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I had down on my Yahoo messenger status "Property of a USN Sailor" and boy did that cause a lot of grief.

I had several friends message me about how I 'wasn't the type of girl to be a property of anyone.'

And no one seemed to get it.

When I first started my relationship with my Sailor, he was already in the USN. We had known each other in college and for one reason or another we could never date, but we liked each other. The opportunity came up, and instead of waste it, we both jumped on it.

It was hard at first for me to get the support. Everyone was like 'he's in the Navy,' 'he's so far away,' 'how will you get it to work?'
And then those friends who found out who it was with, and both knew him and I, suddenly supported me.
And now luckily I have the support of everyone around me.

You know I may not have a traditional relationship. But I have a special one.

I give up my man for long periods of time so our country can be safe. While you are with yours please remember that.

I get phone calls, text messages, emails... you get to hold his hand, get kisses and hugs. I kiss over Skype, or send a message of a kiss. You get mad cause he's five minutes late, I never know when he will call. You count the times he has done something wrong and I count down the days until I see him. You cherish what you have because one day it will be gone. But I will hold onto mine forever.
yourangelawaits yourangelawaits 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2010

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One time he called... I was at my best friends house with another friend of ours. He called and I jumped up, took off running down the hallway talking to up, up the stairs... woke up the best friend's husband (he's a trucker and works early in the morning)... ran into their closet, shut the door and talked for what seemed like three hours. I came back out and went downstairs to the two of them laughing at me asking me what it felt like to be 16 again.



My dad was in the AirForce and went civie in the Navy. So I have that breed into me.



Which is why when my guy (Kevin) asked me if I was sure I could do this, my answer was yes. And I even took a deep breath and said in 3 years when if you want to re-enlist I will be the first person standing beside you.



Because I have children from previous relationships Kevin and I cannot be together until my oldest is 18. It is too hard for me to move out of state right now. But the plan is once Kevin docks in Norfolk that I come and see him every other weekend.



We both know the odds are against us. This is something we talked about, something we each thought about long and hard. Truth be told I trusted him long before we started our relationship, not just trusted him personally but trusted him with my life. I have not only the support of my close friends, but the support of us (which are mutual friends we did go to the same college).



Funny part is, one of my friends who I consider a brother, is having a hard time. I offered to let him move in with me until he got up on his feet (even though with my kids and myself it will be tight). I was telling Kevin and Kevin was like, I don't care, I trust you. And he then said, it's not like I can complain I've got 80 guys as roommates here. I laughed so hard.



He has liberty on Friday. And he told me, truth be told I'll have a drink. I said truth be told I am going out Friday and Saturday I have a birthday party.



He never once asked me to give up my life, never once expected it. Knows I have things to do and I can't just drop everything for him. But ooh when he calls I do. I ran out of class the other day when he called, cause you just don't know when the next time will be. And even if it is a half hour while he's shoving food in your face you spend that half hour catching him up on things you've done things that are going on.



I so can't wait until the day I can say "I told you so."



But right now I will take the day of, "why do you look so happy, so healthy." I smile even bigger and I say I have a sailor that loves me.

Former navy here...it can be hard and even downright frustrating at times. Truth told, the odds are against you. But while you have it, hold on to it, nurture it, be proud of it! If it lasts, then how much fun will it be when you get to say "I told you so"! :)

I just texted my guy and asked if he still had his boot camp dog tags. We were just friends while he was in boot camp and A school. So I didn't have to fret then. But yes it is a lifestyle.





Yes, I am focusing 100% on. And I love how all of my friends who complain don't have a relationship.



They don't understand that when my phone rings and it's his ringtone I jump up, walk away and take his call. They can hear me giggling and talking. But then when I return they are like boy you jump for him. And it's like, well I don't know when the next time he'll call.



But this is why I joined, so I could have more support. Thanks!!!

If you go to my photos you will see dog tags, I can't sleep and just made them. I change change it if you like just message me and let me know