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I Am a Navy Girlfriend

Coping Methods

By: blueblanket
Written on November 5th, 2011
So I don't know the next time I will see my boyfriend :( The last time I saw him was in September, I cannot go see him cause of money issues and that sucks of course. He's always tired and we talk everyday but it's starting to get to me. We've gone longer periods without seeing each other but sometimes I avoid going out with friends cause I really don't feel like being around couples. Obviously I will be okay it just really sucks cause I would trade anything just to get a day or an hour. What are your guys best coping methods on missing your boyfriends esspecially when they are so tired they are sleeping more or busy so you don't talk as much (that makes me grumpy cause it makes me feel like he doesn't want to talk but then I remind myself he works all the time) ?
By: blueblanket
Age: 18-21 , Female
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  • blueblanket
    blueblanket

    My friends understand and respect my situation but it's hard for me to be around couples. I can handle it but it makes me really sad even though my boyfriend and I don't go out out really cause he's a homebody and esspecially since he's gone a lot he spends a lot of time with his family. He went to bootcamp in 09 it was hard but now it's like a different hard cause I've seen him at least once a month since he's been in. When he stays a few days it's the hardest cause you get used to it like he never left and then he has to leave again. I don't go to the gym but I do work out some and I do focus on that.

    Nov 9, 2011
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  • cheerpear
    cheerpear

    I work out a lot more now than I used too. The gym really is a great place to get out some stress. This past week has been pretty tough, and I've been going to the gym almost every day. It just helps, ya know? Plus, you have that added bonus of "Wow, I'm going to look so good when I next see my sailor!" ;) Also, writing letters to my boyfriend helped A LOT! You don't want to be Debby Downer in them, but it really does make you feel better to get out everything you're feeling on paper and sending it to them. And once you get all of the things that are bothering you out of your system, you can focus on the good things, like how excited you are to see each other, and what you do every day, and how much you're thinking about him. Letters were definitely my therapy during bootcamp.

    Nov 8, 2011
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  • kenzie1115
    kenzie1115

    Honestly I think my best friend is what gets me through most of the sadness! All of my friends are coupled up as well, but it really helps getting out and having fun with them, yes it makes me miss my boyfriend, but it makes you have a good time, and all of my friends, especially there boyfriends, are very protective of me when we go out and have so much respect for me, because I'm waiting for my boyfriend! I'm very busy so I have a lot of focus on school & work, and then of course hanging out with friends, so I would find something that works for you, whether it's diving into school & work or it's writing in a journal to get your feelings out, or the gym as hheidilee said! It's all in what works for you, but I definitely wouldn't shy away from hanging out with your friends, because you deserve some fun too! Stay strong girl!

    Nov 6, 2011
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