So It Begins

My boyfriend left for basic training Aug. 3. It had to be one of the worst days I've ever experienced. It's difficult being separated from my best friend. For weeks I couldn't imagine him not being by my side, but the other night I finally faced reality. I went to sleep with a head full of wishes and woke up alone. Does this feeling ever go away, or at least get better, because I know this is just the beginning...?
daydreamer3310 daydreamer3310
18-21
2 Responses Aug 4, 2010

Now mind you, my sailor and I were just friends while he was in boot camp and A school. We didn't start dating until he transfered to his ship. <br />
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But I can tell you... he tells me to text him all the time. That he might not be able to respond, but he likes to look down when he can sneak a peek, or catch up on them later. And every now and again I get a response back, but sometimes I have no clue which text he is responding too lol (we need to work on that). <br />
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My first letter I sent to him was a joke. Back while we were still in college together I had a stalker and he would say it was me. That he would stand out my window. So the whole letter was basically an apology and sorry I called the cops on the times that he would stand outside my window. That during last winter I didn't realize how much I missed the sound of his chattering teeth and finding his hand print on my window. And then I included a pair of my underwear ( sexiest ones I had) and said that these were his favorite and he would have it (of course he never seen 'em lol).<br />
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Well I wrote that letter not just for him. But for all the guys around him. So if he read it out loud (and he only has to close friends) that they could all laugh about it. Because there are some guys out there that don't get letters. <br />
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I leave him voicemails, encouraging voicemails to lift his spirits up. That I am proud of him. And not to let the other guys get him down. That now the 80 some guys he births with are not just sailors, even friends... they are his family. And you have to be there for one of your family because in the middle of night when something goes wrong it is those 80 some guys there for you. And he does a great job of remembering that.<br />
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I write letters, emails and text messages. But I can tell you hands down a letter is better. My sailor doesn't get to check his email often. And the ship's email is monitored so WHATEVER you send to the Navy email account will be read by EVERYONE in his command. So keep it clean.<br />
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Get some kind of a counter. I started this and it has helped. Cause when I am stressed and he hears it in my voice he asks 'how many days babe' (cause he knows I do this). And I tell him how many days, hours, minutes and seconds it is until I see him. <br />
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In fact I have 22 days until I fly to BFE Maine. He asked if I wanted to stay on base in the hotel, I said I didn't care. Now once you get on base you can't leave cause you need your sailor to get you back on. And his base is closing so it's kinda boring. So be prepared for that. Be prepared to get "bored."<br />
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And just go by these words "in the end it will be worth it." That is something I repeat to myself every day. <br />
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Save every voicemail. Save everything. In the darkest of moments I pull up his voicemails (even the drunk ones) and listen to him. Listen to the "I love you's." I have every single picture he sent me in text. <br />
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Sometimes it's about the little things in life. Cherish those little things.

yes it does get better when you get ur first letter and ur first phone call it gets better. when you get ur first letter it will give you something to hold onto from him. Just keep in mind they keep the guys really busy so the only time they get to write is when they are supposed to be sleeping so dont get to up set if you dont get letters all the time but keep writing him every chance you get he lives for the letters you send him to get him though boot camp and believe me from what i hear from other girls if you keep busy these 8 weeks will fly right by and you will be on ur way to great lakes b 4 u know it<br />
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hope this helps<br />
chels