did not know that we were together, because it was against my religion, and it was against his culture. His father and mother expected him to marry an Indian girl, and my parents expected me to marry a Muslim. After a while of being together, my parents found out, and lets just say, things went ugly. I was told that I should never see him again. When I went to school, I just cried in his arms the whole entire day. Then the summer came, and I wanted to see him. So, we snuck out late at night, and spent the entire night together. However, one day, I came back to find that my window was locked, and they found out that I had snuck out. I did not know where to go, so I just went to his home. They knew I was with him, and I was really scared. So was he, since he was hiding me in his home without his parents knowing. Eventually, my parents filed a police report, and I had to go home. I got in ALOT of trouble, and eventually, they just let it go.
He started college, and realized he could not pay for it. He started working at an electronic store, so he could pay for his tuition and books. However, that took lots of time away that should have been put into studying. His parents are rich, however, they are very cheap. His grades suffered, although I tried to help him. For the next year we were completely head over heels in love. Also, obviously our parents did not know. My parents thought that I had broken up with him. But, I would never have done that.
In September of 2012, he took me out to a fancy dinner, told me to order whatever I wanted, and held me in his arms, and told me how our future would be like. He even gave me a little gift. I felt like I was the luckiest girl on Earth. I honestly could not ask for a better man in my life. Anyways, later that night, he told me that he enlisted into the Navy, and that I should move on. Out of know where, he became the biggest d*** ever. For a whole month, I would beg him to stay, and cry, and he would just push me away, and tell me that he hated me. That one month was hell, because I wasn't used to him being that mean. Eventually we met up, and he just cried in my arms, telling me that he was trying to make me hate him. I cried as well, because I felt that I was going to lose him forever.
Months went by, and I have barely slept. He is the only one that understands me. When I'm having a bad day, he somehow makes it amazing. When I'm mad at him, within 10 minutes, he makes me laugh. Now, there are flaws in every relationship. He had gone to raves without telling me, went to events with a girl who used to be his prom date (I couldn't go to prom, so he asked if he could take someone else.), however, the good outweighs the bad. He has never cheated on me. He barely hugs girls. So I know that for a fact. Overall, he's a pretty good guy.
Tomorrow I'm saying goodbye to him before he leaves to boot-camp, and he's proposing to me. I found out that he was. He never told me, but I'm very good at finding things out. I obviously want to marry him, but I'm scared. We are going to be cut off from family. My family will not accept me, neither will his. I am also at the "marriage stage" in my culture, and he knows that. I know I will not be able to go to sleep tonight. I don't want him to go :( He's my best friend. I've been crying non-stop. How do I cope with this? Please, Navy girlfriends/fiances, give me advice. I would really appreciate it :/