Its Really Starting The Wear Me Down :(

He's going for Gunnersmate. It's not as stressful as most of the jobs. So it makes it a little easier for us to talk through his schooling.

oh haha that probably makes it a little easier not having to go all over the place, My boyfriend goes to South Carolina next.

What his job gunna be???

He's still in great lakes for A school (;

thank you :) yea i talked to his mom and I guess he had said he wouldnt be able to write till this week, I wish i had known that sooner haha.

Thanks for the info, Ive been in a better mood lately, so hopefully it stays good :)

And yea I cant wait till I start getting letters :)

Where is your boyfriend now???

They're only allowed to write on sundays and holidays and there whole division affects when they can call. If one guy screws up it pretty much ruins it for the whole division. If they do really good on an inspection or something they get phone calls.



If you have any questions feel free to message me (:

I didn't get my first letters until about half way through the 3rd week he was gone. After that they started coming every week only one day a week, towards the end I got a few random ones on different days and all together I only talked to him on the phone twice. It was really hard, but once the letters start coming in regularly it gets a lot easier. My only advice? Stay strong haha. You can do it. After a month or so it gets a lot easier.

Thanks ladies :) I'm trying to stay more positive and throwing myself into things like school and what not that dont remind me of him... I just wish I knew something... and tomorrow would be our one year anniversary so that will probably hurt :/... I'm getting there though, slowly but it will happen. Does their job or anything like that affect when they can send letters and call or whatever???

I live in Cali too. Usually letters took 5-7 days to get to me. But usually, they would all come on the same days. So Tuesdays & Thursdays were my favorite days. I know, it's really hard, and everyone will always tell you to stay busy. The one thing that helped me was that everytime I missed my sailor, I wrote him a letter, or a short note. Sometimes 2-3 a day!



It's worse when you wait by the mailbox though, I learned not to do that, and only waited on days when I knew I'd get something in the mail. I got my first letter 17 days after my sailor left, so soon enough, you should hear from him.



Believe it or not, it gets easier with time & allowing yourself to live your life.



If you need any more advice, don't be afraid to hit me up!



Best wishes.

I also tried to stay busy, it did help for sure but it also made me think, "This would be so much more fun if he was here.." Everything I did reminded me of him because we got to spend just about every day together for 6 months before he left for bootcamp. We've been together almost 15 months now so it's easier but I still have to stay busy. The longer you're with him and the Navy the more used to things you'll get. Just don't give up!

Keeping busy is the best idea, BUT you still will think of him constantly. I battle with it everyday. Sometimes it hurts so much. Its only been a month since ive seen my bf, but I wont be seeing him until June now. I dont know how it is going to work, but I am just waiting to see. I started to date my BF when he was on a two week leave, so its like everytime we are apart now, i feel like our relationship is on pause. It sucks even more because we both dont like to talk on the phone, but when I do call him he wont pick up lol. Kinda weird...but I guess he just needs to only think about school... :/ it kills me to think about it.



As your friends are complaining about their bf's just remember they are going through their own stresses of being in a relationship. Everyone has their own things to worry about. I do understand what you are saying though..it is so annoying to hear someone hasnt seen their boyfriend in 3 days.. where we go for months on end without seeing our boyfriends.. it hurts sooo much. One of my best friends is married to a navy man, but they are seperated and she is seeing other people (they got married for money and because they were yong and stupid). She is skeptical about my relationship, and I have come to the conclusion i cant talk to her about my worries cause she knows what I am going through, but I think she is a little jealous. I dont know. It is difficult to find a happy median when talking to friends.



Just know that if they didnt love us, they would of ended it already! Thats what I have to tell myself haha

I'm trying to keep my head up, and every time i get the mail I just keep thinking maybe tomorrow... It just really sucks :( And today has just been worse then most :(... I'm trying to be strong and hopeful, its just getting hard to keep my head up when I feel like I'm constantly on the verge of tears :(

Thanks for the advice though... Ill keep trying

Oh my gosh I'm so sorry everything hasn't been great for you! The only advice I know to give is to just keep counting down the days until you see him. We only got 40 left! Were almost a month in. I'm sure he's trying his hardest to be able to give you something. If he got to write today he's sending out his letters today so I would def check the mail on Wed or Thurs.

As for your friends I know it's frustrating that they do that. My best friend does or it's either his sister telling me i have it easy cause her husband is on deployment. You just have to keep your head up and know that your a million times stronger than all your friends because I bet they couldnt do what you are if theyre complaining their man is gone a week. Just keep thinking your gonna get something and when you do your gonna be so happy. It'll make time pass a lot faster!