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Deployment?

So I've been a navy girlfriend for almost a year now. Looking back I still can't believe that this is how my life has turned out. Wes and I have known each other since we were 17. At 19 he joined the Navy and was shipped to Japan until this past December when he transferred to Virginia. At 19 I was not ready to be a Navy girlfriend. I know in my heart I couldn't have done it then. Now, at 23 I feel like I'm better prepared. I have a job that could possibly be a career one day and a boyfriend who loves me unconditionally.

Until recently I have been flying by the seat of my pants with this whole thing. I knew i wouldn't see very much of him. I was prepared for that. What i was unprepared for was the unknown. I can never have concrete plans with him. Things change in an instant. He can call me tomorrow and say he's not coming home this weekend because they're going underway. I've had ten months to get used to that, so that doesn't bother me.

What's been bothering me lately is I feel like I'm running out of time. I have it almost down to a science as to when I will see him again. Which has been a blessing for my sanity, let me tell you. However, Wes gets deployed in March. So all of those weekends I know i will get to see him are down to a handful. I'm having a lot of trouble coming to grips with it for some reason. Since we've been together the longest I've went without seeing him has been around 45 days. But I can't help having this feeling like it's not enough time for me.

I have no idea what to expect and no one to really talk to. Like the rest of you there's no friends who can relate to my situation. I live in Ohio, there's not a lot of Navy girlfriends where I live. I personally don't know any. I'm just having trouble. I am having trouble with him leaving and being gone for seven months without a hope of seeing him. I just really don't know what to do so any words of encouragement or wisdom would be greatly appreciated!
asee0122 asee0122 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2011

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I feel the same way. I live in Michigan and I feel like I have noone to talk to. I've tried talking to my friend who introduced me to my sailor through her navy boyfriend but since they broke up she has been bitter about every time I even mention my sailor. She tries to tell me that I don't have a right to be upset because I knew getting in to the relationship that he wouldn't always be around but knowing that doesn't help. You just have to keep going and remember that every day you make it through is one day closer to the next time you will be together, even if you don't know when that is.