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Advice Please!

My boyfriend just left for Great Lakes this Tuesday. I live with his mom and stepdad, because I don't have another place to stay. Other places would put me in bad situations I'd rather avoid entirely. I was faced with reality today when his stepdad told me that I needed to be cutting hair and getting food stamps. I've been trying and look for jobs. I don't think he realizes how difficult it is to live in an area that doesn't have public transportation and it being +100F outside makes it nearly impossible to walk several miles to anywhere. 

I don't have anyone to talk to after my boyfriend left. Well, so I thought. I got on the ever- so- amazing Facebook and chatted with my older sister, who is currently serving in the Air Force. My older brother is also in the Air Force, and my dad served in the Army... does military run in my blood??? So her and I started talking about what's best...

Would joining the Navy Reserves be a good idea? I''m not entirely sure of the PRO's and CON's of it, and how it would affect my relationship... PLEASE HELP! (sorry for any rambling. I'm just really stressing out.)
daydreamer3310 daydreamer3310 18-21 3 Responses Aug 5, 2010

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I do have to say, that my boyfriend knows I am in a financial crunch. I've been looking for a job, but yeah it's hard. But NEVER once did he say join the Navy. He gave me ideas where I could look (we went to same college) but never once did he say join the Navy, nor the reserves. He did offer to send me money, and I said no... he needs it more than I do.<br />
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I do not live that far from Great Lakes. I think it's a 2 1/2 3 hour drive. <br />
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You will be able to get through this. You have all of us to talk to as well ;-)

Yes that helps a lot. Thank you. I think if I did write to him and tell him about this, he would ultimately say what you said... make sure this is what I really want. I spent a few hours reading online, calling and texting people for as much on it, and it's not something I want. It's very nice to know I'm not alone. Thank you again.

My fiancee is currently in the reserves right now, it is a very hard process. When he signed up they told him what is job would be and told him that he would be leaving for 7 months of training and he would be home. he is currently over at camp pendlton for the last phase of his training and will be home in september but and by the time he actually gets home he will have been gone almost a year. Sorry for rambling just wanted to give you some background, I was going through a similar sitouation and considered joining as well, but desided against it. I think that if you and your sailor have a strong relationship then you will be able to get through it no matter how long or where your training takes you. The only thing is that you make sure that this is something that you really want before making the decision. Try talking to your guy if you can that always helps me out even when i cant talk to him much. I dont know if that helped or was just a bunch of ramble but keep your head up and make sure that you are making a choice that is yours and what is going to be good for you and your sailor as well.